2 of 2 please help my boyfriend with his pot addiction

[fightingforfuture]

I've been so depressed that I started cutting myself because of all this. I know it's not healthy. I only did it twice, but now I have scars for life. It's hot and I can't wear sleeveless shirts. I had to tell my daughter that a friend's cat scratched me really bad. I never meant for her to see the cuts but she came in as I walked out of the shower. I'm letting all of this effect my life way too much. I'm not doing my homework and I'm barely spending any time with my kids. I just sit here and cry when he's not here because I know he's getting high and not thinking about me at all. I am bipolar and have been depressed for 11 years. The 6 sober months with him were some of the very best moments of my life. I've never smiled and laughed so much. I've never been so comfortable with another person. he was my very best friend. I don't have anyone to talk to because no one wants to listen. They all tell me, "leave him," "you deserve better," "your kids deserve better," "focus on school and your kids and forget about him." No one understands at all. If I leave him alone I will won't have those few sober moments that we get now. We took the kids to the Memorial Day parade and had a great time. things like that I don't want to give up. I feel a very close bond to him. it's not as intense as it was on probation, but it is still there and not going away. He is the only person I have ever loved whole-heartly, my one and only true love. I know me and I know for a fact that if i was to give up and move on to someone else, I would never be able to offer them all of me or love them with all my heart and there's just no point in being with someone else when you know your heart wants another. I'm just scared. I don't want to lose him. I'm afraid he's going to smoke something that's laced with bad stuff and end up in the hospital or dead. He has a bad heart, what if he smokes so much that his heart rate is so increased that he goes into cardiac arrest? I keep hearing that maybe it needs to happen. People tell me he needs to hit rock bottom before he'll change. What if he gets by living off of people for years and never hits rock bottom? I need someone to talk to. I need advice. I need people who understand and don't want me to just abandon him. What do I do?

[10356]

good morning.. I'm very sorry to read of your distress.. to be honest I'm more worried about you cutting yourself to find relief for your pain and worry.. peps that smoke pot are not addicted physically as you would be if it were on pills or Heroin.. It will be up to him to stop.. My honest worry is you as I do not think your bf smoking pot if this is all he is doing would cause this reaction.. I suggest you get help for yourself as you will be in a better position to talk open and honestly with him.. I'm sorry your daughter also saw this as it must have been very awkward for you.. We can not really help anybody till we help ourselves.. I do hope you seek counseling and also alanon on line as the are wife's and family members of addicts that can give great advice.. Please be kind to yourself as our children learn to cope with life's difficulties through our actions.. I wish your family all the best.. lesa

[122 Tactical Fighter Group]

People do not die from pot. Period. He is at zero risk of obtaining a laced supply and winding up in the hospital. Ironically, he is at less risk than you are. You are looking at psychological problems and the risk of infection if you keep it up. Take care of yourself first or you wont be any good for anyone.

[juneblaze09]

Pot is the least of your worries sweetie...he will be fine!! It is you that needs help!! Cutting yourself over your b/f smoking pot is absolutely uncalled for!!! And is just plain crazy!! Not trying to sound mean in any way but hun thats not good at all....what good does that do for you, your b/f, or your poor little girl??? Hunny do not worry so much about your b/f...get help for yourself first!! Hope you will consider it take care!

[TrayCee]

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