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To Shaz
I hope respite went well. I thought I better type out that stuff I promised I would before I forgot again.
1. Acknowledge a feeling
2. Identify the feeling
3. What's the feeling about.
Child self Adult self
Reacts (I need) -past (Intense) Responds (I want/ would like) -now (calm)
What, when, where, who, how
I feel
4. Validate the feeling (permission)
It's OK to feel x, y, z
5. Practical intervention
6. Integration
7. Growth
1. Acknowledge a feeling
2. Identify the feeling
3. What's the feeling about.
Child self Adult self
Reacts (I need) -past (Intense) Responds (I want/ would like) -now (calm)
What, when, where, who, how
I feel
4. Validate the feeling (permission)
It's OK to feel x, y, z
5. Practical intervention
6. Integration
7. Growth
I think respite scares me because i am argraphobic and being away from home with no escape route scares me then i take panic attacks and i hate panicking away from home. I panic more at night because its quiet and i can't get home.
No, i won't have support with the police this time as they are coming to my home so i can show them where it happened incase it goes to court.
I talked to my partner last night and told him how his behaviour was stressing me even more which in turn was stressing him more then, so we both agreed to try harder he said he will try to think before he speaks, i do see it from his point of view and i told him that but i also told him that i really need him to be strong for me and i never ask him for much i try to be as normal as possible. I had a calm day today well when i mean calm i mean not as depressed but very anxious i don't know which is worse depression or anxiety. I suppose in a way i have listened to my therapist because i have taken control of the situation with my partner and talked to him but i feel i still have a long way to go. I also feel like i have failed myself a lot and it makes it worse maybe try to focus on what you do for yourself that is good, i know at times its hard though when we get so angry and down and frustrated.
I hope it goes well at the doctors and try not to feel too bad about the run i know thats easier said than done though.
Hope you had a good day.
No, i won't have support with the police this time as they are coming to my home so i can show them where it happened incase it goes to court.
I talked to my partner last night and told him how his behaviour was stressing me even more which in turn was stressing him more then, so we both agreed to try harder he said he will try to think before he speaks, i do see it from his point of view and i told him that but i also told him that i really need him to be strong for me and i never ask him for much i try to be as normal as possible. I had a calm day today well when i mean calm i mean not as depressed but very anxious i don't know which is worse depression or anxiety. I suppose in a way i have listened to my therapist because i have taken control of the situation with my partner and talked to him but i feel i still have a long way to go. I also feel like i have failed myself a lot and it makes it worse maybe try to focus on what you do for yourself that is good, i know at times its hard though when we get so angry and down and frustrated.
I hope it goes well at the doctors and try not to feel too bad about the run i know thats easier said than done though.
Hope you had a good day.
That's good that you can access respite next week. Also great that you are talking to people. Lowering your defenses may make you feel more vulnerable but if you do it with the right people (T, social worker, etc) it should help.
It can sometimes take a bit to feel settled in a new place. That also can affect sleep.
Going home might help you feel less claustrophobic. You could play it by ear.
Sounds stressful. I hate it when people treat me as being stupid because I have mental health issues. Someone once asked me who was looking after me. Like, hello, I'm an adult. Maybe a sick one in need of support but if the mhs did their job I wouldn't be in this situation.
Be strong. Don't let others make you feel ashamed of yourself or your actions. Stick to the facts. Try not to be too judgmental of others. Just be normal. Try to stay calm. Do lots of deep breathing if necessary. Do you have a support person this time? Maybe you could ask for one to be present if that would help.
Me? Tired, stressed a bit angry and frustrated. I think I'm getting really stressed because the review is taking so long to organize. I would have expected an appointment time long before now (even if the appointment were in two months time). The stress has been triggering stuff from my past especially around the time I was unwell so that has been difficult to deal with. Have been self-medicating with food which isn't helping. Also feel a bit disappointed in myself for sabotaging my efforts. That run that I was planning to do is next weekend. My GP has entered the triathlon part of it. Just frustrated by all my failures. Which I wonder would have taken place if I have had had support.
Being tired can leave us feeling vulnerable. Maybe you need to change the dynamics with your partner. Have you tried to find out where he is coming from? What he is thinking and feeling. What he feels he needs.
