You'd think they'd have mentioned it sooner

[Haddock_Entrap_Propulasion]

Not really a question, more a kind of O.O moment.  I'm 25 weeks pregnant, and have been clean since I found out, give or take a week to taper off off one of th things I was taking (not for my own comfort, I can handle withdrawal, but I've heard that going cold turkey off opiates can cause a miscarriage).  I made no secret of the fact that I was getting off of all the drugs, however, the fact that I'm pregnant has only become public knowledge at my school in the past week or so.  The thing is, no one seemed to question that I was doing ok with the whole not being on drugs thing.  
Now, suddenly, I find out that more than 50% of the people who hang out in the 3rd floor hallway at my school don't think I can do it.  One actually went so far as to go around telling all the dealers at school that I was pregnant, and that they shouldn't sell to me.  (I never bought from them even back when I was using, and I don't know who nay of them are...).  Another is now making dire predictions about how my son's life will be just like hers (which kind of sucked), because of my age, and a single, -facetious- comment I made about wanting vicodin.  
So, anyone else had something similar happen?  Finding out after months of fairly solid progress that most of the people around you don't expect you to be able to stay clean?  

[outotown]

DONT LIVE your life based on what others think, to answer your question no ive noy had anything like that happen. This should go to show you who your real friends are they are the ones who stand with you and lend a hand. Dont worry about what you cannot change but fight to change the things you can. In other words you wont change someones mind how or what they think of you so dont worry bout that. But you can change you so fight to change you and your life for the good!! Good Luck to you and your baby

[nick30]

Hi Kage,

Remember me? Anyway it's good to hear from you again. Yeah as outotown says, don't worry about what other people think. thier opinions don't matter. you and your child are the ones that matter. It's really great that you got clean for your baby. really good news. I hope you are well.

Nick.

[snowflake620]

What others think have no room in your life right now what you think does don't worry about anyone but you and the baby congrats on getting clean and hope all your dreams come true
snowflake

[jillian6]

Hi
First, congratulations on getting clean for yourself and your baby - best gift you could give yourself and your child ;)

Second, as hard as it is being in school and listening to other kids say things, just ignore them - some people are just plain jerks and like to gossip and hurt people.  You know what the truth is and you should be proud of yourself.  I'm assuming you are young so I really commend you.  PM me when your baby is due!

[refusingbondage]

Id like to say congrats on getting clean for your baby!  How old are you??? I can offer some advice to you for sure -- I too was a single, drug addict, pregnant teen.. I got pregnant at 17.  I quit all drugs as soon as I found out I was pregnant -- even cigs.  And I too dealt with the whispers and BS that comes with being young and pregnant.  My best advice to give you -- tell them to go SCREW. Honestly sweetie - I'm 30 now.  My son is 12 going on 13 and he is wonderful and bright and talented.  I may not be your a-typical leave it to beaver mom, but I am a great mom.  I did it all by myself and did NOT become a statistic.  None of these people matter.  What people say and their opinions.. who cares!!!  You will not even think of them a year from now.. and they will be barely memories in a few years.  You do not owe anything to anyone other than yourself and this baby.  So eff everyone else... You can stay drug free.  You are young and have a beautiful life ahead of you.. Keep your head held high.

[boogieman]

howdy. i've found that what other people think about me is none of my business when it comes to my struggles with addiction. the world and the people in it are frequently wrong, but i can choose to rent space in my head for free to them, or let them be stupid on their own. you sound very intelligent (most addicts are) and you are dealing with a lot of immature kids who i imagine have no clue what it's like to grow up fast. if they get in your face, refusingbondage gave great advice. and while your telling them such, smile. smile at everyone. it makes them think that you're up to something and i highly recommend it. take care,  gm

[td188]

can someone please give me good thoughts. I am in my 33rd hour of my at home detox. I have been using on and off for over a year. In the last 6 months I took about 10 oxys a day. I am a mom of two young children and it was very hard to take care of them last night but we got through it. today is much better as I am following the thomas recipe minus the valuim.

[boogieman]

hi there. whether you believe or not, pray. doesn't matter if you know what you're praying to. it works. you will be ok in time, just look at this as a way to get to your dreams. they're out there waiting. take care,  gm

[td188]

thanks. why is it that i am already feeling a little better on day two? Alot of people say day two is the hardest. I just wish I had more energy!

[Haddock_Entrap_Propulasion]

Yeah, I remember you.  And normally it wouldn't matter...but for crying out loud, I used to be dating the girl who did this...you'd think she'd know me better...

[Haddock_Entrap_Propulasion]

The screwed up thing is, she wasn't trying to hurt me, she was trying to help (it really was mostly the girl who talked to the dealers...there aren't that many people in the third floor hallway)...what bothers me is that she thinks that she needs to do something like that...

