Old friends

[fogmussher]

I wondering if any one knows how long it takes to stop feeling so alone. All the people I hung with have commented on how great I look since I quit and I feel so much better but I don';t understand why these old friends don't follow my lead. They seemed to follow me into addiction and I stupidly hoped they would follow me out of it but the're not and its frustrating. There is never going to be a good time to feel like **** for 2 months. I had to come to deaths door before I got help and I guess my friends didn't notice, or I guess it didn't impress them any. I keep wishing they will decide to quit because I'm so lonely and they are so dull, just as I was I guess, but now I can't bear being around them. I don't need to hear that they were not my friends anyway, they are all I know. I feel on the outside of everything and am glad to be on the way up, but is this how everyone else lives all the time? I  am an adult and don't need to hang out with anyone all the time I guess but wonder if this feeling is just part of learning to live without drugs. I have hobbies, and I exercise and am eating balanced meals again but there's an emptiness i can't seem to shake. Any suggestions?

[fogmussher]

That's what I am doing. Believe me, my whole life is different. and to the better. I guess I am just impatient. Being alone has advantages. I don't have to deal daily with struggles many people have. I'm probably expecting to much too soon. At least I'm in this forum talking about it. Maybe talking to other people here will help. I let these feelings bring me down in the past and won't do it again, what a waste it was. Just have so much regret that I wasted so much of my life. Bumbling along now. It is so awkward to deal with life normal. This too shall pass. Thanks. Happy to be alive. Glad to be here at all.

[beatingthis]

Sorry to say not a lot of addicts know they are addicted or just can't do anything about it at this time. It is hard to become clean and stay that way. You have to be ready to fight the fight. Just like when you knew it was time for you.
All you can do is be there for them. I know you don't want to hear find new friends but be very careful they don't bring you back down. If they are all you know they maybe it is time to try something different.

Terry