Fear of loved ones dying

[Lily21]

Hi all,
I'm new here but i thought id give this a try and see if anyone has any suggestions. I am 26 years old and as long as i can remember i have always STRESSED out about my familys well being. I know i can't control what happens but i see that now as i am getting older i stress about my family and loved ones dying on a daily basis. I know it might sound weird but you have no idea how bad this can get unless you go through what i go through everyday. It's getting to a point that i have panic attacks here n there. I am extremely close to my mother, father and sister and just the thought of them not being here scares me. I know this is a serious problem becuase i can't let go of it and i have tried over the years but the thought runs through my mind constantly. I was on anti depressants for a few months a couple years ago but decided to stop taking them. Does anyone have any suggestions? I want to enjoy the days i have with them right now and i dont want to waste time thinking of things that may or may not happen soon but i just can't stop on my own.

[Brianchan123]

I feel the same way. I am now sharing a room with my dad and when I imagine one day that he wasn't beside me or close to me, I break down and and cry. I tried everything to solve my problem I tried family talks, reading the bible, praying but all of them failed. I just want to stop this. I don't understand why. When I try to forget it something tells me that if I don't think about this now , I would have to think about this in the future. It keeps telling me that eventually I have to this about that. I always thought that the way I could prevent feeling pain is to die before they do. I am also afraid that I one day lose my grandfather who is 71 which is more scarier since he is older and less stronger

[Ethan_13]

Hi All,

the same thing happens with me too,
and this is going on for quite sometime now.
To add to it this thing is getting worse day by day, for ex: even if i am buying something.
I select may b a dress and suddenly a bad thought of someone close to me dying flashes and i leave that dress and buy something which does not remind me or flash any bad memory.

Things are getting worse day by day, please help if anyone can

[JD1982]

Hello , I dont know if anyone else has this happening to them...I see my family drive off after i say good bye and a have a mental image appears ... for example as i watch my  wife, parents , sisters or inlaws .. pull  out of a drive way or drive off down the street turning a cnr i would get this visual image (like a video) playing in my head seeing them being collected by another car or truck or if im driving thru a intersection on a stale green light..  I  visualize going thru and having some one t-bone me .... does any one have the same thing happen to them .... i dread these images ... I never have dreams about this and only happens when i am awake and see them drive off ... and i say G*d forbid because i worried it will now happen because i thought about it

[Stacey_80]

I understand how you feel as we all fear that. But you must also remember that you have a life to live and a responsibility to be the best person you can be. Death is inevitable and we will all go through it. Worrying about it would only be a waste of time as it is something that we won't be able to control. Instead, make the best of your time with all your love ones.

[shivers63]

I used to have dreams about my kids dying, then I found out what that dream meant, it meant that I have a very close relationship with my kids. I dont have those kinds of dreams anymore.

Try listening to some relaxation music,  it does help.
good luck to you all. And if any of you would like to add me to your friends list please do so

[Dylan56]

Nice to not feel alone. I've been this way since birth and at least for me it has gotten better (to a degree). I remember being 5 or 6 and getting up at 6am everyday for months on end continuously yelling to my father " I love you, I love you" as he'd drive off to work just in case I never saw him again.
     I do have OCD and this does contribute to the problem and is also part of the reason I've never really been able to create and keep long term relationships and friendships. I'm now 38 and have pretty much spent the past 20 years by myself slowly losing contact with any friends I once had. Don't get me wrong I do love my family (probably too much) but have found it to be safer for my sanity to not get too close to anyone.
     This can be a lonely existance for some and I wouldn't recommend it to anyone else. I have found it has worked for me in the past but barely. Recently I have been feeling like I am missing out on too much life has to offer and am gradually taking steps to mend relationships I have let slip away.
     Feel bad for my parents as my two brothers are just like me though I can feel a change coming soon ( I hope).