needing pointers and suggestions

[buddy0627]

Me and my girlfriend have been arguing and fighting today.. she's been sayin I dont love as much as I say I do or at all.. just wonderin what to do.. as far as I know she hasnt takin any hydros today or yesterday.. but to fill some of you in my girlfriend is a 6 year addict of hydrocodone.. she has takin the for pain, to get high, and also a few failed attemts to OD.. I dont know what or if I'm doin is right..

[kksmama]

Hi there:) I used to be a HEAVY hydrocodone addict! Im still an addict I just have a different drug of choice now unfortunately. Anyway, I can imagine how helpless u must feel but it really just comes down to if SHE wants to quit! There is NOTHING ANYONE can do to stop an addict from doing dope until they themselves have decided they are ready to fight! Do u think u could get her to check out this website where she can read other peoples posts and se how many success stories there are AND see how many people are going thru the exact thing she is at the exact same time? Its very motivating to see so many people in one place that have been or are in the same situation that we are when we r in the thick of our addiction! I would try to point her to this direction and sweetie after that u gotta accept that this really is all up to her. No matter how much u love an addict your love can not save her from herself! If it could we would all be saved! The bulk of us on here have kids and STILL cant get off this ****! And theres no love in the world like the love weget from our babies! All u can do is try to be supportive and accept that there is also a popossibility that she may never be ready to kick this habit. Addicts are so completely unpredictable! Hang in there, do what u can but dont forget to love yourself and remember that the person u love so much should be loving u back just as much! Dont waste years of your life being neglected trying to save someone thats not ready for saving. Good luck. Xoxo

[PurrfectlyKrazy]

I agree with what jifmoc said above!

[jifmoc]

Hi, I believe you posted the other day re the same issue. You need to stop discussing/fighting about this w/ her. Look up Alanon in near you and GO to a meeting. The entire purpose of those meetings is to help the loved ones of addicts who are at their wits end like yourself. That is the ONLY thing you need to do about this. Good luck to you.