fiancé is addicted to pill killer

[Dee616]

I’m just so lost I don’t know what to do my fiancé of 8 yr is addicted to pill killer he said it just Vicodin 6/7 a day but i don't believe him   I want to help him I feel like I am going crazy we have a 6yr son and we live with this parents I have no one to talk to every one know what he does everyone lies to me I found out about this problem a little over a year ago when my money started to go missing he stole over 2 thousand from me we got in to a really big fight he said he would stop and every thing was fine for a little while but I believe there a lot worse now he has a good job makes good money  but never haves any… I don’t want to leave him but I cant keep living in fear and the lies I know he takes more then just Vicodin… I found his hiding places, one day I found  17 white ip203 and 2 pink op20 pills....I cant even to talk to him any more with out it turning in to a fight i don't know how much more of this i can take  … what should I do? how do I help him with out pushing him away?

[Dee616]

thanks every1 and punkinhead75  i will definitely check that out  
i well just wait for him to come to me if he wants me help. i really love him and he is a great father....  i feel everything and everyone can change in a blink of an eye. and no matter  how good or bad a situation is, it will change i just really hope and pray it is for the better...  

and so for that pill  i believe they are the new Oxycontin 20mg  pink round small pill with the op imprint,  its made to help prevent abuse so they cant be crush or melted down  some say it a good thing, other say its not because they wont get the same high anymore and will move on to heroin i don't really know...    

[Punkinhead75]

Sorry to hear about your situation however it is not uncommon.  many folks have to deal with active addicts and they face the decisions that you are facing.  Our desire to help others can lead to enabling them so please be careful.  It can be a fine line between the two.  I suggest checking out an al-anon mtg.  There you may learn some techniques to better deal with your fiance and learn to care for you and your son's emotional and spiritual well being.  As far has helping without pushing him away:  Addicts have a tendency to be rebellious and arogant.  Telling an addict what to do usually makes things worse.  Try not to make yourself the focus of his problem ( looking at it from his perspective).  I can say from my own experience that anybody that tried to come between me and my drink/drugs was instantly a problem and I fought them with everything I could.  I would yell, lie, blame them.  I would pretty much do anything except accept responsibility.  I had to hit a bottom before I was willing to stop.  Please take care yourself and your son.  God Bless!!!!

[jimimiddlefinger]

Dee, the poster named this_big is most likely correct. The OC 20's are small and pink. That's what I was getting the last 3 mo's. I had a very similar progression. started with Lortabs and percs, when I could get them. When I first was introduced to oxy, it was only now and then. eventually it was all I wanted. Not sayin swallowing hydos is any better better than snorting oxys. But OC hits you alot harder and is alot more seducing. I often went weeks without, back in my Lori days. But OC was like a siren song. Once I hit that it quickly became every day. It's a very dark road. This is just my opinion FWIW. I hope you find a way to work things out.

Peace

[this_big]

I agree with shiningstar. He wont quit until he's ready. For alot of us it take losing everything including family and friends.You have to take care of you and your son. I dont have any advise as far as if you should stay or go. But please know there is nothing you can do to make him stop. Best of luck to you.

FYI.. The ip203 are 5/325 Percocet (oxycodone) and i'd be willing to bet the "op" is actually oc20 which is 20mg Oxycontin.

[Dee616]

he says that he wants to change but he does nothing i told he need to talk to some one. and i fear if i leave then he will have no to help support him if is really serious about wanting to get better... but i don't know how much longer i sit around and do nothing  

[shiningstar500]

He needs to be ready to quit before anything can be done. Is he serious about quitting? There are treatment centers he could go to or meetings he could attend. If he doesnt want to quit you will have to decide whether to stay or go. I wish you the best and good luck! I hope it all works out!