Just broke up

[Daisy884]

Me and my boyfriend broke up on Friday on our 1 year anniversary.  He gets mad quite a lot.  And so this day, I was buying dinner for our anniversary, and the first thing he says when he walks in the door is "My car is out of gas, you'll have to drive"....so I tease him and say "Oh, you are making me pay for dinner ANd drive...just kidding!" and I give him a kiss.  So we get in the car and start going downtown, I park in free parking where we would have to walk a little ways to the restaurant, he starts complaining saying he wants to just get out of the car and go into the restaurant, he doesn't want to walk.  so I tell him, stop complaining, I'm trying to do something nice for you and buy you dinner.  So I move and pay for parking so we don't have to walk as far.  Then he starts complaining saying I should've told him to bring a jacket since its so cold (its winter, wouldn't he know himself?)  So i tell him again, please stop complaining, I'm buying you dinner you should be a little more appreciative of me!  So he tells me that I rub it in his face that I'm buying him things and he doesn't want ANYTHING from me anymore.  I tell him I was trying to say that he should just be more appreciative and not be mean.  We are at the resturant and he orders a water  (this is usually a dr pepper) and he ignores me, I try to talk to him, and ask him what's wrong and how I'm feeling...nothing.  So I ask him why he isn't listening to me...he says he doesn't wanna talk to me.  I tell him I can't be treated like this.  The waiter comes out and I order my meal, he says he doesn't want anything....well he loves steak so I tell the waiter to bring him out a steak and my ex says that he rreally doesn't want it and to not bring it out.  I ask my ex whats wrong, and by this time I was really upset....he just started playing with his straw....so i told him he can't treat me like this and if he's even listening to me.....nothing.....so, i know this was wrong, but I pinched his cheek a little harder than i intended to get his attention, that made him really mad!  So he gets up in the middle of the restaurant and says really loud "GET YOUR HANDS OFF ME YOU FU**IN B**CH" and he walks out!  So that is what broke us up.  I'm just making sure that IS a good reason to break up???  He does have very touchy feelings and gets mad over the smallest thing!  I'm just so in love with him...and I don't know if I'm just scared to be alone and that's why i want him back so bad, or if it was a stupid reason to break up with him?

[Daisy884]

Thanks!  You are making me feel so much better!  I was thinking of getting back with him today...mistake.  I didn't live with him, luckily.  

[BabyHardiman]

Did you live with him?

[AHP84]

Jeez, what an immature jerk!
I wouldn't have even driven him back home to his car; I would have left his stupid, coat-less rear end in the cold to get a taxi to get back to his car with an empty tank of gas.

A good reason to break up?! Heck yes! He whined and complained like a baby even when you did all you could to, like GRose said, salvage the date and show him compassion amidst his 10 year old girl-like tantrum. Then he lost his temper and shouted a humiliating insult at you in front of tons of people, not to mention the awkwardness both you and the waitor must have felt at him refusing to order and eat and making an argument with you about it. Seriously!
You deserve a man that has a maturity level beyond a 10 year old girl's, along with respect, decency, and appreciation for you.

[Daisy884]

Thank you!!!  It just makes me feel better knowing I did the right thing.  Sometimes I think that he wasn't "that rude" just because I love him.  But from the outside looking in...its nice to know what other people see of it.

[GRose]

Wow, I just looked at your age, you are 23? So I am guessing that he is around the same age?
I don't think you need anyone to justify your break up as long as you think it is a good reason but.....since you asked. Yes, I think it is a good reason, he was basically throwing a tantrum, when  I read this post I though I was reading one of a 16 year old based on how he acted throughout the attempted date. Even when he was being a jerk you were trying your hardest to salvage the date and he STILL managed to ruin it.
I still don't understand why he couldn't have just filled his tank up on the way to the restaurant. Not at all justifying his behavior but I think he was feeling really small since his girlfriend was driving and paying for dinner but if that is the case he should have done something about it.