You're not stupid. Others do care for you too. A lot of others just lack the ability to show it. I care if that helps.
What about respite scares you? The perceived lack of control? The food? =)
It is only a small part of your recovery. Use it, take advantage of it. It is only one of many stepping stones towards wellness.
Things are OK here. Looking forward to seeing my GP on Wednesday.
It can sometimes take a bit to feel settled in a new place. That also can affect sleep.
Going home might help you feel less claustrophobic. You could play it by ear.
Sounds stressful. I hate it when people treat me as being stupid because I have mental health issues. Someone once asked me who was looking after me. Like, hello, I'm an adult. Maybe a sick one in need of support but if the mhs did their job I wouldn't be in this situation.
Be strong. Don't let others make you feel ashamed of yourself or your actions. Stick to the facts. Try not to be too judgmental of others. Just be normal. Try to stay calm. Do lots of deep breathing if necessary. Do you have a support person this time? Maybe you could ask for one to be present if that would help.
Me? Tired, stressed a bit angry and frustrated. I think I'm getting really stressed because the review is taking so long to organize. I would have expected an appointment time long before now (even if the appointment were in two months time). The stress has been triggering stuff from my past especially around the time I was unwell so that has been difficult to deal with. Have been self-medicating with food which isn't helping. Also feel a bit disappointed in myself for sabotaging my efforts. That run that I was planning to do is next weekend. My GP has entered the triathlon part of it. Just frustrated by all my failures. Which I wonder would have taken place if I have had had support.
Being tired can leave us feeling vulnerable. Maybe you need to change the dynamics with your partner. Have you tried to find out where he is coming from? What he is thinking and feeling. What he feels he needs.
You're not stupid. Others do care for you too. A lot of others just lack the ability to show it. I care if that helps.
What about respite scares you? The perceived lack of control? The food? =)
It is only a small part of your recovery. Use it, take advantage of it. It is only one of many stepping stones towards wellness.
Things are OK here. Looking forward to seeing my GP on Wednesday.
Thankyou for that its really interesting. The respite went ok apart from the panic attack i took that night i still find it really hard being away from home i just wanted to come home when i panicked i talked to the staff not something i would normally do and the fact of just talking about it helped, i didn't sleep well either which didn't help. My social worker came on Friday and we talked for a long time she seems to understand me well and she said she can see my defenses dropping a bit, she has booked me in for two nights this week as both her and my therapist are off all week she thought it might help i can come home on Thursday during the day though and go back that evening. The police are also coming to see me this week ,i reported an incident to them last autumn and they are coming to ask more questions and stuff, i found their attitude to the whole incident very unhelpful so much so that my therapist wrote a letter of complaint to them so now even the thought of them makes me nervous, i think because they know i have a therapist they treated me like i was stupid and were very rude to me luckily in the interview a social worker was present because i am classed as a vulnerable adult the social worker backed me up in saying how they treated me was wrong, so that stresses me too.
How have things been with you?
I am still so tired the stress of respite tires me and i am so emotional its unbelieveable, and my partner and i fight all the time, i have tried talking to him but he doesn't listen he treats me like i'm stupid too as for my parents they don't care for me full stop, i get upset that the only people who care for me are strangers my social worker and my therapist. My social worker thought it would be good to have two nights this week as they are of and she knows how stressed things are at home. I really need to relax more at respite this week otherwise it defeats the purpose, the staff are nice and its in a nice setting but i get so scared if i could see it as my home for that time it might help. Thanks for the information, i hope all is well with you.
How have things been with you?
I am still so tired the stress of respite tires me and i am so emotional its unbelieveable, and my partner and i fight all the time, i have tried talking to him but he doesn't listen he treats me like i'm stupid too as for my parents they don't care for me full stop, i get upset that the only people who care for me are strangers my social worker and my therapist. My social worker thought it would be good to have two nights this week as they are of and she knows how stressed things are at home. I really need to relax more at respite this week otherwise it defeats the purpose, the staff are nice and its in a nice setting but i get so scared if i could see it as my home for that time it might help. Thanks for the information, i hope all is well with you.
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