Just broke up

[Daisy884]

Me and my boyfriend broke up on Friday on our 1 year anniversary.  He gets mad quite a lot.  And so this day, I was buying dinner for our anniversary, and the first thing he says when he walks in the door is "My car is out of gas, you'll have to drive"....so I tease him and say "Oh, you are making me pay for dinner ANd drive...just kidding!" and I give him a kiss.  So we get in the car and start going downtown, I park in free parking where we would have to walk a little ways to the restaurant, he starts complaining saying he wants to just get out of the car and go into the restaurant, he doesn't want to walk.  so I tell him, stop complaining, I'm trying to do something nice for you and buy you dinner.  So I move and pay for parking so we don't have to walk as far.  Then he starts complaining saying I should've told him to bring a jacket since its so cold (its winter, wouldn't he know himself?)  So i tell him again, please stop complaining, I'm buying you dinner you should be a little more appreciative of me!  So he tells me that I rub it in his face that I'm buying him things and he doesn't want ANYTHING from me anymore.  I tell him I was trying to say that he should just be more appreciative and not be mean.  We are at the resturant and he orders a water  (this is usually a dr pepper) and he ignores me, I try to talk to him, and ask him what's wrong and how I'm feeling...nothing.  So I ask him why he isn't listening to me...he says he doesn't wanna talk to me.  I tell him I can't be treated like this.  The waiter comes out and I order my meal, he says he doesn't want anything....well he loves steak so I tell the waiter to bring him out a steak and my ex says that he rreally doesn't want it and to not bring it out.  I ask my ex whats wrong, and by this time I was really upset....he just started playing with his straw....so i told him he can't treat me like this and if he's even listening to me.....nothing.....so, i know this was wrong, but I pinched his cheek a little harder than i intended to get his attention, that made him really mad!  So he gets up in the middle of the restaurant and says really loud "GET YOUR HANDS OFF ME YOU FU**IN B**CH" and he walks out!  So that is what broke us up.  I'm just making sure that IS a good reason to break up???  He does have very touchy feelings and gets mad over the smallest thing!  I'm just so in love with him...and I don't know if I'm just scared to be alone and that's why i want him back so bad, or if it was a stupid reason to break up with him?

[Daisy884]

Thanks so much!!  And its good to hear from other people that are going through the same thing.  Its so hard to be strong!  He always texts, trying to be so nice, so i think he's changed...but he hasn't.  I'm sorry to hear about your breakup!

[lazyleggs]

Definitely good enough reasons to break up with him. I am also going through a difficult breakup right now (also at our 1 year point) and it's like I keep trying to convince myself that maybe it is actually better to be with him instead of without him.. But NO. Be strong! You deserve better!  And seriously, in all honesty, I also thought I was reading a post from a 16 year old! His behavior is ridiculous and embarassing. Time will help, but you should stay strong and move on!

[Daisy884]

NO..pinching his face is NOT common, I know it was wrong, but he wasn't listening to me, he wouldn't even look at me!  I barely pinched him, i didn't squeeze his cheek.  AND NO!!!!  I don't buy him things to control him!!  Where would you even get that!?  I hardley ever buy him anything!  I bought him dinner twice last week, so what?  We had been dating a year, its not always up to him to pay!  I have never tried to control him!

[Agiesmom]

Is this the same guy you broke up with in June?

Sounds like you'll be better off without him.  That said, is it possible that your perspective of your part in this relationship is inaccurate or slanted?  Could it be possible that his perspective of you is very different than your perspective of you?  Just wondering if pinching his face like that is common or if you buy things to control him or perhaps how you say things isn't how he hears them?  Not saying I think you do, just wondering if his perspective of you could be very different than your perspective of you.  It sounds like you still should not be in a relationship with this guy regardless--just giving you something to think about.

[Daisy884]

Thank you!  I hope that its soon!

[mami1323]

You will, you always feel like that but then you move on and eventually meet someone new that you start developing those feelings for.  It takes time but your situation is still fresh.  You need to give it a chance.  It is hard but you will see as time goes by it gets easier.