Honey, the way it seems, if you'd continue your relationship with this man, he would make you a really depressed, perhaps abused woman. I can see why he got offended if you did keep telling him that you were buying him dinner, but that does not give him a right to complain the whole time or be so mean to you. I'm glad that you've been strong and not gotten back with him. Stay strong honey and thank God that you got out of that one in time :)
Daisy, you say you don't want to be alone but you ARE alone. Just because a man is physically available doesn't mean he's emotionally available. You might have someone to sit with at dinner, but that's all. You still don't have the specialness that makes a relationship tick. That's not your fault. This one just isn't *the* one. That has NOTHING to do with you - it's all his issue.
Believe me, there are guys out there, stuck with difficult girls, wondering whether is they leave, will they ever meet a nice girl that they can be with. You know, the kind of guys who will smile *with* you because he knows you worked hard to afford a nice meal, and won't feel threatened or punish you for doing well in your life. There are great guys out there, who once you get to know them, STAY sweet and caring (it's not just a temporary phase). They won't jerk you around or make you drive an extra block just to show that - even though you have money - they're still in control.
The only catch is meeting a great guy takes time, and usually happens after some disappointment. But that's because, like you, they're rare. So it takes a little chance and some luck meeting them. When it happens, you'll know what you were missing from this guy with no hard feelings. Good luck!
Daisy, sometimes guys get in some kind of a pissy mood, and don't seem all that happy.
But for him to say that to you loudly in a restaurant, something is gravely wrong with him boyfriend-wise.
If that was the only thing he ever did that seemed off, I'd still think that was enough. As it is, he's always whizzed off about something.
What do you like about him? I hate him already and I've never met the guy. I bet people at the other tables haven't forgotten that scene, you trying to placate, him being an a*hole.
Good riddance to bad trash, I say.
I'll copy and paste my last comment again below (you obviously didn't read that part):
"Not saying I think you do, just wondering if his perspective of you could be very different than your perspective of you. It sounds like you still should not be in a relationship with this guy regardless--just giving you something to think about."
Obvious a case of he's wrong, you didn't do anything wrong within the relationship. However, what you DID do wrong is choose poorly. Especially if this isn't the first time you've chosen this type of guy.
All the best to you.
"its not always up to him to pay!"
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Says him (and you listened)
I never understood women who pay for dates and its not just because I am alot older than you because even when I was your age, some of my friends paid for their boyfriend or would go half. I always told them they were off their rocker.
You said you are afraid of being alone, but there are plenty of good men out there and no reason for you to be alone, but let a man be a man and let him pay for dinners and things like that. Maybe thats why he seemed to resent you that night. If he is going thru hard times with money, so that his ego doesn't get hurt by you paying, you could have made a nice candle light dinner or something. And if he's NOT going thru hard times job wise or whatever - there is no reason for you to pay. You are creating a monster. I'm serious. Next you'll be feeding him grapes. I'm good to my husband, but when we were dating the only time I paid for his dinner was his birthday. Once you get married its all one pot - so thats different, but break them in right! Yep, I know cheap men hate to hear things like this -but real men and women that aren't libbers would agree - maybe. Well doesn't matter if no one agrees. I wouldn't be with a man who expects me to pay for anything period.
I'm not saying this to offend you, but don't buy a mans love. It won't work. Men like a challenge. There are so many women that will fall all over a man - dime a dozen, let a man pursue you, not you him.
This is the type of guy that everything that does not go his way will be your fault. I am guessing that you are already contemplating taking him back. Arent you? Come on, be honest!