I gave him a drug test

[madeulook]

Well I finally gave him a drug test at first he was making excuses like I don't have 2 pee right now. So I told him all wait up all night 4 u 2 pee so like an hour later he did... and im sad 2 say but the test came back positive 4 cocaine and then he had the nerve 2 say he got drunk and did something he didn't know what he thought it was weed sure I said just more excuses to cover up your bad decisions... iam so dissapointed even though in my heart I already knew I just needed the proof to prove 2 him that I know... I told him that I don't want him around me or the kids when he is high that I will call his PO and let her know that he is violating parole by getting high... I don't want him high in the house period. I told him im not doing anything for him nothing what so ever... I don't know what 2 do I can't go anywhere.. Am I doing things the wrong way?? Any advise would be very appreciated thank u....  

[LOKIE91]

I thought I was the only one that felt that with the cigs - you totally start not to have the addiction on the cigs when you get off the pills - I thought I was the only one.

[Ella789]

I am sorry that you are going thru this also !  What a nighmare!!   As long as he is useing, he will do what ever it takes to keep it up.  Lie, steal, cheat,  all the while being consumed with getting more of his DOC.  He will need to hit a wall, rock-bottom, or whatever you call it.  It is sad, such a waste, and a horrible addiction that turns a good person into someone we don't know anymore.   Please, get help for yourself and your children,  you have to look out for your self until he is right with his life.   It must be painful, and I am sorry you and the kids have to go thru this.  Get all the knowledge you can abt. how to go on.   Be safe.
Ella

[madeulook]

Yes, im talking about my husband im sorry I thought I had mentioned it, maybe in my previous posts... ever since I told him he has been mad at me I told him u go ahead and act that way with me I have all the reason to act like that with you but I won't im done babysitting u and putting all my energy into your addiction not only has it taken over your life but it almost did mine and I won't let it! I refuse to let it tear mine and my kids life any longer. I have decided 2 go back 2 school and work on making myself better and not spend all my time on him... thanks 4 listening ill keep posting lets see if he changes....

[gizzy32]

I hope you come back and talk to us. I am sorry your going through this, are you talking about your husband? I think your doing the right thing, you don't have to put up with this and I hope this was a wake up call for him. Have you ever heard of alanon, it may be very helpful to you also.

[IBKleen]

I don't know who you are talking about but I will guess it is hubby?

You have every right to tell him he can't be there high and especially around the children. Sometimes tough love is your best defense and protection and it just may wake him up.

He is caught in the disease right now and he will be unpredictable, he will lie, he will steal and the list goes on and on.

You need to protect you and the children. Period.

I know it is hard but hold your ground and stay strong.