Need advice....

[Addictchick_1983]

Tonight I struggle. My husband does not know the severity of my addiction... And if he does, he hasn't brought it up. Tho I'm about to be in hell... Tomorrow being day three. I need to buckle dwn and tell him the truth. Its so hard cause we never know how people will react. But I know he loves me... And will have my back... But I'm scared to see his dissapointment. Ugh... I been avoiding this a long time.

[NeverAgain127]

Hi sweetie:  How are you doing?   Don't worry about the three threads..we just wanted to make sure we could find you in the same place!  (wink)

Did you tell your husband?   I can totally understand your fear, but remember, he married you for better or worse, and in sickness and health.   A trick I use sometimes, is to treat people as if they are already acting as if I want them too...so for example, you might say to hubby "I'm so glad you're the kind of person I can be totally honest with. And thank you for being someone who doesn't judge."  (Even if you're not sure about it.)

Just a suggestion.  Our fears are always worse in our imagination than they are in reality.    

Let us know how you are doing...
hugs,
-Robin

[mooneyb1]

And I know that fear well, Addictchick. It paralyzes you into doing nothing.  My addiction was telling me NOT to tell him, that I wouldn't have that "safe place" to come to and hide.   That safe place was me and my addiction to opiates. But I knew when I was ready to tell him, and hopefully you'll experience that too. And when that time comes, you'll know it and have the strength you need to carry it through.  A big hug for you ((Addictchick)) from me.  Blessings, -Bonnie-

[Addictchick_1983]

And I'm sure you are all correct. The fear is crippling at this time ..... But I know I have to tell him. I just am not sure how ... Or when. I know there will never be a perfect time. So I should just do it.... But it all boils dwn to just plain fear.

[Addictchick_1983]

@vicouragous and jifmoc
Sorry about that. My thoughts are scattered. Nothing is free flowing at this moment.... Except the tauntment in my brain.
I realize the posts and babble.... I should refrain from such scatteredness and ramble. I do apologize for that.

[Smalltownmom]

Yes! I wrote before I think if you come clean you will be surprised. My family knew already but never said anything. When I brought it up finally, I was sick and deep in wds, they knew. (Too proud to really admit it. They thought once I went to the "special hospital" I'd be all better. That's the only problem I have. My hubby doesn't think I'm having issues after my suboxone taper.) My mother has been my best supporter. Anyways Going to detox certainly helps. Hopefully you can tell him. You will feel better and he can help you through this. Wish you well

[kellygirll]

i kept my opiate addiction a secret from my husband for years i finally told him terrified as i was and it wasn't as bad as i thought it would be tho i always said it was not an option to tell him and i went to rehab for 30 days i have had a few slip ups but i go to meetings and i have a sponsor so i think you should tell him like you said he loves you