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I have gotten to the point that I do not want to leave my house. I work for the schools and I am off 6 weeks in the summer. I always think that I will be so productive during that off time and also enjoy my swimming pool. But I don't. I use to write this off to being satisfied with my life but now I wonder. I wake up early but just don't get out of bed, therefore I catnap till about lunch. I sometimes will put my Ipod on and listen to a book while I lay in bed. I like nothing better than surfing the internet, reading a book or watching TV in my bedroom. I really would not even leave my room if my daughters did not comment on what a hermit I have become. Most of the time I do not even answer my phone because I just do not want to talk to anyone. Plus if my husband would not say anything I would not even get of my pajamas. I will always think about the things that need to be done at my house (I have never liked to clean) but I just don't do them. I am somewhat of a packrat and have lots of clutter. But I want my house clean and organized, I find other things to do. We were very active in our church but now I cannot even drag myself out of bed on Sunday Mornings to go to church. I don't even walk out to the mailbox somedays, not that I dread what is in it I just don't go. During the school year I rarely miss a days work but when I come home I do not even want to cook dinner, I certainly do not want to clean the kitchen afterwards. All I want to do is get home as quick as I can and either get on the internet, read or watch TV. I have 2 teenage daughters and married for 20 years to a very attractive man. When we married I was not overweight which I am now by about 75 pounds. My husband is the same size and excerises everyday. He is very disciplined and I am not. I am ADD and take Adderall everyday for that and I am also on 60 mg of Cynbalta. I use to be very social and now I am social at work but other than that I just want to be at home doing things by myself. I am not sure if this is healthy at all.
Best to speak to your psychiatrist to see if this comes from anxiety or depression as one can cause a fear of being around people and the other can cause people to feel undermotivated and avoid people. They could adjust your treatment and see what else could be done to help you such as cognitive behavioral therapy or a support group.
i agree with iladvocate.
i felt the same way as you do. every summer i would fall into this i don't caree mind mode. had to make myself and still do, get up in the morning. then come fall and i was myself aggain. so i got a new dx called summer sad. so now i just deal with it the best i can. i, like you have to force myself to do the every day things. but i found out i feel better if i push myself into finishing one thing at a time.
hope this helps
i felt the same way as you do. every summer i would fall into this i don't caree mind mode. had to make myself and still do, get up in the morning. then come fall and i was myself aggain. so i got a new dx called summer sad. so now i just deal with it the best i can. i, like you have to force myself to do the every day things. but i found out i feel better if i push myself into finishing one thing at a time.
hope this helps
I will say that I am no "unhappy" I just feel like this might not be normal. Could it be I am just lazy? I am not in a bad mood (most of the time). I plan to speak to my doctor about this at my next visit. needhelp4me434 - it is really hard to force yourself isn't it? And I would probably feel so much better if I pushed myself but I just don't. I am thankful for any suggestions that anyone has.
You are not alone, My house is cluttered and everyday I put on my list to clean but everyday I just sit on the couch and stress myself into a frozen state and it never gets better. I am the same with work or grocery shopping etc. If I stay active I don't think about it but the minute I get out of my routine everything comes to a crashing halt. I am on Cymbalta and lorazapam for anxiety. If it wasn't for my daughters activities sometimes I wonder if I would ever get dressed. Hang in there, try having your husband take you for a short walk everyday and make him promise to make you walk, just 5 minutes the first day and work yourself up to more time. I have a garden in the summer and I have to get out at least everyother day so something like that could help. Good luck to you.
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Hi, I'm not the only one who stays in the bedroom and makes plans that are never done! Thanks.
i have been literally in bed since thanksgiving...i fall asleep at 6 or 7 am and sleep til 4 or 5 in the afternoon...i get up to eat something and go right back to bed. i do not want to do anything or go out of my house or even my room. my husband is retired military so he does everything i used to...shopping, laundry..i know i need help...i tried to commit suicide two years ago when i was lke this but never for this long. i dont want to make the effort to get to a psych. just too much for me right now. i just want to sleep and stay asleep. help, somebody?
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Maybe your husband has taken away your purpose as he is doing all the jobs you used to do. The same thing has happened to my mum. Since dad has retired, he does everything and complains she doesn't but he controls everything and doesn't let her have her own life or identity.
