you are doing a great job at hadnling this devastating sitaution you and youre husband are in...you need to continue to stay strong even though it seems like the bad will never end. you also have to realize that your husband is a junky. he is not the person you married. it happened to me and it has happened to millions of helpless people. they come from all walks of life, some super rich living in mansions and some waiting on there welfare check or walking the streets day in and dayout, but its all the same, oxycontin-which is just as strong as heroin i was heavily addicted to both and had no preferance to either, will completely take over your whole entire being and make you a selfish one tracted junky. theres nothing you or anyone else can do to stop it. only the addict him/herself can change that. you can only do so much for him. if hedoes need pain managemant then i would recommend changing doctors ASAP and going into a treatment program. a good treatment center will understand patients who need true pain management and theyll really know how to use it properly so he wont be in discomfort but he wont be nodding off at the dinner table. the xanax, which is a potent benzodiazepine, which i was also heavily addicted too is a very sedating, relaxing drug. it makes you look and act completely drunk. and taking opiates with it only enhances both of them. they equal a recipe for disaster and thats why he has gotten into so many accidents and spills, but you have to understand that it is not youre husband youre dealing with. it s a selfish junky who can only see as far as the next fix he can get. deep down there is love and that old person you married but until he gets professional help that wont show at all, it will be blinded by the junky covering his soul. I was the exact same wayand after treatment, staying clean, i had endless amounts of friends and family i needed to apologize to and repay, but overall i was able to truly enjoy real life, no longer a slave for dope. your husband did not do this on purpose it was with all good intentions but with long term use youre brain actually changes and theres nothing left but the day to day struggle to survive the addiction. put all youre efforts into getting him into a good treatment facility, theres no cost at saving the one you love-christos
ps. if you or youre husband ahve any questions aobut treatment questions or anything at all let me know at anytime, i wish you the best of luck youa re incredibly strong...
Wow, Well...you certainly do have your hands full. I will say that. You are not only dealing with addiction, but also depression and grief as well. I know all these very well, Im sad to say.
I lost my husband to Oxy's 2years ago and I still am having trouble getting over it. Your husband needs severe help. Does he even want help? He is most likely drowning himself in his own misery. Its sad. I am so sorry things are so bad. But they can and will get better as long as he wants them too. If not, then I am sorry but it will never end. Hopefully, he knows how bad it is and wants help.
We are here to help in any way.
Lisa
I was in a longterm relationship with an oxy/xanax addict. He broke my windshield, had me take him to the ER multiple times so he could lie to get a script. He was terrible! He was finally arrested for Domestic Abuse (me) and he beat up the cop that arrested him too! These men are addicts and you will never be able to compete with the drugs. I learned this the hard way. I stayed b/c I loved him and I believed him when he said he was clean, but he would EAT phentanol patches and take methadone and just go berserk, start throwing **** and being real paranoid about people around. Its a scary ride and you should get off.