someone please help me understand..

[nyki0127]

My boyfriend has a problem with heroin.. weather he is addicted or not, Im pretty sure but not 100%. Either way it is being done. I am 35wks pregnant, and loosing my mind from the stress this is puting on me. He leaves says hell be right home, and doesnt come back or answer for hours.. and it breaks my heart each time. I try and talk to him and he denies everything. All our money is going, hes almost always high, and its breaking me to watch. He is/ was such a good man we have a baby on the way, I have two kids and he has two kids from previous realationships. Im Watching him kill himself.. and All i can do is sit back and watch? Im trying to learn EVERYTHING i can about this.. to TRY and help him. If anyone can help me or lead me in the right direction.. PLEASE!! Its killing me to see him like this. We are about to have a baby.. and I will do WHATEVER and ANYTHING i can do on my part to help him!!

[tryntogetwell]

Just hearing you say this makes me so sad to know what my family has gone through. but like the previous responder said, he wont stop until he hits rock bottom or wants to stop. The stress you are having has to be bad on your nerves! You already are emotional being pregnant. I think it would do you some good to speak with a profestional in confidence. And as hard as it sounds you may want to consider thinking about going on with your life with your kids sweety. Its ALOT to deal with I know. It has to be you to make any decitions(spelling). If it helps you to post on here keep it up. Good luck to you hon.

[IBKleen]

You may also want to look at these posts to give you some insight into where you have been and where you are now.

http://www.medhelp.org/posts/Addiction-Substance-Abuse/My-boyfriend-is-addicted-to-roxicets-/show/1252673?personal_page_id=1431140#post_5737771

http://www.medhelp.org/posts/Addiction-Substance-Abuse/Boyfriend-on-heroin-/show/1265600?personal_page_id=1431140#post_5797787

[IBKleen]

Hi and Welcome to the forum,

I think you know inside that if he is doing Heroin, he is addicted. I don't know any social Heroin users.

With that being said, there is not much you can do for him until he is done. And by that I mean he either wants to get clean or he gets caught and hits bottom.

I am sure that he loves you, the kids and the baby on the way but he cannot see that now. The drug is his life. He does not mean to lie to you but he has to. He will do whatever he has to do to get the drug and that includes lying and stealing. He will lie to himself if it helps.

The only thing you can do right now is focus on yourself and your unborn child, and certainly your other children. YOU have to make the decision to stay or stick it out. No one can make that decision for you. If you decide to stay, know that you cannot get him clean until he is ready.

I am sorry to sound selfish but that is the truth.

Have you considered getting on with your life without him?