How do you deal with a son that has an addiction?

[LONESOME]

Sorry to overwhelm everyone with my problem it seems like we are letting it all out today, my son is 17 years old he will be 18 in December and he has been in one after another type of trouble and now for the past year he has been using pot it used to be on the weekend now is everyday he was taking lortabs from me he said he was not taking them but I don't know we do drug test and all that shows is marijuana always my husband has kick him out several times and we always take him back after a week. Well 10 days ago I found out he is also doing "xanix bars" yeah what I know of xanix bars is that is xanax thru the nose but not sure and that he tries anything he can get his hands on, the same day I found out we did a drug test the ones you buy at the walgreens and again the only thing was marijuana but of course the test was limited to 4 things meth,coce,marij,opiates.
My husband and I talked to him and my husband told him that it was enough and that he had to respect the house and us ant that the next time that we see him using or druged out we will kick him out of the house, he has put us through soooo much and we are fed up with him we have 2 young girls in the house that know so much already things that they shouldn't know because of my son.
Anyways 2 days later my husband is driving my daughter to soccer practice and sees my son coming out of walgreens all druged out his eyes red he could hardly talk to him, so my husband kick him out of the house AGAIN but this time is diffrent he has not made contact till today is been about 8 days and he send a text telling me to text back so I did and he didn't txt back his girl friend txt me and said we need to take him back bc he will be in a park bench sleeping soon bc his friends parents are bigining to ask "why is he not going home".
I really don't know what to do and how to deal with this so far I have left my husband to deal with the hole situation bc what I'm going thru my self but this is killing me I love my son so much and I don't know if we are doing the right time by kicking him out, I'm sure you have gone thru this or know someone or just can say something to help me please any advise I will thank you so much
GS

[LONESOME]

Your post just confused me, but thanks

[GoingToMakeIt]

If I were you I would listen to Lizzie Lou. she is on here because of her lids and is not a user. She has a vast amount of knowledge in this area. My 2cents is to try to get him in rehab, before he turns 18 and you can't force him.

[LONESOME]

Crispy thanks you are right it is a double edge sword, and Dieing yes there is a lot I can learn from you and my son I have learned so much from him as well and yes you are right I should let him do as he wants he wants me to be cool with his life stile then yeah I'm cool but NOT IN MY HOUSE I'm sick of his behavior I don't want my daughter to do the same as him they already hate him so much for hurting us and they use to love him so much he went from been this kid you know normal teenager gething into trouble bc cell phone in class to getting arrested for having some 100 lortabs and marijuana on him, I just have to be strong

[Sportsguy86]

Do what you feel is right.  None of us really know your son or what he's like so we're not in the position to say.  You really shouldn't be going to an online forum to ask strangers you need to do for your son.  Do what you feel should do--the standards by which you live by.  There's no "one" answer for these things.  I can list many people I know who smoke marijuana and take pills recreationally that aren't addicted or destructive and live normal and productive lives. I also know people who aren't as fortunate.

The way you've described him doesn't seem like he's any junkie or anything--or anything too far from just a teen having fun.  But, that said, you have to make it clear you don't allow it and take action, even if its just "boys being boys" and not a drug addict waiting to happen.  It does sound like he is headed down a bad path.  Many times these things don't end well--and you've got to cut out the trouble before it grows too big.

[Dieing2Live]

well, i myself am 18 so i can give you some advice from his point of view. honestly, i dont think there is anything my parents could have done or said that would change my ways. since he is 17 you can have him comitted but i dont think that will really help. he has to want the change. as long as you let him come back he wont change, let him sleep on the park bench for a couple weeks. thats my best advice

[Crispy]

this is a double edge sword issue. Some ways work better then others and diffrent ppl react to diffrent treatments. If your to hard on him it might push him farther away if your not tough enough he will just keep walking all over you.  Just reach down deep inside yourself and make the best decesion you can possibly make that is all you can do and dont regret the decesion becasue its not like your a bad parent, i seriously doubt you would intentionally hurt your children. I hope things get better for you