This is very strange

[Vermillion]

I'm not sure if anyone will be able to answer this for me since it seems very odd, but it's worth a shot. Often when I go to sleep, I do or say very weird or hostile things that I have no memory of. At first I didn't think much of it, because it started off as just attacking people if they tried to wake me up, and that seemed pretty normal. (although it's weird because I'm not an angry/hostile person AT ALL so if I was aware of my actions I'd never do that). And then it turned into me talking to people while I'm asleep. And it was even stranger because they couldn't even tell I was asleep, I seemed fully of aware of who I was talking to and why, yet the things I said were very hostile and weren't what I would've meant to say at all.

For example..... many times, my mom tried to wake me for dinner and I would scream at her "I'M NOT HUNGRY. LEAVE ME ALONE. GO AWAY. I DON'T WANT ANY FREAKIN DINNER."  Well.... the odd thing about that is that I always DID want dinner. Half the time I specifically told someone to wake me for dinner. So then I wake up all confused like "Why did no one wake me? I'm so hungry." and they just give me a blank look because they thought I was awake.

Then a stranger thing was just a few weeks ago. I put a fan on my bedside table because it was getting really hot some nights. Well I haven't even needed it at all because so far this has been a very cool summer in comparison to past years. But 2 or 3 nights.... I went to bed and it was plenty cold because the window was open, so of course I didn't have the fan on. But then I'd wake up 3 hours later shivering wondering why it was so cold and then freak out when I realized the fan was ON. I had to move it out of my reach so I'd quit turning it on while I was asleep....

This behavior in my sleep is so different from my waking self (in fact probably completely opposite) that I joke around nervously that maybe I have a split personality. It's very doubtful I think but it's a scary thought because when I go to sleep, I always stay asleep for 12-15 hours. So I joke that maybe the reason I'm out for so long is because during part of that time, rather than being asleep, I'm really awake as someone else.

Well that's probably pretty farfetched  XD  but if anyone has some real answers as to why I act this way in my sleep, I'd much appreciate them.

Thnx,

Vermillion

[KatEyes]

Recently on the news a college student who had a history of sleepwalking was found over a mile from her apartment at about 2:30am on the side of an exit ramp being raped by an older mentally ill man in full view of passing traffic and the police were called. It was doubtful they could even charge him with rape because there was no recollection of how it started and thus no evidence it wasn't consentual.

Normally I would avoid the dramatic, but it is so important to take it seriously. My father cut his hands badly when he put his fist thru a window near the bed. Another time my young brother was sleeping beside him and he picked my brother up by the head and slung him over his back, dreaming it was a sack he was carrying. Another time he was getting the bullets to his shotgun to shoot my brother and me, thinking we were intruders. When my brother was weeks old, my father had him dressed and in the stroller going out the door "to the park" when mom woke up when she heard the front door. If your incidents are escalating, who knows where they could go?

I would expect a doctor to order an overnight sleep study on you. If they don't, and only want to prescribe meds, I'd get a different doctor. I'll never know if my father's behaviors were independent of other issues. No one talked about sleep disorders back then. But in retrospect I know he had bad sleep apnea. I wonder if his poor brain was so tramatized by years of oxygen deprivation at night that some of his bad dreams were a result of the sleep apnea. In this day and age, I would hope there could be some help for you.

[Vermillion]

Yeah.... it does seem dangerous. Many times I've woken up with bruises, and my best friend said she witnessed me violently smash my wrist into the wall while I was asleep at her house. I'm not that concerned about it though since the bruises are minor and I'm fairly sure I don't actually fully leave the bed at any point. Mostly I'm just tired of people getting angry at me for how I treat them while I'm sleeping, which obviously isn't my fault as I have no recollection of it whatsoever. My sleep has always seemed highly disturbed. I know I've been a sleep talker for a very long time, and in recent years had very vivid violent nightmares, and also (though I didn't believe it at the time) a few people have told me I was screaming my head off in the middle of the night while I was sleeping. I'm 18 years old so I feel way too old to be having these kind of sleep issues. >_>

Vermillion

[KatEyes]

It seems to me both you and Karen's husband need to be under the care of a good sleep doctor - maybe even better a sleep neurologist. While my sleep doc is a pulmonologist, I'm lucky that they are really up on other areas of sleep besides just apnea.

Behaviors in one's sleep can be dangerous. My father was like that, and it's a miracle no one ended up permanently hurt.

I think the first thing to do is have a sleep study to see exactly what sleep disorders can be identified.

[GixerBoy]

Hi there,

I'm new to this so bear with me!   I'm afraid I can't help you but I can relate to it!

My husband has had serious sleep problems for years!  I could go on forever about it but would bore you all silly I'm sure.   Anyway, my husband can sometimes go days without being able to sleep at all, and then he will reach the point of complete exhaustion and will just sleep/collapse wherever he happens to be sat, stood whatever it doesn't matter, he will just crash!   He's at that stage now, he is currently asleep on the floor in the bedroom.   I have tried to move him to get him into bed, and I can't move him without assistance, and he won't help because he's at that "stage" where nothing he says makes any sense at all.

He is talking complete nonsense, nothing makes sense when I try and tell him that I just want to get him into bed.   When he's at this stage he's a danger to himself and everyone around him.   I mean I have been out this evening, and came back about an hour ago to find the front door wide open and my husband asleep on the bedroom floor.   He has no memory at all of opening the door and insists that he didn't do it.  Well, I shut the door when I left, and there was no one else in the house except him!  So who else opened it? the dog????

Sorry guys to go on, but to be honest I am at my wits end with this, I love my husband dearly and want to help but I just don't know how.

Just for the record (another issue entirely) he has health issues too, he has osteroporsis and has troubling even standing and is in pain constantly even with taking loads my prescribed drugs, I'm sure that doesn't help with his sleeping.

Anyway, thanks for listening guys.

Karen