Lions and Tigers and Bears....

[MikeInFrance]

Oh My!   There is a great world beyond sobriety or i should say within sobriety. However there are also people, personalities, mentalities that we will tend to clash with. It's 7am Sunday Morning. I am just returning from my ex's home after hanging out with her last night, going to a couple cool places. I saw so much tonight. Alot of people using.  I was even accused of being a cop cuz i must have been looking a little too hard at some of them. No matter how much we change our life around we can never expect that others will also change simultaneously, if they change at all! So there will always be Gorillas in the midst. It's up to us what we do when we encounter them. I hear about SO many people here that relapse because of  a call from a dealer or 'friend' , 'sister' , 'buddy' , etc ... It's even been coined 'The Call' .... Seriously...did you Expect the whole world to detox with you? We are all weak at the beginning of this process but we need to toughen up! It gets us through those few minutes of doubt! Have a system in place, a sentence to say in response, a look to give the person, anything so that that KNOWN temptation which is sure to present itself doesn't grow legs!

[MikeInFrance]

Unfortunately out here if you go to a club or even a bar on the weekends you will find people doing drugs. I have never been interested I'm those types of drugs and my doc would never be present there but still, I am careful because I never even entertained the idea of oxynorms until thd day I used for the first time a little over 13 months ago. I swear I didn't even know what oxycodone was until that day.  but today I tend to look at those actively using individuals with almost a 'pity'... It's impossible to talk sense into someone like that because I have been where they've been and noone could have told me amything like that 3,6,or 9 months ago...certainly not  someone I didnt  know. That's not my place to do something like that....not right now anyway.  I feel I am only able to offer minimal assistance and guidance to those that have accepted they have a serious problem and also have committed
to changing it. Because they are in the same boat as me so I feel what they feel ... What u feel!

[n8tiv_ndn]

Mike.....Well said it does seem as if we expect the world to change when we decide to change ourselves, actually I think we wish it would in order to make the process easier for us but it doesn't work that way and with a little sober living under our belts I think we all come to understand that better....good advice and a good post.....food for thought,,,,,,,,,,.


peace ......

n8tiv_ndn
Mark

[dominosarah]

The cool places i hang out dont have any drugs.  Be very very careful.