why people that suposie to love you

[krisnile]

Treat you like I've done something wrong all the time, why is that?¿? We can have a great day, then the next I can't do nothing write!!!! We been together off and on 8 months...his got a good heart but he just don't trust me...I haven't gave him any reason not too...I've quit talking to everybody I use too, I keep telling him if u don't or can't trust me this want work!!!! My question is why r men so smothering? And have trust problem's? Help

[msdelight]

Kris as you know you are in the fight of your life, for your life right now. The fact that he is focused on HIS issues right now, tells me he is not the man for you. You must be absolutely focused on you and your battle right now. You must be super positive and remove from your life ALL toxic people. A man worth marrying would be making you laugh, showering you with love and holding you up as you fight, because he would be scared senseless that the good Lord could so easily take you any day. And where the heck does he think you could possibly be going in your current state all messed up on chemo?  It's uber ridiculous! This is the type of narcissistic toxic behavior that makes cancer cells grow and believe me I speak from experience here. The answer to your question is it's because he is not the right guy. Period. Your life is on the line.

[saspan]

trust issues are deepseeded  and probally started early in life. its something that has to be worked out with some help from a professional. I,ve been around and in relationships like this before and they usually end bad if help is,nt sought after. relationships like this are stressful to say the least. best of luck . peace out!!!!!!!!!!

[luvdolphins58]

Hey kris. I don't know that much about all this addictive stuff  except addicted to cigarettes and was dependent on Percocet.  Unfortunately I have alot experience with all wrong males. I will throw this out there. My experience when a guy is so controlling and jealous without due cause. It's definitely his problem but in my life it's his own guilty conscious! Hopefully in your case different than mine. Just a thought. Maybe listen to others with more knowledge than me. Lol. Praying for you. May God bless you and give u extra love hugs that u need right now.

[lulu747]

Hey Kris-

Sorry you're going through this.  I had a very long and tumultuous relationship with a man who never trusted me, was always questioning, controlling and jealous.  I gave him NO reason for this.  It took me a long time and a lot of therapy to realize this was HIS issue and not mine and from then on jealousy has been a red flag for me.
That being said, I read your earlier post about the fentanyl.  I know when I was on fentanyl I was NOT myself (this was YEARS after the break up with the man I mentioned)  I was weepy, irritable, depressed and disconnected.  It is an incredibly strong opiate that DEFINITELY alters you- even when taken as prescribed for real pain.  You mentioned you were chewing it, and this scares me very much.  I went down a very dark road around the time I went on Fentanyl prior to my third surgery.  I made crazy and out of characteristic decisions (married a man I did not love that raped and abused me) and was so depressed I almost killed myself.  I also nearly Od'd twice by taking too much breakthrough medication and benzos while on the fentanyl.  I am not saying this is YOU I am just sharing MY experience.  When I got clean a year or so later I realized how altered I was, and how skewed my thinking was.  I just want to caution you about this.
It is a powerful drug.  It is effecting ALL of the systems in your body and brain.  Please be cautious and I would recommend that if you ARE using it for real pain to please switch to an oral opiate which you have more control over dosage wise.
Take care of you...I'm worried.
Lu

[Amandag78]

Hey Kris, he may of had previous bad experiences with girlfriends. The thing is, if there is no trust, there is no relationship.
If your giving him no reason to doubt you, he needs to  change the way he is acting because its not healthy for you both.
It does come down down to either his upbringing or a bad past experience.
But he cant take his issues with him to the next relationship, thats not fair on you.
On and off for 8 months? Maybe sit down again with him and tell him you cant go on like this, ask him about his past girlfriends and if he got badly hurt by someone he loved.
I believe he really loves you and he is a good man, but sometimes people need a wake up call or a scare, to realise what they have and how quickly it can dissappear if its taken away from them.
You deserve to be trusted especially if you have done nothing wrong. There is nothing worse than trust issues, they will make or break a relationship.
Much love xx