Boyfriend on heroin.

[nyki0127]

I am at the verge of falling aprt, and really need some help and a point in the right direction. I just found out my boyfriend is using heroin, he used for a little while about 7mo. ago but when we found out we were pregnant we stopped! Along with him stopping he also lost his insureance from being laid off of work, he is perscibed xanexfor a horrible anxiety problem, and lexapro for depression. When he lost his insureance he was self medictaing himself (is what he called it) with pills like roxicet, vicodin,and any pain meds he could fine. Recently i found heroin, when comfronted him, he swore up and down it was something he was selling. I was lost when he said that. This is breaking my heart. He is a wonderful man, who just adopted my two children, and we are expecting our first baby together. I want to do everything i can to help him. I have been takin on all the responcabilities he used to with the house the kids the yard, everything! Just to try and relax him so he isnt stressed! what can i do to help him? where can i get him help? where do i start? can someone please help me! Im scared for him! ill do whatever i can to start to try and help him!!

[kittycat1433]

I meant to tell you you can't fall apart now you have kid's that need you!

[kittycat1433]

Well, sway hit the nail on the head.Why would tou let him bring anything in your home with your children.I know that is easy said ,sounds like you need to put your foot down.you said your scared of him?If that is the case well that is a entire diffrent thing.will be praying for you and your family.Kitty

[kc156]

Help can be offered,but only works with the truth and the whole truth.Hope I am wrong.  kc

[stilltrying1965]

Good point sway we all must be completly honest ,,,,,James

[sway1]

wait a tic. you said "we"stopped when we found out we were pregnant. how much of this is your problem as well? or was that a typo? if you were using too, the dynamic shifts a little. honesty is the best way to get help for anyone here. sway

[IBKleen]

Hi & Welcome,

First off, I need to tell you, as addicts we are liars. We will lie to anybody that is listening and we will lie to ourselves. If his mouth is moving, assume he is lying. Cruel, I know, but it is the truth.

Your bf is taking the drugs for some reason that he has not gotten to yet. He needs professional help. This is not just a matter of "Just say no".

You cannot help him until you help yourself. By that I mean, stop enabling him. Give him a good dose of tough love, however you have to give it out. He will react from your reaction and I also need to tell you that his actions are out of your hands.

Although addiction is a family disease, the root is with him and he is the one that needs to first admit he has a problem and second, want to get help.

It is wonderful that he has adopted your children but it is of no good unless he gets clean and learns how to stay clean.

Is there any chance of him getting professional treatment in the way of a treatment center?

[bandnmom]

Its hard  being on the other end of addiction but I have to tell you, you cant help an addict if they dont want the help! All you can do is try to be there for him and help him see what life will be like clean and sober. If he wants the help look onto inpatient/ outpatient therapy for him. Also NA meeting can be a really big help. Lets us addicts know we are not alone and dont feel so judged there. Suggest to him to also sign up here at Medhelp and post! It was a life saver for me!  I hope this helped a little. Good luck to you and your family! Keep posting also, there is always somewhere here to answer!!