saying she's pregnant but i think she's lying

[wcc963]

I supposedly got this girl that i was with for a very short time pregnant back in January according to her. I'm 22 and she's 21. She said she didn't want it and had already scheduled an abortion for the following week. We were on good terms then and we were communicating through text during the week and the process of the abortion because I couldn't be in attendance. She told me how she was feeling like crap and bleeding out cause of the pills she was given. She then mentioned that she had the Nuvaring put in, which through my research they will not put in if the woman is pregnant so I don't know if she lied to me about all that.

some background on her, all of this comes from talking to her over the past 3 months or so. she is 21, has a 2yo son that she had from a marriage when she was 18. she was dating a guy at her work about a year ago but only for about a month according to her, but they continued to fool around for a long time after that. she got pregnant from him and had an abortion. but is still in contact with him and spends a lot of time with him. she says she has slept with 25 guys in her life

We had a fight the other day, i called her some colorful names and she all of a sudden brought it up saying she never got the abortion and is still pregnant and claims its mine. When I asked her to get a paternity test to prove that the child is mine she refused, and has continued to refuse. she would be 9 weeks along now. She is telling me she doesn’t want me in her life at all and barely answers my questions through text. I have talked to my mother and a few close friends who know her as well, they all think she's lying. I have save our most recent texting session, nothing before that though :/

if you need/want any extra info or clarity please let me know

[wcc963]

What about the 2 months 1 week... How does that work timeline wise?

[wcc963]

I see your point and respect your view on this subject. Yes most people today, even some from the past generations, will probably see your view as "old fashion" but the truth is your right. Accidental pregnancies happen much much more in todays society than in the past. But it is what it is, times change and if I get out of this with or without children I will be adopting that old style. This has scared me enough that I never want to go through this again.

The reason I'm obsessing over this is because if you haven't worked out yet I'm no where near emotionally or financially ready to have one kid let alone two. I'm just scared for myself and for the kids, I woldn be able to support them by myself but wouldn't feel right abandoning them with her crazy ***.

[Londres70]

It will be interesting to know how this will turn out.  

[TTinKKerBBell]

OMGolly wcc963!!  

The way You have "obsessed" over this is more than a LITTLE "unreal" for a Guy who is "willing" to have sex with an insignificant someone - when Pregnancy is ALWAYS a possibility (underline ALWAYS!!).

I still say - You ought to stop having "Sex" UNTIL You are ready to accept what can result from having "Sex".  "Sex" (Personally I prefer to call it "making love" with SomeOne You are in Love WITH) is initially "meant" for creation (i.e. sperm and egg meet and sometimes they Merge to Create Life) - the "feel good" part is a BONUS and meant for Us to share with Significant Others Who We would be "okay" with and if ,in fact, a Pregnancy should result.  Don't "practice" making Babies with SomeOne You don't want to make a Baby with!!

Masturbation was "created" for Good, Solid Reason: as Masturbation is ALWAYS "safe"

STD's and other sexual diseases were "created" 'cuz We were not not meant to "sleep around" and have "casual" "sex".

Initially, We were meant to hold sex as a "sacred" Expression of Love and as a way to Create Life.  (Babies happen!!)

I know I sound "old fashioned" to You - but, I would bet that "sex" (lovemaking) is much more meaningful and satisfying when One doesn't share this MOST intimate act with UNsignificant others.

I say this in all sincerity.  (and I hope She is NOT pregnant)

[RockRose]

I'll wait to hear what her parents say.  Honestly,  I think that's the best thing in the world you could do - either 1.  she's pregnant and telling the honest truth or 2.  now her parents will know she's a manipulative liar.  

Either way,  you'll know tonight.

I'll pop the popcorn.  

[wcc963]

She just texted me today saying she had an appointment today, heard their heartbeats... She said she's 2 months and 1 day today 3/15/13