Some advice pls

[Worried1278]

Hi would u plz help in giving me info about tests i should do after my exposure it happened in september i gave him oral and we rubbed our genitals for few mins ( 2mins maybe) i tested for hiv, hep.b&c and syphilis ( rapid tests ) which came back negative .i’m having back pain till now and i’ve been noticing some white watery discharge ( NO itching or pain when urinating ).

[auntiejessi]

Did you receive oral? If you did, it's possible you have NGU - I'm assuming you're male as well. If you aren't a male, it could be bacterial vaginosis.

When you see this discharge, is it happening on it's own, or are you squeezing your penis to get it? If you have to squeeze your penis to see it, it's not an STD discharge.

With back pain, you might also have a urinary tract infection. Have you see a doctor?

[Worried1278]

No dear i’m a female and didn’t receive oral only rubbing he tried to enter only his tip but i stopped him since i’m still virgin . I went to a gyno he said i’m fine and dnt need testing since no penetration occured it’s been this happened almost 5 months ago i’ve been anxious and always stressed even my period became irregular ( it was regular ) and sometimes it takes longer time a keep seeing brown discharge till day 10 ( my gyno said it’s normal ) i’m really confused  

[auntiejessi]

STDs don't affect your cycle, so if it's irregular, it could be stress, or another condition that should be addressed with your gyno.

If you see a discharge till day 10, and then it stops, that's not an STD. An STD discharge would be continuous throughout the month.

I agree with your doctor. You really don't have anything to worry about here. Have you talked to anyone - your doctor, a counselor - about your anxiety?

[Worried1278]

Thanks for ur quick response i really appreciate it . I talked to both my gyno who said after checking my area and doing an ultra sound that everything is normal and no testing needed and i went twice over a psycho. Anyhow yes my brown discharge stops at day 10 and my gyno said it’s an old blood which stays longer ( but my concern is that my periods starts taking that long since the incident ) and through out the month i have white discharge but no bad smell ( dunno maybe it’s normal ) and last thing i’m noticing that sometimes my urine is darker than normal especially the 1st one ( morning ) sorry for writing alot but any info would help me . Thank u so much ❤️

[auntiejessi]

Urine color is mostly affected by food or what you drink, or if you're dehydrated. When it's darker, make sure you drink more water.

https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/urine-color/symptoms-causes/syc-20367333

[Worried1278]

Thanks auntie jessi but the link isn’t opening . Sry for asking too many questions but where i live i can’t ask anyone , sex out of marriage in all it’s types is a taboo in my country . My last question what do u think about me giving him oral ( just remembered i swallowed them once by mistake ) his last sexual intercourse was 2 and a half year ago and he was only tested for hiv and hep.b ( negative ) few weeks ago he had pain and maybe blood while urinating so he did sperm test everything was fine except for leucocytes (2-3) which mean there’s inflammation. I dunno anything about him now since we were engaged and we broke up a week ago .concerning my back pain it started after incident (rubbing) by 2 weeks and still till now

[auntiejessi]

You have to copy and paste the link.

2-3 leukocytes is within a normal range, and nothing to worry about.

If you had gotten anything from giving him oral sex, your symptoms would be oral. It wouldn't affect your urine.

Your doctor says you're fine, and your partner's tests are fine. You really don't have anything to worry about.

[Worried1278]

Hi auntie in case i want to test just to ease my mind what should i test for ?

[auntiejessi]

I don't know how to answer this, because any test you take is unnecessary.

I guess you could test for gonorrhea, chlamydia, yeast, bacterial vaginosis and trich. It's totally unneeded, and really, a waste of your time, money and the doctor's time. Honestly, and I say this with kindness and compassion, put that money in to some therapy to help with your anxiety instead.

[Worried1278]

Thank u so much untie i’m planning to get tested  in few weeks my last tests for hiv ‘ hep.B and syphilis were in 17 jan. (2 weeks ago) i got flu 10 days after my tests and still till now whenever i take a test to ease my mind i get more symptoms maybe for (hiv) i’m really confused ana can’t live normal life since that f. Incident .

[auntiejessi]

If you are getting sick after testing, which scientifically, has to be a coincidence, then don't test again, maybe?
It's cold and flu season - it's not surprising that you got the flu. It has nothing to do with the testing.

You don't need any of these tests. You had no risk for HIV, so whatever symptoms you have aren't because of HIV.

What you need, in my opinion, is some help for anxiety. Your mental health is just as important as your physical health. I say this with compassion, not criticism. Really, get some help and feel better.