Maybe it is your husband or marriage that makes you feel like this. Check to see your husband does not have a personality disorder. My dad has Narcissistic Personality Disorder and has sucked the life out of my mum since he retired. People living with a person who is a narcissist often attempt suicide. The problem may not rest with you but with your military husband.
Maybe it is your husband or marriage that makes you feel like this. Check to see your husband does not have a personality disorder. My dad has Narcissistic Personality Disorder and has sucked the life out of my mum since he retired. People living with a person who is a narcissist often attempt suicide. The problem may not rest with you but with your military husband.
Still, your Mom is a grown woman and does have to stand up for herself. Marriages are very odd things especially marriages that have lasted a long time, and to make that happen a lot of compromise nobody but the couple understands have been made. If you truly have a narcissistic Dad and that's not just something you're calling him and a Mom who lets him be in control, they are both having a problem, not just one of them.
Ej77, you make some valid points. I think that when one retires within a couple, it sure changes the dynamic. It can be stressful. I felt bombarded when my husband just simply switched from working in the office to working at home! Then with Covid, he stopped traveling and leaving the house much at all! gulp. Many couples do indeed have 'roles' and when one is around more, they take what was once someone else's role a bit. Now, personally, I'm waiting for my husband to begin doing things like laundry and dishes but the role he seems to have taken is that of one of my kids. ha ha. But he does ask me what is to eat just like they do often . . . grrrr. Anyway. It can be challenging living with anyone with mental health issues and a relationship with a narcissist would be particularly difficult. In fact, I'm not really sure you can even have a true relationship with a narcissist. How long have your parents been married? I've also learned as I've gotten older that sometimes I don't understand what makes another marriage tick. And I don't need to, it works for them. And sometimes, couples have codependency going on and there isn't much anyone can do until they realize it. Anyway, hope you had a happy childhood despite it all.
Mom, men don't ever grow up, they just get older.
Yes narcissism is a very complex and hurtful issue. Yes my mum is an enabler and a codependent but she is like that because her mother was a narcissist too. It is very common to choose romantic relationships with a person with NPD after being raised by one in fact I would even say it is inevitable. A relationship with a Narc is a "relationship of inevitable harm". Abuse will happen it's more a case of when rather if.
Having said this I am making an amateur diagnosis on the writer. She would need to make the diagnosis herself. There are checklists online for traits. It just occurred to me that her husband might be. It is very common for a spouse of a narcissist to feel worthless because narcissistic abuse is the projection of the narcs perceived worthlessness onto the target. So whatever the target is made to feel, they feel that because the narc has pushed their own feelings outwards on to the person who was actually healthy and neurotypical at first.
My parents have been together 50 years. I can't be too hard on mum, she was duped and manipulated. If you don't know narcissism, it looks easy to walk away from but if you've spent 50 years with one and the abuse feels familiar (even comforting) as her family upbringing was the same. It can feel impossible but it is impossible.
If the letter writer's husband has narcissism then it may be that one of her parents has it too and she is basically reliving trauma all over again. She may be the "scapegoat" from the narcissist family of origin and is now married to one. It is worth ruling out as I would say that one in three/ four people have NPD now.
Having said this I am making an amateur diagnosis on the writer. She would need to make the diagnosis herself. There are checklists online for traits. It just occurred to me that her husband might be. It is very common for a spouse of a narcissist to feel worthless because narcissistic abuse is the projection of the narcs perceived worthlessness onto the target. So whatever the target is made to feel, they feel that because the narc has pushed their own feelings outwards on to the person who was actually healthy and neurotypical at first.
My parents have been together 50 years. I can't be too hard on mum, she was duped and manipulated. If you don't know narcissism, it looks easy to walk away from but if you've spent 50 years with one and the abuse feels familiar (even comforting) as her family upbringing was the same. It can feel impossible but it is impossible.
If the letter writer's husband has narcissism then it may be that one of her parents has it too and she is basically reliving trauma all over again. She may be the "scapegoat" from the narcissist family of origin and is now married to one. It is worth ruling out as I would say that one in three/ four people have NPD now.
