HELP PLEASE!

[churio123]

Hi! lm married for almost 3 years and last 6-8 moths the are so horrible. i really dont not who l can help my husband and save my family.  ok. some body can  help me please  My husband is addicted to pain killers( darvocet,valium,vicodin.sanax ,somas) hes stop taken somas and ambian but now hes take execdrin pm.?     hes always stop for 2-3 weeks some times only couple days but went hes take this pills hes turn like a real monster, really mind hes always toll me the live etc. last time just 2 days before thanskgivin hes broke everthing in the house thhes left the house la some tornado stop in the house I hope some body can understeandme and help me PLEASE.

[churio123]

thanks so so much for you support gad bless

[worried878]

Alcohol feeds the brain just like pills..mixed this combo can be deadly as alcohol and many pills intensify each other..he is treading a dangerous road..and u need to protect urself and ur kids right now...this is not what marriage is about...enduring behavio like this if he is not willing to admit he has a problem and is not working diligently to corrrect it...has he ever attended any aftercare like counseling or meetings...?  does he admit he has a problem?  Many do not and these r the most dangerous types..knowing deep down even if u relapse etc..is important cos it can keep u in check somewhat..a person who is in continuous denial is a person heading into a deep hole..and there is no way out until they realize they gotta do SUMPIN...if nuttin changes then nuttin changes..and this crud doesnt get better..only worse

only he knows these things..and u know more about this stuff than we do...does he admit he has a problem,?  considering he stopped for a month or so..it seems as if he may know or he wouldnt have bothered stopping..takes alot of will power and strength to overcome this deadly disease...u know what he is made of//his inner strength...if u feel he can not pull out of this..or if he is endangering u and ur children..then it is time to GO...life is too short to endure this..u dont deserve it...cos there r worse things than being alone..believe me

keep posting

[dominosarah]

I know you love your husband but you have to take care of you too.  He is showing very destructive behavior that could in turn hurt you physically also.  Check out some Alanon meetings.  There are people there that will help you too.  Its not your fault for your husbands behavior.......sara

[churio123]

WELL HES STOP FOR ALMOST MOTH BUT HES TAKE PILLS YESTERDAY AND TO DAY AND HES REALLY MEAD WITH ME BUT HES SLEE ALMOST OHOLD DAY AND NIGHT  HES MAKE ME CRAZI I DONT UNDERSTEAND I WANT HELP HIM BECOUSE WENT HES CLEAN HES THE BEST HUSBAND AND  ILOVE MY HUSBAND BUT IM SCARE

[dominosarah]

Mixing those meds with alcohol is very dangerous.  Is this happening on a regular basis now?  

[fuzzypeach27]

I know its hard sweet heat. Every one is right. You have to protect you and your family. I know you love him.But you may get hurt. And you cant help an addict who is not ready. Maybe you leaving will inspire him, maybe not. I went like that when I was using. If I was forced to stop them ie had none left or people we watching I would get very mad, and blame the world. I just wanted ma tablets and to be in my bubble again. WHAT HARM IT IS!!!

2 weeks clean now, and no out bursts

[churio123]

YES SAME TIMES HES DRINK AND REALLY SCARME BECAUSE 30 MIN HES REALLY MEAD AND NEXT HES LOOK NORMAL AND LATER HES STAR CRY LIKE BABY IS CRAZY HES REALLY CONFUSME

[worried878]

Agree with the post above...he has to get help..not u..u need help deciding if this is what u want..this violence u describe is not really typical for most pill poppers...not saying nuttin but this could be sumpin else combined with the use..or perhaps a heavy user in wds??? but usually a person is too tired to break everything in the house during wds...does he drink as well?

[dominosarah]

You need to get yourself out of that situation before you get hurt.  He is on alot of meds and the combination of them all is not good.  Does he drink also?  Until he is ready to stop this insanity nothing will change.  Please check out Alanon or some support group.  Take care of yourself.  Be safe          sara

[Tab57]

You can't help an addict who does not want to help themselves. At this point your best option would be for you and children (if you ahve any) to move out. Maybe this will be  awake up call for your husband. Simply staying there and taking it is only enabling his addictive behavior which is just the opposite of what you want. It sounds like your husband neeeds professional help. If eh ever reaches this point is when you could support him and by doing so show him how much you really love him. Good luk and let me know if I can help you.