How do you deal with a son that has an addiction?

[LONESOME]

Sorry to overwhelm everyone with my problem it seems like we are letting it all out today, my son is 17 years old he will be 18 in December and he has been in one after another type of trouble and now for the past year he has been using pot it used to be on the weekend now is everyday he was taking lortabs from me he said he was not taking them but I don't know we do drug test and all that shows is marijuana always my husband has kick him out several times and we always take him back after a week. Well 10 days ago I found out he is also doing "xanix bars" yeah what I know of xanix bars is that is xanax thru the nose but not sure and that he tries anything he can get his hands on, the same day I found out we did a drug test the ones you buy at the walgreens and again the only thing was marijuana but of course the test was limited to 4 things meth,coce,marij,opiates.
My husband and I talked to him and my husband told him that it was enough and that he had to respect the house and us ant that the next time that we see him using or druged out we will kick him out of the house, he has put us through soooo much and we are fed up with him we have 2 young girls in the house that know so much already things that they shouldn't know because of my son.
Anyways 2 days later my husband is driving my daughter to soccer practice and sees my son coming out of walgreens all druged out his eyes red he could hardly talk to him, so my husband kick him out of the house AGAIN but this time is diffrent he has not made contact till today is been about 8 days and he send a text telling me to text back so I did and he didn't txt back his girl friend txt me and said we need to take him back bc he will be in a park bench sleeping soon bc his friends parents are bigining to ask "why is he not going home".
I really don't know what to do and how to deal with this so far I have left my husband to deal with the hole situation bc what I'm going thru my self but this is killing me I love my son so much and I don't know if we are doing the right time by kicking him out, I'm sure you have gone thru this or know someone or just can say something to help me please any advise I will thank you so much
GS

[grace10]

My grandmother nearly killed me trying to help me.  Sad's right you have to let him fall on his but, if he won't go to treatment, cut him off.  It's not about you or his dad making him happy or loving him or how you raised him, you can't fix it. He has to, and he has to get really miserable before he'll fix it. He's just wired wrong and has a disease, but it has to be up to him to fix is life, then maintain it.  I know it's harsh and hard to do the tough love thing, Just my experience w/ my family.

[LONESOME]

Thats what my husband tells me and I do too but I think maybe there is something that I can do before he hits bottom. But I just can't get him to do it, we give him everything I mean everythin (maybe that's the problem) but we live in the best neiborhood, nice place, nice school, the kid has every electronic and that is not enough to make him happy.

[Crispy]

Yes jail is a wake up call to some I know it was for me.

[sadinmichigan]

i will tell you something...as harsh as it is..to me..omg..my heart breaks..you have to let him hit it...I mean rock bottom..I have 6 kids as you know..1 missing..she's been in jail..not alot of help so far...my son..One time he got in a fight..took it too far..went to jail..totally changed...i know it's so harsh...I'm sorry..

[LONESOME]

Yes it is a hearbreak I love my son so much and he is not the same anymore he used to be so athletic and into soccer

[lovepat906]

If you have insurance that covers it- I would offer to get him into rehab. If not I would call any local rehabs and see if they have any " scholarships" or try through the health dept. IF I could get a rehab situation , I would offer to take him back- but only if he completes the rehab program and continues after care when he gets out. Maybe- if you can get him on the right road now , things won't progress down the dark road od addiction.
I am so sorry. It is the biggest heartbreak to watch the little boy you knew fall into the abyss...