Today I visit him

[loann1955]

Jackie went in hospital on Tues. IT is alittle over a hour drive for me I have been able to talk to him everyday and every phone call is I know why I am in here I am a BED BURNER and they are taking all my pain meds.We both go to the same phyc.docter at home and he is great and he hates him now what do I say when he goes to saying get me out of here now,I wana go home.This time has gotta work he has been in are local hospital for klonapan overdose and suscide watch 2 times I know the brain injury and loosing his wife has been hard but people go on and I forgot to tell you he is on disability and never gets out of his room at home he plays his game and watches TV.I will help him I can take care of him but its the verbal abuse and he is always hurting.How do I handel todays visit? And what are the right things to say cause I am the one that is gonna catch it.He is scared to die but just waiting his time he says Thank you Lois

[rello]

I know exactly how you feel.
About 8 years ago now i was in a long term relationship with someone
who was hospitalised on more than one occation to detox from alcohol and drugs. I too used to dread going to hospital. For fear of what might greet me when i arrived. The hospital was only half an hours drive from where i worked so i found myself being there almost every day.. Its hard ! really hard. But you have to detach yourself from the verbal abuse and realise its not the Real Person your talking to its the drugs controling him. it will be a good while before he comes around. remember hes in a lot of physical and emotional pain right now. At least you know hes been taken care for by people who are trained to do  this


Have you tried talking to people in the same situation as you..........?
This is very important !!                                                                      

((( While your busy looking after him who is looking after you?)))

Think about that .. Its very important. Go to some Alanon meetings you will find great comfort there and make some friends who really know how you feel ..You can use this time that hes in hospital to get yourself sorted and get the support YOU need. Dont feel guilty about taking a little step back and gaining a better perspective

My prayers are with you
Rello

[joann1975]

I don't know your full story...but I will keep you in my prayers...you and your family. I wish you the best outcome in this situation!
Prayers and love,
JoAnn

[scaredmom330]

It's hard on people who are disabled and can't get out..I know because I am one too...I to sit on the computer or watch TV don't get out except on the weekends when hubby is home. but going for a walk helps, the lake helps a lot, just sitting outside and watching the boats or just the waves.  The main thing is getting out of the house! just for a little while sure helps... But sometimes that is like an addiction once you have gone somewhere you want to go more and am stuck at home.. It's a daily battle and not sure how I would handle it on top of everything else he is going through...let him know his friends here are thinking about him and praying not only for him but you too. If you need to talk, am here for you.

God Bless
Karen

[avisg]

Lois ,
I am soooo sorry you are going this .He is where he need to be for now .Regardless of what he says know he is in the right place .PlZ remeber you desereve a happy life not one filled with verbal abuse . Dont worry about what to say ,just go and see him make the most of the time you have .How long do they plan on keeping him?