Drug tests

[Utility]

Some of you may already know my story but I had a girlfriend that was a 3-month heroin addict. She admitted herself to rehab for 3 days of detox and was prescribed suboxone, which allegedly helped her quit. However, a couple of weeks later, she started acting strange asking for money, taking extended bathroom breaks, remaining awake all nights and smoking endlessly. She promised to never return to the city where she was getting her drugs as she has no business there and lives 2 hours away. However, I know for a fact she went there twice and the second time, I caught her red handed  as she went there about 2 hours after she was very upset with me for not giving her money.A week before I caught her in the city, I had asked her to dissolve suboxone in front of me for 2 days and she did so I am partly confident that she isn't doing heroin. However, based on her behaviors and frequent money requests, I am positive she is using something, I just don't know what. Anyways, i cut off all communication with her because of her alleged lies and broke up the relationship. She has been texting me daily urging me to reconsider as she is 100% clean (which I don't believe whatsoever) and she left me a message saying that she would administer a home drug test in front of me. I am considering doing it but I have a few questions. Does a 6 panel CVS test pretty effective and accurate? How is it administered? How can I ensure she isn't cheating when taking it? How fast can I get the results? How are results read? Thanks in advance for all your inputs.

[worried878]

agree..her addiction is a disease...if she were a diabetic u would not discard her...had to think about it
being an addict..i cant say i would choose to date one..i would not as it wouldnt be healthy for me to do so..it would invite relapse for me
Kowing what u r dealing with and educating urself is smart..if u didnt care about her u wouldnt be here..really she needs to be posting here...but when we truly love a person..guess we love them in spite of their diseases and weaknesses...tough topic and u r living this..we r on the outside looking in

[worried878]

Clarification
I would not date an active addict who is still using

[Utility]

Kristen, thank you very much for your support and congrats on being clean. I believe you may have missed my point about the "repulsive" comment. I didn't mean the people that use the drug repulse me, I meant the drugs themselves do. I apologize for not being clear.
I know you said that I should accept her the way she is if I loved her but the main problem I have is I believe she is hiding it from me. I just want her to be straightforward so she can get help. I wouldn't necessarily have a problem with her using but I would have a problem with her not trying her very best to get sober for herself first, her young daughter and me. No amount of love is enough to stand being around an addict that doesnt want help.

[Utility]

I do believe that it is a disease and that she needs me by her side and this is why I am so miserable. It's like watching the love of your life losing a battle to cancer. However, why would you hide a disease from your lover? And why wouldn't you want to recover from that disease?

[cathy5841]

I would just suggest you find an al anon meeting. Those meetings are for those t ppl who love an addict. I think u would benefit a lot!  Good luck to u both!

[Jebs317]

She and her daughter are very blessed to have you in their lives!!