Harsh Responses

[Firefaery1023]

When I first started on this forum, I noticed that everyone was so nice.  I have noticed lately that some people have said some things that seem to be a little harsh to people that are trying to get off of their DOC.  I just wanted to let people know that everyone here is reaching out to get help and that we don't want to be turning people away when they are asking for help.  I am not sure if people mean to be harsh or if it just is hard to tell because it is over the computer.  Could we just read our responses before we post them to people's questions so that we don't turn anyone away?
Thanks!
Fire

[mimi1313]

I think there is a way to voice your opinion and not hurt feelings or alienate anyone and that has not been the tone of this forum for quite some time.

I know we are all in different stages and in early stages  we can react more emotionally but people also need to realize words can hurt and we need to treat each other with care.

[Firefaery1023]

I agree people seem to attack sub quickly.  Most people here that are trying sub have tried several times to get clean without it and feel this is the way to go for them.  The way I see it, if people are trying to get help, who are we to judge.

[Friend999]

Fire,

I must admit, I really had not noticed what you are saying, lately anyway.  There have been some "harsh" responses in the past, some that got a few people ticked off.

Nevertheless, your post is well taken, and I'm sure it will be a reminder to all who post that the goal is to help, assist, comfort, provide support, and try to give answers. Turning someone away, I'm sure, would be the last thing anyone would want.


Of the two forums I read consistantly, this one is definitely the most active, with the most responses, and probably the most lurkers.  The other post has wonderful people on, just as this one does, but less of them.

Friend999

[Firefaery1023]

It isn't that we don't want you to tell them how it it, people need to hear the truth.  More of when we are mean to them about how much medication they were taking or that they relapsed.  We need to encourage people to get up there and fight and not put them down!

[GoingToMakeIt]

Well said.

[Mikeinthesouth]

And just remember the majority here are addicts as I speak for myself an addict but I do know that diversity make the world go around and feel open minded to alot. I hate when their are people who believe their way the only road to the destination but I ignore those after taking all into consideration and examing the way it is written or the like. Please anyone who feels pushed away don't let one or two bad apples ruin the whole package for you. Remember we are here for ourselves as well as each other. Mike