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Anal sex... bad news bears?
My boyfriend and I are toying with the idea of experimenting with anal sex. Before each other, we both seemed pretty adamant about NOT doing it, but we're becoming a little curious together because our sex life is off-the-charts. A lot of our friends have tried it, and we've gotten some positive feedback (my friends especially seem to love it... i didn't realize it was so good for women)... but we've also heard some horror stories about women basically crapping everywhere. This is what frightens me most. He is a patient man, so I know he'll be gentle, and we've already discussed the ideas of lots of lubrication, condoms, and going very slow (so if you're going to respond about STDs and diseases, please refrain). I'm literally okay with the idea of having anal sex because I love him very much, but I am not okay with the idea of projectile pooping all over the place, including on him. He is also none too thrilled about this aspect. You just don't take dumps on people you love. Our friends are all saying that it doesn't really happen that way, but I don't know-- I've heard some horrible things. I also haven't found anything in my research about this, but the fear of him or myself coming into contact with my fecal matter is pretty unnerving.
If anyone can give me some insight, I'd greatly apreciate it.
If anyone can give me some insight, I'd greatly apreciate it.
Hey,
My only advice for you would be, listen to Clara, lol. She seems to have a pretty good grasp on what you need to know / need to do. I would although recommend that you disregard some other comments.
Its clear this is something you and your partner are both interested in, so by all means, go ahead and experiment. Anal can definitely be kind of awkward, and even sometimes dangerous to your health if the proper precautions aren't taken. It's up to you, what you want to do, and don't be afraid of doing serious permanent damage. Just take things slowly, until you know what feels right and what you like, and everything should be smooth sailing!
My only advice for you would be, listen to Clara, lol. She seems to have a pretty good grasp on what you need to know / need to do. I would although recommend that you disregard some other comments.
Its clear this is something you and your partner are both interested in, so by all means, go ahead and experiment. Anal can definitely be kind of awkward, and even sometimes dangerous to your health if the proper precautions aren't taken. It's up to you, what you want to do, and don't be afraid of doing serious permanent damage. Just take things slowly, until you know what feels right and what you like, and everything should be smooth sailing!
Clara has plenty of advice, but I must admit, my wife has never bothered with an enema or d-ouche before anal (it's always been to spur-of-the-moment for that much planning!). Never really had a problem.
Get him to slip a lubed finger inside you before he moves onto the penis - easier to start with something thin.
We've never had any problems of any sort following anal sex, beyond a little soreness that wears off soon enough (and doesn't seem enough to disturb sleep).
I've read that, after anal, he shouldn't go back to vaginal (in the same session), to avoid introducing any infection to your vagina, which I guess makes sense. I have also heard that you shouldn't go from vaginal to anal either, to avoid getting a yeast infection in the anus, but that's not been a problem for us ever. I guess if he got a new condom between one and the other that wouldn't be a problem anyway.
Get him to slip a lubed finger inside you before he moves onto the penis - easier to start with something thin.
We've never had any problems of any sort following anal sex, beyond a little soreness that wears off soon enough (and doesn't seem enough to disturb sleep).
I've read that, after anal, he shouldn't go back to vaginal (in the same session), to avoid introducing any infection to your vagina, which I guess makes sense. I have also heard that you shouldn't go from vaginal to anal either, to avoid getting a yeast infection in the anus, but that's not been a problem for us ever. I guess if he got a new condom between one and the other that wouldn't be a problem anyway.
All you need to know is:
1) It helps to defecate before the deed. It reduces pressure in your intestines, and it will insure that you don't "**** everywhere".
2) Lubricate EVERYTHING. It will make it more comfortable for you, and make sure that you don't tear anything.
3) Go Slow! Ease the penis in, making sure not to force it. If your partner forces his penis in, it can tear your rectum and cause bleeding. It will also increse the pleasure.
4) Make sure that if you get too uncomfortable, or something starts to hurt, that you can trust your partner to pull out and give you a break.
5) Make sure he uses a condom. You don't want any feces getting into his urethra, it can cause an infection.
6) Relax. You need to be relaxed so your rectum doesn't spasm.
I hope that helps! Good luck. Let me know how everything turns out.
1) It helps to defecate before the deed. It reduces pressure in your intestines, and it will insure that you don't "**** everywhere".
