can someone tell me if his convo is about drugs or am worrying over nothing

[Laxncheerchic11]

so my b/f is an addict and he is supposly clean..... i have to sneak and check his emails ever once in awhile just to see if there is any signs of him using again.... i know it wrong and trust me i hate doing it...........but yesterday i found a convo asking if someone still had them and the guy wrote back what you need and he said wholes for 25,00 and the guy wrote back some onions...................im not into the terms and lingo of the drug world so could someone tell me if that is like a code word for some type of drug or are they talking about something i dont know about and i have nothing to worry about

[shady55]

could mean oxy though.

[shady55]

yeah onion for my reference is an Oz of weed

[extrmeski]

Yes I am sorry but like I think I already told you I tried for 2 1/2 years and in the end all I was was broke and very hurt.  Dont make the same mistakes that I did...

[Laxncheerchic11]

wow thanks guys.............yes he was on oxys and everyone told me to watch out cause the next step would be coke...........thanks so much for the help and the support...........i just dont know what else to do...........i cant change him and i dont wanna just give up on him but i can only take so much

[sadinmichigan]

the last time she posted was back in late April and she thought her bf was back on drugs then too...hopefully she will check back..

[docnomore]

The person who started this wasn't very clear and never checked back. I have seen a lot of this.

[wannabefree330]

I can understand you want to help your friend, and I'm sorry you are having to deal with this.  I wonder what you will do if he IS doing them again.  You cannot change him, you can only change yourself, and your reaction to the situation.  It sounds as though he is at least talking about the drugs and that probably means he is using.  So, I suggest thinking hard about what you are going to do.  The sneaking around behind his back is classic Codependent behavior.  You are affected just as much by his disease as he is.  You can do things to change the way you respond to him and will make your life much better by not having to feel you are responsible for keeping him sober.  He has to want to change and want to stop.  You, can set some boundaries with him and tell him you want to help him in any way stay sober, but will not associate with him when you know he is using.

[sadinmichigan]

this is a site that has everyname in the book..I don't know who comes up with this stuff..I am sorry that you have to go through this..as mj said..please keep posting..we will be there for you as best as we can..




http://www.whitehousedrugpolicy.gov/streetterms/ByAlpha.asp?strTerm=A

[marcatj]

i'm very sorry sweetheart, that this is happening, and that you had to find out this way.

good luck to you... i wish you both the best.

(and please post again if you feel like it... it can be very helpful.  even for loved ones of addicts...)

very warmly,
mj

[kim715]

I just started a post on the social side about that very thing.This post made me realize that as addicts we speak our own language.Maybe posting some of our knowledge of it would help to educate those outside of the circle who aren't familiar with the lingo.Knowledge is power.Peace.

[soreadytodetox]

lisa i did the same thing called a friend you is in recovery(6yrs) for crack and he said yep is for a ounce (onion)  add the "s" (onions)this means bindled and ready to sell! boy ohhh boy!!!!! young lady please be care full that no small anount!!!!    sherri ps lisa i never did any but i did know some who did!! not me!!! im crazy enough i could see me on crack id be alover the place!!!   lol

[sadinmichigan]

an onion is a specific term for an oz of crack..I did check out a few places and then made a couple calls..they said thats what it was..and is apparently a common term..'to think all of us parents need to learn what all the "slang" is too...grrrrrrr...

have you ever heard the commercial on the radio where the mom asks her son if he's done all these things..and she starts listing 50 names of drugs from skittles to oranges etc?? crazy!!

[soreadytodetox]

its all drug ingo! everyone has there own codes but he better be careful& so should you! you dont know what kind of folks he is dealing with? he must not want you to know about his affairs! how long have you been with this guy! be careful! the drug business is very nasty place and the dealers love there money and dont want no one messing with it!!!! are you going to ask him whats up? just use caution!      sherri keep us posted!   sherri

[kim715]

OK you're right.I knew I heard the word onion being used before in relationship to some drug,but I couldn't remember.Thanks,that was driving me crazy.

[sadinmichigan]

it means he is getting crack cocaine..an onion is usually referring to an ounce...

[kim715]

I don't know for certain,but it sure sounds like some of the conversations I've had in the past when I was abusing the pills.

[studiogirl]

yeah, maybe he knows you check the emails? so he came up with code words? I hate to be negative but it seems like he is talking about drugs.  what else could it be?

[sadinmichigan]

definitely drugs...nobody needs code words for much else..

[extrmeski]

I'm not sure what onions are but anytime you are paying 25 for anything that needs a code word, I'd say that drugs are involved, and you obvioulsy care about him or you wouldn't search and pry, good for you he needs that accountibilty.

[4afriend]

Do you know if he's ever done crack before?

[goldenarm]

A conversation ,25 bucks, unless his onions are made of gold> Then again,could be another kind of gold,

[cathy5841]

i would think it is probably a code for some kind of drug.  but i dont know what kind.  i would definately ask him...but be prepared he will lie.  and it could be innocent.  i am just guessing.  good luck

[docnomore]

I have no idea what you are talking about or whay a convo is.