What is his deal? What should I do?

[doo81]

I started seeing this guy last summer and it didn’t work out. I decided to leave him alone because he never took me out anywhere and every time I would make a suggestion, he would say “ok” then later cancel with some lame excuse. At first I was ok with it a few times because he had two jobs (at the time) and a son who he had to take care of. But then it became a reoccurring thing with him. When he would come over sometimes it was like the conversations seemed to go nowhere or they led to him complimenting on my body or something sexual. That or he couldn’t look me in the eye to hold a simple conversation.
One day he invited me over his house and I thought “ok this is a good thing; I can meet his friends and family.” No one was home at the time. About 15 minutes later his mom stopped by and I could tell by the look on his face that he was not happy about that. He introduced his mother to me; but because of his demeanor, it just felt awkward but I was not about to let him see that on my face.
All in all I was through. I just decided to cut him off and not respond to his calls or texts. I know doing that was like a child holding her breath but I was tired of feeling underappreciated. Couple of days passed and he kind of wormed by his way back in by constantly texting and calling me. This time when I spoke to him on the phone, I told him that I needed some time to think and made the suggestion to get together so we could talk (stupid). He said that he had a short day at work tomorrow, and that he would pick me up at 12 so we could talk more. I said ok.
He text me in the morning and asked about my day, that he missed me(all that crap), asked what time I was working till, and then said that he would be at work all day until 5 almost like he forgot . I got angry. I and told him forget it and then I just basically unloaded on him.  I know it sounds mean because sometimes things like this happen. People have to work late sometimes. But him and I have been seeing one another for a YEAR and we have not gone out not one time! I told him about the way he treats me, his excuses, all of his B.S. His response was “I didn’t say that we were not going to go out at all today.” No apology nothing was it. I said never mind and deleted his phone number and just left him alone. I didn’t hear from like him for two or three days (thank goodness). Then that’s when he started calling and texting me. I didn’t respond. He continued to text and call (still didn’t respond) asking if I was ignoring him. Or he would send a text that would say “hey boo” or “I love you “or “good morning”. None of this makes sense to me it’s been a month since I’ve responded to his calls and texts, you would think that by now he would get the picture that I’m not interested. Why is he doing this? What should I do? Should I continue to ignore him? I would like to know what is his game is.

[Londres70]

"The thing that was so odd was that he would not stop calling and texting after I chose to leave him alone..It was like he didn't get the picture..".......Hon, that's the thing about players; they want to be the one to "end" things when they are good and ready and/or their egos get a bit bruised when they can't keep stringing a woman along.    

You are SO much better and above this.  

[ROSYouralright]

I'm so glad you had the strength to tell him to kick rocks!! YOU DESERVE SO MUCH BETTER and life is simply to short to be miserable and unhappy  

[doo81]

The thing that was so odd was that he would not stop calling and texting after I chose to leave him alone..It was like he didn't get the picture..
Well he did now that I think about it because if he was serious about making a change and choosing to be a better person, he would have done so or started with an apology or some type of proof that he was willing to change..
No he is just a persistent person when it comes to being a player.Kinda sad when you think about it. If only people like that used their works for good. Thanks for the advice Londres

[doo81]

Hammer right on the nail...You are 100% right. Thanks for helping me keep things in perspective.

[doo81]

He's not married official but something tells me that he is with the mother of his child and it wouldn't surprise me if he was with other women too. It's sad because he is selfish and hurting many people along the way. I'm just glad that I stuck with my gut and had some great advice along the way( thank you) to keep me on the right track. His actions spoke louder that his words.

[doo81]

You are absolutely right. He is not worth my time.Thanks for the advice!

[doo81]

Thank you Blu for the comment, it has really helped me out..He texts me a couple of times, but I don't respond. Plus I just have much to say to him..
Thanks again Blu

[ROSYouralright]

LOVE, true love, is ALOT more about ACTION than WORDS... WORDS without ACTION isn't all that great is it? I TOTALLY AGREE WITH BLU!! HE SOUNDS VERY VERY MARRIED..,,

[Londres70]

I am sorry dear......this is no relationship but "booty calls" and he pretty much tells you what he wants you to hear, i.e. "I love you" and "Miss you boo."

Sounds like a player, i.e. womanizer, and he is up to no good.

[Life360_Dave]

Hi also, when a person loves someone things like this dont happen.

[ROSYouralright]

Never make someone your priority when they simply treat u like an option. Life is to short and you deserve so much more. Are u sure he isn't married?

[TTinKKerBBell]

You've had a whole year of this guy not meeting Your expectations. Don't let it matter His "game" - You already know how He "plays".  I would lose Him if I were You.
Leave YourSelf available to meet SomeOne more worth Your time.
GoodLuck

[BluCrystal]

This behavior stinks of a married guy cheating on his wife.  Of course, I could be wrong.  Either way, I would leave this guy at the curb.  Blessings - Blu