2) Lubricate EVERYTHING. It will make it more comfortable for you, and make sure that you don't tear anything.
3) Go Slow! Ease the penis in, making sure not to force it. If your partner forces his penis in, it can tear your rectum and cause bleeding. It will also increse the pleasure.
4) Make sure that if you get too uncomfortable, or something starts to hurt, that you can trust your partner to pull out and give you a break.
5) Make sure he uses a condom. You don't want any feces getting into his urethra, it can cause an infection.
6) Relax. You need to be relaxed so your rectum doesn't spasm.
I hope that helps! Good luck. Let me know how everything turns out.
you said "I'm literally okay with the idea of having anal sex because I love him very much.." dont have anal just because its what HE wants beacuse thats what it sounds like your talking about.
anal sex is VERY VERY bad for you...not him but you. it can tear the inside and you will then be the one having loose bowels and then yes you would have your fear come true.
no anal sex will not cause you to have explosive poop during. poop before hand and if you think you are going to have to poop after sex (anytime, mins, hours etc) anal would then not be the thing to do because he will wind up with poop on his penis.
i dont advise you doing it. its not good for you, your body, or your bowels
anal sex is VERY VERY bad for you...not him but you. it can tear the inside and you will then be the one having loose bowels and then yes you would have your fear come true.
no anal sex will not cause you to have explosive poop during. poop before hand and if you think you are going to have to poop after sex (anytime, mins, hours etc) anal would then not be the thing to do because he will wind up with poop on his penis.
i dont advise you doing it. its not good for you, your body, or your bowels
I know where your coming from on this. it was my concern too.
Few ideas. Read up on all of these and see what suits you, theres pros and cons to all of them of course.
First figure out your regular cycle when going no.2. that works best to know when your likely to be empty. Make sure your empty before have anal, thisll stop major poop episodes!
secondly, wash out - to stop any little bits appearing use an enema or a d-ouche to spray up inside and rinse out. its not pleasant to do but will ensure cleanliness. This will make things a little dry and ungreasy so use more lube - also you an never ever have too much lube with anal!
thirdly, if you wanna check, use a lightly soaped finger and push into your anus to check the passage. to be honest, this will hurt a few times until you get use to checking and again can be unpleasant but you will know for sure if your guy will hit solid during sex. if its clear you will have a super poop free session.
Also, make a pact that you will undergo cleansing, ie, enema but if anything appears he's to keep it to himself and not tell you. I did this with my partner as i always worry about it and i fear the embarrassment. He just gets up and wipes with a baby wipe or sex toy wipe right away so i wont feel bad, then cuddle and wash before bed. Before let yourself relax with a bath etc, this will help with cleansing too!
I wouldnt recommend laxitives as itll change your cycle and could make things more sensitive and loose. But anal is good and fun. just take your time, enjoy it and stop if it starts to hurt, pull out, relax then try again. it can take a while to get it right.
Have fun!
Few ideas. Read up on all of these and see what suits you, theres pros and cons to all of them of course.
First figure out your regular cycle when going no.2. that works best to know when your likely to be empty. Make sure your empty before have anal, thisll stop major poop episodes!
secondly, wash out - to stop any little bits appearing use an enema or a d-ouche to spray up inside and rinse out. its not pleasant to do but will ensure cleanliness. This will make things a little dry and ungreasy so use more lube - also you an never ever have too much lube with anal!
thirdly, if you wanna check, use a lightly soaped finger and push into your anus to check the passage. to be honest, this will hurt a few times until you get use to checking and again can be unpleasant but you will know for sure if your guy will hit solid during sex. if its clear you will have a super poop free session.
Also, make a pact that you will undergo cleansing, ie, enema but if anything appears he's to keep it to himself and not tell you. I did this with my partner as i always worry about it and i fear the embarrassment. He just gets up and wipes with a baby wipe or sex toy wipe right away so i wont feel bad, then cuddle and wash before bed. Before let yourself relax with a bath etc, this will help with cleansing too!
I wouldnt recommend laxitives as itll change your cycle and could make things more sensitive and loose. But anal is good and fun. just take your time, enjoy it and stop if it starts to hurt, pull out, relax then try again. it can take a while to get it right.
Have fun!
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