Okay, warning, alert, sirens. Whenever someone comes on here and diagnoses people without the intimate knowledge of those people or of psychology, let's all slow down. We can't help posters by assuming. And when someone says a high percentage of people have any mental disorder, know that there are no reliable statistics out there for knowing this and so don't get scared and don't start calling out people for things that might just be indicators of a personality that is different than they would like. All living things are inherently selfish, as the prime imperative is to survive and reproduce. This leads to a lot of actions in all living things that we all wish weren't that way. The world is as it is. The disease of narcissism is quite different from the colloquial personality trait that is way too common for people not to think of those around them when they say and do things. We've all been guilty of it, and some are like that all of the time, but that is quite different from the disease, which is akin to sociopathy and is quite dangerous. We've seen all too clearly famous leaders throughout our history who were quite insane and quite narcissistic, so we do have examples of it we all can look at to see how this differs from someone who is callous and selfish and lacks sufficient empathy. Peace.
Ej77, I completely agree that when we grow up in a house with a certain kind of person, especially a dysfunctional person, it's really easy to wind up with the same kind of person when we choose an adult relationship. Most unfortunate. It can happen randomly but it is definitely a theory that we repeat internal patterns even when they are very negative. I don't think people are doomed to picking a person with the same traits or mental illness struggles as their parents or addiction or what have you but it is amazing how often it happens. I think being aware is probably critical in not doing it. That brain that draws us to the same problems we've always lived with as children has to be shut off.
As to your mom. There are always many reasons why someone stays in an abusive or bad relationship. Yes, codependency is a real thing and keeps someone stuck there. Fear of leaving, not being able to logistically do it like supporting themselves, etc. It's sad. I'm sure on some level your mom loves your dad but it's hard if he is causing her a lot of pain every day. But who knows. Maybe she really is happy? Have you ever had an open discussion with her about it all? Is that even possible?
And since you said IF, you aren't diagnosing anyone. We're just chatting about a situation of someone that hasn't posted here in a long time. If you want to move to the Relationships forum, we can start a thread about this.
As to your mom. There are always many reasons why someone stays in an abusive or bad relationship. Yes, codependency is a real thing and keeps someone stuck there. Fear of leaving, not being able to logistically do it like supporting themselves, etc. It's sad. I'm sure on some level your mom loves your dad but it's hard if he is causing her a lot of pain every day. But who knows. Maybe she really is happy? Have you ever had an open discussion with her about it all? Is that even possible?
And since you said IF, you aren't diagnosing anyone. We're just chatting about a situation of someone that hasn't posted here in a long time. If you want to move to the Relationships forum, we can start a thread about this.
I understand that I was trying to help. The thing is the original writer may be actually neurotypical and it may be the perceived healthy partner that is sick.
Finding out about NPD saved my life. I am neurotypical, my abuser wasn't.
When you go to a doctor with stomach pain you need to rule out ALL possible causes.
The letter writer needs to know whether the problem is internal or external. It can be circumstances that cause depression as well as mental illness. She needs to rule out the external factors first.
I spent a long time chasing therapy and it was actually because I was attracted to abuaive relationships because of my upbringing. This information stopped me from suicide so it is vitally important that any abuse in the relationship is rules out. Abuse can be covert and very subtle and fly under the radar.
The letter writer could easily be in the situation that most narc abuse victims find themselves in.
Information about narcissistic abuse saves lives.
It needs to be ruled out.
cluster B personality disorders are incredibly common and no they are not all psychopaths or sociopaths.
My dad has NPD and so does my uncle and auntie. My sister's partner has NPD too. It is incredibly common and is now something of an epidemic. It needs to be ruled out as an issue because if it isn't ruled out and it is happening in this particular case, the letter writer will never improve. Like I said, knowing this information IF the person is living with a person with a cluster B personality disorder can be life saving information.
Finding out about NPD saved my life. I am neurotypical, my abuser wasn't.
When you go to a doctor with stomach pain you need to rule out ALL possible causes.
The letter writer needs to know whether the problem is internal or external. It can be circumstances that cause depression as well as mental illness. She needs to rule out the external factors first.
I spent a long time chasing therapy and it was actually because I was attracted to abuaive relationships because of my upbringing. This information stopped me from suicide so it is vitally important that any abuse in the relationship is rules out. Abuse can be covert and very subtle and fly under the radar.
The letter writer could easily be in the situation that most narc abuse victims find themselves in.
Information about narcissistic abuse saves lives.
It needs to be ruled out.
cluster B personality disorders are incredibly common and no they are not all psychopaths or sociopaths.
