Need advice

[random288]

I have a question and I'll probably sound like an idiot, but here goes....I am 27 years old and currently engaged to my high school sweatheart, we went separate ways in college but met back up about 2 years ago...when we got back together he was just out of rehab for herion abuse.  He was a college athlete and hurt himself pretty bad, when he did that the doctors were feeding him oxycoton, when they realized how addictive it was they took him off of it and of course one of his college buddies said just snort heroin it's cheaper anyways, he probably did that for about a year and finally went to in patient rehab..i didn't know of all of this while it was going on but he told me when we got together about 2 years ago.  Just last May he had a relapse and was snorting heroin again, he did get help but then stopped going to meetings, which I didn't think was a good idea but I'm a really busy person I work and coach and then planning the wedding so I didn't push the issue about going to meetings, anyhow I am always checking our accounts because I still worry about him, anyhow I checked our accounts this month and noticed he had taking cash out last week and again this week, so I confronted him...he told me last Monday and this Tuesday he had bought heroin and done it, I was devastated of course!  we are supposed to get married in 3 months...he is willing to go to a rehab center, but should I even try this all over with him again?  He doesn't seem that deep this time but I can't believe it happened again(I mean I know everyone told me it would)  I'm having a hard time because I have known him all my life and I do want to marry him, but I also wonder if I'm staring down the barrel of a shotgun with this one!  Please help and give me some advice, I don't know if I'm ready to walk away(not to mention the huge wedding that I already sent save the dates for) but maybe that is what I need to do????

[catmagnet]

If there is true love between two people, no problem is too big to overcome. Especially if you get God involved, too. I will pray for you both. He has helped me out greatly in my lifeand even believe He led me to this site, as crazy as that sounds. Before I came here, I was on an endless downward spiral, and now I feel hopeful.

[confused456]

Yes it is a wonderful place!!!

[random288]

Wow!  I just found this website because I was researching heroin, I don't know very much about it except how addictive it is!  but I'm amazed at all the responses already, this is very helpful and lets me know how many great people are out in the world!

[confused456]

You are in a rough spot, but if you truly love him, do not give up on him. There is hope and especially if he is willing to go to rehab. That speaks volumes for how serious he is about this. Best of luck to you both.

[random288]

thanks I know, I actually just found all this out today so I'm still processing!  I plan on having a long talk if I ever make it through this endless day of work!  

I just don't want to deal with this **** for the rest of my life that is for sure!

[Firefaery1023]

No question is a stupid question. Only you can answer this question.  You are lucky though that he told you the truth (or maybe just part of it).  He admitted using and that is a reach out for help.  I will be thinking thinking about the 2 of you.
Lots of Love,
Vicki

[Jacqui805]

That's a tough situation there random.  I mean, I know you love this man, but I'm not so sure I'd be takin' that walk down the aisle without resolving what can be resolved first.  You have no idea how much he's using and these things only tend to get worse.  Then there's you, your life will be greatly impacted, negatively, if you take the plunge with a man who's not ready to give this stuff up, not to mention a possible kid somewhere down the line.  I think a majorly serious talk is in order here, with your expectations, and his reply.