How to help myself deal with my boyfriend who is an adict

[hmg15]

This has been a serious roller coaster.  My boyfriend lied and lied to me about being on drugs.  Basically told me it was his past and was 3 years out of rehab.  I have known him my whole life and thought wow thats great he is doing so well.  He lied the whole time he was still using Roxy.  His parents tried to get me to see it but i just wanted to beleive him because i loved him so much.  Finally he agreed to go into a program which the family was so happy about because they were never able to get him into a program and i finally did.  He started the program end of feb and was doing so well but we realized he relapsed about 2 weeks ago.  I tried and tried to get it out of him finally admited to me that he did.  Everytime i am upset or dont trust him and try to talk to him he tells me i am going to push him to do more drugs.  I dont know how to speak to him with out getting him upset.  I just have so many questions and just want someone to relate to.  I have tried alanon but could not relate to anyone in that specific meeting. Am going to try more. Does anyone know other programs i can go to or online support groups.  I love him so much and he is really trying but i need to help myself or this will never work.  Just dont know what to do always have such bad anxiety and breaking  down because i need help dealing with this but how?  

[ricart70]

yeah ponco is right.He is using because he wants to get high.Same reason we all use- 100%
also as gnarly said alanon would help you to not help him continue to use
sorry you are going through all of this.I know it is no fun to say the least

[ponco]

I agree with Gnarly , but also dont let him tell you your driveing him to use, hes useing that as a excuse to use. he has to want to quit on his own you or his parents cant make him stop, i know you love him but you may have to separate for awhile until he actully goes for help on his own we all here have been there where he is at with the lying and so on good luck nand god bless you, john

[gnarly_1]

HI  only he can help himself  for you like my wife can get help from alanon google meeting in your area this will keep you from becoming a inabler see if he is up to it to come on and see what he thinks good luck and God bless   if you just need to talk im out here every day message me if you like more privacy........................Gnarly