My dad has NPD and so does my uncle and auntie. My sister's partner has NPD too. It is incredibly common and is now something of an epidemic. It needs to be ruled out as an issue because if it isn't ruled out and it is happening in this particular case, the letter writer will never improve. Like I said, knowing this information IF the person is living with a person with a cluster B personality disorder can be life saving information.
People are not inherently selfish. That is a materialist model of survival of the fittest and it actually is a toxic mentality to have and victim blames.
Most people know the difference between right and wrong whether they have buried that knowledge or not.
Most people know the difference between right and wrong whether they have buried that knowledge or not.
Obviously, human history says you're both right and wrong. We wouldn't still be here without some sense of how to get along with others, but our history has been one of constant cruelty, violence, tribalism, etc. We've got a long way to go before we can say most people even if they do know the difference between right and wrong act on that belief. That's why I am pretty much alone on here in this but I am always extremely cautious when people claim members of their family have a mental illness when most likely they were not diagnosed by a professional given most people don't seek out that kind of thing. We don't have any data that is factual that says we have an epidemic of any mental illness since we have no comparisons to measure it against as for most of our history nobody left records of such things. Human beings are, again, both good and bad at different times, and if it comes to a choice between what we perceive is our survival or our self-aggrandizement and doing the morally right thing, most of us will choose the former. There is no other way to explain human behavior as it actually exists, and all the rest is aspirational and for our survival necessarily aspirational as we are multiplying our population in a way that makes our bad behavior incredibly destructive. Most of us don't know our history all that well or don't pay attention to it, but as was said by someone much wiser than I am, the arc of history does bend toward justice. Peace.
I wish I never had to leave my house. I wish I didn't have to work. I just want to stay home with the windows covered. I kind of get mad when someone calls or texts me. I don't like being bothered. I just want to be home forever and left alone.
I quit my job this past January. Ever since then I havent been out of my bed for longer than one hour at any given time. I feel like I have just shut down. My husband, whom I loved with all my heart, decided he didn't love me anymore and wanted to be somewhere else. I have battled depression for years by denying that I was depressed, and now it has cost me almost everything. Recently, I have destroyed the thoughts of suicide only because I have two kids to live for and it would destroy them if I did something like that. I know that have a lot to live for, its just taking a while to figure out what it is.
wow-I'm so thankful for reading these posts (although I hate you all are going through all of this). I am the same way. I work night weekends. When I'm home M-Friday, all I want to do is lay in bed-period. It takes all of the strength in my body to answer the phone. I just don't want to go anywhere or talk to anyone. I'm on prescription adderall and celexa, and honestly, if it wasn't for the adderall, I would never get the simplest tasks completed. The worst part is, I have a 2 year old, and I can't keep playing with her in my bedroom. It's not fair to her! Luckily, I have a very loving husband that although he doesn't understand it, he has never once complained. I have a counselor appt set up for this month. I really don't want to live like this any longer..How many of you just love when it rains? So you have an even better excuse not to leave the house..
Hi Im so sorry you are feeling this way,but I am wondering are you taking any sleeping tablets or other medication that can cause drowsiness? I say this because I feel like you but my life does not allow me to sleep but all I do is look forward to my afternoon siesta and early night I get on with my busy day,with the 2 kids 3 and 12 who are always fighting but I have to say I think Im addicted to Syndol-these make me drowsy and in a dreamlike state,most days pass and Im just on Auto-I used to be so particular about the housework (it gets done but not immaculately) and planning for events was something I would start months before now I just throw things together at the last minute even my self respect has gone-Ive been married 20 years and have put on weight not too much maybe 10 kilos but it has brought me down,my husband doesnt pay me any attention and I often wonder if he is having an affair,do you feel like this sometimes maybe your daughters are older,my 12 year old is so cheeky no respect for me and very hormonal and the 3 and half year old is going through tantrum stage,so yes I do feel like I want to just go to sleep and get away from it all,apart from the Syndol I dont take anything else for depression YET,could it be linked to the change of life Im 42 this year anyone else feel the same way please comment, I dont have any family to call my own apart from hubby and kids as I left UK 20 years ago,so life can be pretty lonely at times :(
I feel the exact same way, except for work I don't like leaving my house. And if I didnt work...I wouldn't leave my house. I get angry when people call/text me, and I make plans but don't usually follow through with them. I stay in my PJs all day, and spend all my time escaping through watching tv or getting online.....I dont know what to do, but I just dont have the energy or motivation to LEAVE this house....I just want to be left alone but I know that's not healthy....