[Haddock_Entrap_Propulasion]

I'm not single...my boyfriend is involved and everything...I'm 17, and I rally doubt that I'm going to forget about these people in a year or two...I'm gonna go back and visit, since the majority of the people I know aren't graduating this year...and it's a tiny school so it's not like there isn't a lot of data to sort through...look, I mean, I don't care what random people think...most of them only know me as "drug google" (I get a lot of questions like "they just put me on antidepressants, is it safe for me to keep smoking pot?).  But she's kind of my friend, and she's my ex-girlfriend...and the other people...most of them don't know me so it's like whatever...I mean, my boyfriend has said that he thinks that if I had access to vicodin, I'd be taking it...he's probably not wrong, but I -don't- and I'm not likely to, so that is also like whatever.  

[nursegirl6572]

At this point in your life....these things seem SOOOO important, so critical...as someone said.....forget about it.  They are only important if you allow them to be.  

As for forgetting them in a year or two....YOU create that destiny.  When you're done with school, there is no reason you need to be going back.  If you have good friends (and in your condition...you REALLY need to evaluate your TRUE friends)...you can see them outside of the school.  Heck....eons ago, when I was in school, graduates were not ALLOWED to come back and hang out in the building.  That just makes so sense.  When you're done, you're done...it's time to move forward...not be stuck in the past.  Plus, you're going to be very busy with a new baby.  Sign up for parenting classes, lamaze, etc...surround yourself with new people, maybe you'll meet new friends who will "fit" into your new life as a "mom" much better.

If people know you as the "drug google", it is because of your actions up to this point.  YOU need to make the changes so that people no longer associate you with that kind of thing.  If you are hanging around with people that are still using.....you need to do a friend overhaul.  Because, it will severely affect your recovery, whether you think it will or not.  You need to surround yourself with healthy people.  But all of these factors will definitely affect whether or not you DO stay clean, and obviously, with a baby on board, it is crucial that you make whatever changes are important so that you DON'T slip back into your old ways.  You've come this far....you've done great with all the challenges you have going on.....do whatever it takes to make this story have a wonderful happy ending.

[troubleinohio]

im glad school is almost out for the summer..you wont have to deal with the BS much longer.....and for the remaining month or so you have left in school, just ignore them. As someone else said, you have no time in your life right now to be worrying about what others say. You are planning a baby here =)   concentrate on THAT and finishing your school work and screw everyone else. Congrats to you...

[Haddock_Entrap_Propulasion]

Of course I'm going to go back...look, this isn't like whatever high school you went to.  It isn't like any highschool that anyone went to unless it was this one specifically.  The majority of my friends aren't graduating, and I'm not going to stop spending time with them just because I skipped a grade.  We're an extremely close community, and in the time that I've been there, and the time that everyone I know from school has been there, the environment has always been one of mutual support.  This isn't a question of the "mean girls" gossiping about me, it's a question of people who actually know me, and for the most part are genuinely concerned with my well being, apparently not thinking that I can handle staying clean.  
What I meant about them knowing me as drug google is that they don't know me personally, just as an informational resource.  I don't care if they think I'm a druggie or not, because except in the sense that we're all human beings and, as I said, members of a small community, we don't really care about each other at all that much.  
Friends aren't something interchangeable to me, and it's not a word I use lightly.  Many I have known since elementary school, and most, I have either been romantically involved with, or at least been involved with someone who they also were at one point.  (See also small school).  What I'm trying to say is that I honestly don't give a damn what -most- people think, and this isn't a question of me being young an teenagery and needing everyone's approval.  

[nursegirl6572]

Well, alrighty then.   ;0)

I was only trying to give you some advice on how to avoid certain situations that would possibly lead you to struggle with decisions...and prevent growth in life.  

There is a quote that is posted here a lot..."Nothing changes if nothing changes".  That couldn't be MORE true in soooo many situations (generally speaking, not solely directed at YOU)

Your quote was:

"Now, suddenly, I find out that more than 50% of the people who hang out in the 3rd floor hallway at my school don't think I can do it.  One actually went so far as to go around telling all the dealers at school that I was pregnant, and that they shouldn't sell to me.  (I never bought from them even back when I was using, and I don't know who nay of them are...).  Another is now making dire predictions about how my son's life will be just like hers (which kind of sucked), because of my age, and a single, -facetious- comment I made about wanting vicodin.  
So, anyone else had something similar happen?  Finding out after months of fairly solid progress that most of the people around you don't expect you to be able to stay clean?  "

Seems like an awful lot of negativity to surround yourself with.....and with as many challenges as you face..between being young, expecting, and a recovering addict...it would just seem that perhaps chosing a different path might be something to consider.

And, I certainly didn't mean to give up friends who are a valuable support system to you.

Right now, you'll disagree with me...but trust me that one day all of these things will seem so far away to you...and you'll realize how you little this stuff will all matter in the grand scheme of things.

I know, I know...you don't want or NEED my advice, and that's fine.   I would suggest that as you navigate thru life, especially with the new responsibility of being a parent....you would be best off setting yourself up to succeed...and only YOU know what that would take as far as your future and the decisions you make.   Lastly.....it is very important tp  celebrate every accomplishment you make along the way.....and you've made quite a few!

Best of luck.