Harsh Responses

[Firefaery1023]

When I first started on this forum, I noticed that everyone was so nice.  I have noticed lately that some people have said some things that seem to be a little harsh to people that are trying to get off of their DOC.  I just wanted to let people know that everyone here is reaching out to get help and that we don't want to be turning people away when they are asking for help.  I am not sure if people mean to be harsh or if it just is hard to tell because it is over the computer.  Could we just read our responses before we post them to people's questions so that we don't turn anyone away?
Thanks!
Fire

[Mikeinthesouth]

Exactly what fire said who are we to judge. I for sure will not throw the first stone...

[Firefaery1023]

Thanks for the added input!  We are all different and some people do think that their way is the only way to go.  I know that I went c/t and relapsed a few times before it had stuck for me.  I could never taper but some that works for and some of us need to use sub.  There are different solutions for each one of us and we all need to remember we are either here to get help or give support and some sort of way.  Most of us are addicts of something if we are here.

[oxyaddict420]

Knowone needs to show you proof or examples of this happening!  So many people see this happen and even go through it.  Just because you feel that being harsh is a good way to get through to someone does not mean that it is the best way for others.  

It seems that most others agree with the original post, As I...  This is my first post on here for about 2 months just in part of the fact of people just bashing one another!  It sickens me how vulgar and explicit people can be to others that are sick.  I hope that everyone searching for help gets what they need.  

Take care.. Will

[sadinmichigan]

well said Mike..!!! There are many roads to the goal..

Puranx- i really doubt the majority of the people on this site don't already know that it isn't a bed of roses..pretty much we all know that already..and we all know the truth about being an addict. many of us have seen the light already on that one..

[Mikeinthesouth]

I agree to an extent with you in having to be truthful as I don't want sugar coating if this were the case you guys tell me I will feel better today on day 7. Yes and I agree we are all trying to keep from going down for the third time and it is life or death for me too. Here's where I feel a bit different some people are not as ready for truth or for ones opinion I can only speak for myself. I have read many post and don't reply on the ones I don't feel I should as I don't agree with their opinion so I can't say something acceptable so I shut up and keep my opinion to myself. I believe we all have the common sense to feel by the posts of these peoples nature and not to be to harsh as it is a touchy situation getting clean. Opinion= ones own thoughts for the best route to the goal Experience ones own method to the point. I have never used subs so I can't talk of them and I have strongly thought of them as an option and will if I use again. It is worth my life.... Love to each and every one of you guys here....

[poetrygirl1960]

Not sugar coating is all well and good, but throwing manure all over it isn't necessarily a good idea either.  There is a way of showing tough love, and being brutally honest without being actually "brutal" if you have a little thing called tact.  Getting a point across is the key, and can be accomplished without being hateful.