I need advice.
Please go easy on me, this is really difficult. I know it may sound ridiculous or some people may not understand, but please have some sympathy. I need a friend right now.
My husband and I have been together for 4 years. We just recently had a baby, about a year ago.
My husband has lied and kept things from me ever since I can remember. He slowly got better with it, and at one point I remember everything was fine, or so it seemed.
After we got married, and while I was pregnant, I accidentally found out that he slept with someone I severely dislike. He knew that I knew her when we first started dating because it was his best friend's sister. Also, our mutual friend dated this girl (while my husband slept with her, by the way... which makes this worse)
I was completely hurt. I know it is in no way any of my business. It just hurts a lot. I can't stand this girl, before any of this, even before I met my husband. He slept with her a month before we met.
I just can't believe that he didn't mention it to me a long time ago, or if he didn't want to at all, that would've been WAY better than me finding out years later.
I have no idea what to do. Like I said, I am SO hurt over this that it eats me up. I think about it constantly. It has destroyed sex for me. I can't believe my husband was such a fool.
Now, another thing I think is the problem is that our relationship had problems previous to this. Along with lying and secrets, we had a lot of other issues as well.
I do not feel loved all of the time anymore, I do not feel respected or like I am special to him.
I believe this may be an underlying issue as to why I am having such a hard time getting over this.
But it's just getting worse. Before I was at least trying to fake wanting sex. Now, I can't even do that.
I need thus image out of my head. I need to reconnect with my husband.
Please, help.