advice

[sperodawn]

I have a friend named jazmine. she been asking me advice about a guy she love and that guy got married to a girl ti get a green card. she doenst know what to do with the situation bc the guy told her that after he get his papers hes gonna leave the girl. i dont know what to tell her bc she loves him a lot and she still hoping. i really want to help her please help me.

[Londres70]

Well, tell her this......if he can use his "wife" then he is capable of using her.  He has already shown his character LOUD and CLEAR.  

[specialmom]

Hi there.  Honestly, I'd give your friend some tough love.   She is longing for a guy that uses someone for a green card.  And has a side thing with her while marrying this other person.  He's obviously a creep.  Why would she be longing to be with a creep?  This says to me tha she herself has got something unhealthy going on emotionally that she has such low standards for herself.  She can't find a man without all that baggage??  Well, she really does need to try.  Leave that guy alone and his wife is what you should tell her.

I had a friend once that said she loved a married man.  She lived about an hour and a half from me and came to visit for a weekend.  I had no idea about the married man until that visit and that was all she talked about. She called that man's house from my apartment at 11 at night and hung up when his wife answered!  I was so disgusted.  When she packed up to go in the morning----  I flat out told her that I had no respect for what she was doing and she could call me when she stopped doing it.  Not until then because I didn't want to talk to her when she was pursuing a married man.  Six months later she called, we resumed our friendship.  but I have zero respect for anyone that chases a married man even if I'm friends with them.  good luck

[TTinKKerBBell]

ditto Annie Brooke!!

"IF She were to "Magically" wind up married to this guy, She would be  married to a man who will "Cheat" to get what he wants and is Willing to hurt Her to get it".    Ditto, Ditto, Ditto!!

If he loves Your Friend, why didn't he marry HER  instead - wouldn't he still get his green card ??

[AnnieBrooke]

I don't know if anyone (i.e., you) can tell someone something and cause her to stop hoping for someone else to love her.  I would possibly try saying to her that if she were to magically wind up married to this guy, she would have to live with the fact that she is married to a man who will (if the prize is something he desires) cheat to get it and overlook another person he is personally willing to hurt to get it.