OPIATE addicts please help.

[HollyCat416]

My estranged husband, who was taking over 60 percs a day PLUS about 200mg of oxy on top of that, then valium to sleep at night...has recently gone on an alcohol bender.  He was alcohol free for over 2 years but that's when the huge increase in percs and oxy's took place.  He is aware that the pills and alcohol are a deadly combination but he also thinks his body can handle it and that he is safe if he just cuts down on the pills while he's drinking this heavily.  ( he will drink 26-40 oz of vodka a day ).  I am SO worried about him but his anger and abuse prevents me from helping him hands on.  He has shut me out of his life. I have no way of even accessing him.
What can I expect to happen?  Has anyone been through this before?  Can anyone share their thoughts or experiences with me please?  I feel so helpless and when I turned to his family to help him, they passed the buck back to me, claiming that I'm the only person who has ever been able to get him clean.  So it's my responsibility and if anything happens to him, I've failed??  I don't want my children's dad to die.

[HollyCat416]

Yes..he has grown a huge tolerance.  The percs and oxy's are just a couple of the many things he takes.  In August I watched him break morphine capsules and ingest the powder.  He also snorts ritalin when he needs to stay awake for work, then valium, clonezapam, ativan for sleeping at night.  
If I can get to him, I could keep him alive with the Gatorade and Ensure but once again, I would be enabling him like I always have.  But right now, I can't even get to him.  The last time he drank, he wasn't taking as many pills and the bender lasted 9 weeks.  Seriously...9 weeks of drinking vodka daily...no work, no seeing the kids, no eating.  He lost about 30 lbs.  That was over 2 years ago...so for 2 years he's been chewing pills, and more and more over that time span.  

[HollyCat416]

when he's on a bender like this, he doesn't drive...all he does is sit in his apartment and drink....the pills are part of his daily routine but the alcohol is not.  Years ago his addiction specialist refused to see him because of his lack of desire to get clean.  The crazy expensive rehab facility will not accept him as a client anymore because he snuck pills in during his 28 day stay and he had anger management issues. Now he won't go to detox, rehab, doctors, nothing.  
He isn't physically violent...he's horribly verbally abusive; but that's irrelevant anyway because I have no way of even contacting him.  He's locked himself in his apartment with his pills and alcohol, not answering my calls and I can't get in to see him.  

[vicki595]

This is a serious situation. Does he work? Drive?  It really bothers me that he's driving around so messed up. He's already killing himself;now others are at risk!

You need help,also. It's his burden and only he can fix it. You can stop him somewhat by shutting him down. Call his doctor. Call your doctor for advice. Call the pharmacies where he may get any rx's filled. Throw out his cell phone. Disable the car. It's a serious situation and requires some dramatic action!  Push at him. Is he violent?

Shame on his family for dumping this on you!

Keep posting!

[Dav125]

Doesn't stop now,,Sorry about that.....I hope you can drive some sense into him. He is creating a death sentence with that type of useage..

[Dav125]

I backtracked and see you had been in here last May about him. I had only been here a couple weeks and didn't know alot then as to what was what etc..He certainly has built a tolerance. Mine is sky high too..But mixing with alcohol with the quantities he's been consuming ? Since May ? I'd suspect he's already got some damage going..And if he does stop now,,he will get stopped by the use. You know what I mean....

[HollyCat416]

Thanks for the info.  Pretty scary stuff.  I just hope I can get to him soon and drag him to the hospital but he's grown such a tolerance that even medical detoxing hardly eases any alcohol withdrawal pain.  Been through this many times but never when he's been on these amounts of oxy and percs; that's why I'm overly concerned.  

[Dav125]

I just noticed your "failed" comment....Look ,this is his addiction going on, not yours. The consequences that he may bring down upon himself are "not" your responsibility in any fashion or form. You do the best you can to try to get him to become aware of what he is doing to himself. If anything bad happens to him,,it is not your fault ..There is only so much you can do.The rest is up to him..

[Dav125]

That is not good..There are two concerns here. One is the large mg intake of the oxycodone being mixed with the alcohol which runs the risk of respriratory failure and the other is the large volume of tylenol intake from the percocets..If they are the standard 10/325 like I had, thats 12 pills max a day for the tylenol intake..Pile alcohol on top of that, and we are looking at liver and kidney damage in the not too distant future..

He needs to get some blood work done...To see if any damage has started. Thats the only way to know...But getting him to wake up and acknowledge whats going on has to happen somehow,someway..You may want to consult an addiction specialist about him. He's in deep. Its going to be hard to break thru that anger where he "hears" whats being said......Not sure what else to suggest....I mixed some, but nothing like what your talking about..