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15732195 tn?1442718120

Need advice....

Tonight I struggle. My husband does not know the severity of my addiction... And if he does, he hasn't brought it up. Tho I'm about to be in hell... Tomorrow being day three. I need to buckle dwn and tell him the truth. Its so hard cause we never know how people will react. But I know he loves me... And will have my back... But I'm scared to see his dissapointment. Ugh... I been avoiding this a long time.
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15732195 tn?1442718120
I finally broke dwn and told my husband. He was very supportive. And said we will do whatever it takes. I got your back and am by your side! We will get thru it. I feel so much better having told him. I know that I need him! He is my best friend in this world. There isn't anything I haven't told him... Aside from my dabbling becoming addiction.... We are a good team. And this could have ruined us! And me!! Thank you all for your support and helping me build my courage to get it done! I do feel like everything will be much easier from here. A cake walk.... Prolly not... Lol. But with him on board .... Fight for my life back will be much easier with my best friend and soul mate to lean on. Or text when I'm wanting to cave! I'm so thankful for this place and all of you. Hopfully today will go smooth and I can get thru another day. Thanks again for everything!!
  Much love
               Chels.  
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a-chick you are doing great!  i so hope that you tell him and that he reacts well.  i'll be thinking of you!!!  :)
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Great post, Vickie!!!!!
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Hi Girl.
I just wanted you to know that it was no big deal about all those post. It happens all the time and we end up telling them the same thing. Also watch out for the Old Post with the Hour Glass by the name.

My Hub had always knew what I was up to BUT not to the extent that I had taken it. I was very lucky in this one. I had some Videos all about Addiction and the Brain and so fourth, that I bought back home. My Hub & my Mom both watch a few and they learned a lot about this disease of addiction. I am telling YOU..this saved my ash. He is the one that kept telling me it would take time for those Brain Chems to balance back and fire up (sort of speaking). He did not understand to much about the physical as I rocked & rocked and did not sleep for a few months. My w/ds seem to be a bit different them some. I went c/t from 3 meds and each one hit the Brain the same but also in different areas from each other. This played so much havoc on my Nervous system. It was like I was pulled up, down & all around. However, my  point is that my Hub was the one that kept saying TIME & PATIENCE! If he did not do this I would of thrown in the Towel because I was so confused on this Time frame..Long Time Frame. I did have a Bud on here that was 3-4 m ahead and he just kept telling me that everything I had experienced each month he did too.
I sure hope YOU do tell him. YOU are going to be so relieved and I also think he already knows something is up.

You have come a long way since day one on here. Very Proud of YOU! Keep it up and always keep that Guard Up at all times. This has been a saying around here for a long time and I so agree with it now!

Just know that we can not do this alone! Outside Support is a Big one.
Bless
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15732195 tn?1442718120
I have my told him yet..... But I'm think I will this evening... My kids do aikido karate three days a week. And my husband does the adult class. So we are here still. But I intend on going home putting kids to bed and telling him. I'm scared.... But I know it will be better if I do.... I'll keep y'all posted!
Today has been so long and draining. But I pushed thru... I cant believe it!! But I actually got some stuff done around the house... As well as coming to class with the fam. So... A good horrible day lol
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I didnt tell my boyfriend but I suspect he knows...I hinted a lot....but never wanted to admit it to him. We were having struggles and I knew I needed to go through withdrawal alone so I left him while I am dealing with the addiction and quite a bit else. I could never quit and go through withdrawal living with him....it is easier living alone for me. I can focus on what I need and not what he needs. He would have been very sympathetic but too self-centered to really be supportive. If you have someone in your life that will be there for you and can understand and love you despite your flaws then that could be a great and wonderful thing. I hope you have that.....
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