Help Who is the father

[RCLMA]

I slept with another guy on October 7th and based on my ultrasound I am now 10 weeks and 1 day pregnant. I just need clarify things cause I want this to be my partners child. I am ashamed for what I did and told him about it and still accepts me.

[ppowb]

Agreed. Your last period was at the beginning of October with ovulation and sex in the middle of October causing pregnancy. October 7th was too early in your cycle to result in pregnancy.

[AnnieBrooke]

Are you aware that when the doctor's office gives you a count in weeks, they start the count on the first day of your last period, not on the day you conceived? (BTW, you have a good partner.)  

[AnnieBrooke]

Meaning, if your GA is 10w1d today (December 13), you conceived October 17. The sex on October 7 wouldn't affect anything. (Though, if it was unprotected, do get all the STD tests for your sake and for your partner's.)

[RCLMA]

I think the doctor gave me the date base on the ultrasound result cause I am not sure when my LMP was.

[RCLMA]

Yeah  I had a good partner and I am ashamed of what I did to him specially that he never done things like I did even if even he has more opportunity on his travels. The guilt will always remain in me, that's why I want this child to be his.

[AnnieBrooke]

One thing you did right was to tell him. The worst is when a woman keeps everything a secret. If the guy learns later (and in this day and age of DNA testing, he will ultimately learn) it's worlds worse the longer she didn't fess up. He not only has to cope with being unhappy that the woman had sex with someone else, but add to it, she then lied (by omission) every day to him after that. When a couple copes with infidelity, especially if there is genuine remorse, the lies are what add the real insult to the injury. Being told the truth will shock the guy once, but a lot of guys are big enough to accept it as a one-time mistake. But it doesn't feel like a one-time mistake if the woman has had lots of chances to tell him what she did, and each time, she kept quiet. Then each lost chance is a new lie. Given that you did the wrong thing initially, you did the right thing after that. And maybe your guy thinks so too. Your way to atone for having sex with Mr. Wrong is to make your guy the happiest daddy in the world now and forever, and give him no reason to ever doubt you again. That will turn your mistake into something good comes from.