Should I be upset that my boyfriend watches webcams?

[catorizor]

Hi, My bf lives out of state and I know he watches porn and webcams. I am not sure if he chats live with the girls on webcam, but if he did that would be too far. I don't think he does, I think he just likes to see webcams. I feel lonely a lot and want to ask him more about it, but I am afraid he'll get mad. He likes to have his private life and it is making it kind of hard for me. I want to know if any of you think webcams are worse than porn. I have come to accept the porn, but the webcams are causing my heart to race. I just want to accept it and be ok with it, but it is hard when I just think about it on my own. I would love some feed back on what you think is ok. I know it is not cheating, but it kinda feels like it is. I want to say to him, 'I want to strip for a camera, i'm hot and have a great body, and it's going to waste while you look at other girls strip. would you like it if i stripped for other men?' I don't know what to do, i feel shakey, jittery, i just don't want to mess up a good thing. we laugh, have great and fun conversations, he has had a tremendously positive impact on my life. I just want to accept him and love him for who he is, but i feel so lonely sometimes and just wish he wanted to see me naked more and other girls less. please tell me what he does is ok and why, or tell me why not, please just tell me something. thanks in advance for any feedback

[penswriter]

ask him. if he has nothing to hide he'll be straight with you. if he gets mad it's probably b/c he's been lying to you.

if he truly loved you no matter how far away he is he would not be watching webcams or looking at porn.

[mami1323]

He may be an introvert as far as not actually physically being intimate with these women but a webcam is more personal than watching a porn movie. He actually interacts with these women. This is a real problem.

[catorizor]

omg, i thing u may be right, there's my heart again, damn it, i had it under control. what if he is? how am i supposed to ask him without him lying?!

[catorizor]

you have a point, my friend even says he flips things around on me when we talk, it's hard to make him not flip it and me not be wrong, so i don't know hpw to tell him anything without that happening

[penswriter]

oh he is taking you for a ride!!! you HONESTLY don't think he's having cyber sex with these women on their webcams??? and obviously if he's watching strange women on them he likes people and isn't as introverted as he's leading you to believe.

[mami1323]

Thanks Judy :) are you sure this is how you truly feel or is your bf telling you what he thinks you need to be doing?