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I feel the same way. I just have no energy or motivation.
I feel the same way I am happy just sitting in the house watching t.v. and sleeping. I am always tired and have no energy. I make plans to do things outside of the house but I never do them. If I go out I am always nervous being around people. I used to have alot of friends but now I never even bother to call them or see them. The only time I go out is on the weekend when my boyfriend doesn't have to work or when I have school and even then i has to drag myself out. I just have no motivation for life anymore. I find I wish nothing more than to be dead but I don't believe in suicide.
Omg! I am in the exact same position! I'm only 21 though, I was living on my own for one semester going to school, but I just drank a lot, got into drugs, failed a class and barely passed the other two I was taking. I got into a lot of disputes with my neighbors at the apartments I was living at (which my dad was paying for) and a lot of other people in that town so I just wanted to run away. So, I decided to move back in with my dad when the semester was over. I just wanted to get out of there as quickly as possible. All I do now is stay in my room all day, watch tv, or some show on my laptop. I just feel like I'm incapable of living on my own, I will probably get myself into some horrible situation that would be hard to get out of. My dad comes home and asks what I did today and I'm so embarrassed to say, "Just hung out here..." I feel like such a lazy bum, but I feel uncomfortable around people, even around my dad sometimes I don't know what to talk about, it's horrible. Suicide constantly crosses my mind, but I'm so back n forth on everything I probably couldn't even commit to that. My problem is making and keeping friends. I've never been good at it and now I'm a hermit. I don't know what I want to do with my life, honestly I don't even want to live it. Have you gotten any help?
I am 42 years old and in the last few years I have gotten slowly to where I don't want to leave my house . The last year has been the worst I have ever been I have to force my self to even take my daughter to the dr. She was in a horrible accident in feb. and in the hospital and rehab for 2 months . While there i would only leave the hospital to get things for her I would do anything to help her . Now I am the same way at home and getting worse shes better except for a few things that we will always have to deal with . But I cant hardly bring myself to get up and do even simple things like laundry or cook dinner anymore. I have been diagnosed with severe anxiety disorder and panic attacks. I just feel so helpless i used to be so active now i could care less about most things. I hardly ever answer the phone and will even act like I am not home sometimes when some one comes to the door.
i am 72 i stay in my bed 99 persent of the day. i dont bother getting drssed. i make lists to do but i end up throwing them away. i mdont feel like im have the strength to do anything. if i cook it is a tv dinner or sandwich. use paper plates so i want have to wash dishes. i dont answer the phone unless i have to. i play games on the laptop and work crossword puzzles. and sleep most of the time. i justmam tired and dont care. gloria789
Your story could be my story almost exactly right down to the 20+ year marriage, summers off and the swimming pool, only my 2 kids are a boy and a girl. I sincerely hope that you are doing better and have found someone and something that has helped you. I too am very active in my church and our pastor's wife is my very close friend. I think that if it weren't for my close relationship with her and my growing relationship with the Father, I would be much worse off then I feel already. I know your pain through the words you have written. And to answer you, no this isn't normal. God doesn't want this kind of life for us. Today I had a bad day at my job (within the school system) and came home and jumped on the internet (like always) and asked Google why I feel like never leaving my house again? and this page came up. Thank you for sharing your story because it helped me feel less alone. Even though I am in a support group, I still feel like no one understands just how I feel. Maybe it is because I'm afraid that if I open up they will think I am a freak - I guess it's how I feel about myself and I wish I could just stay in bed. The outside world is so cruel and I wish I could just never leave my house again. Tomorrow I will go to my support group but as for today, I have already self medicated with food and wine. If we were next door neighbors, what a pair we would make. :) but we could be there for each other, even if it was via facebook from our beds. But seriously, I pray that you (and I) get back to living our good lives. Seek help and consider turning back to your church or choose another church. Ask God for direction and healing. I try to remember that everyday. <3
I just read all of the posts here and I have an over-whelming desire to hug all of you. I HATE that we all feel like this, but to know that there is a community to which I can belong, where I can be understood is so wonderful. Nothing hurts as much as feeling like you are lost and all alone. I teared up while reading all of your posts. I wish I had a magic wand and could zap us all back to normal. Take heart peeps and know that someone out there cares and loves you. Close your eyes and feel the glow. I will include you in my prayers. <3
hi every one i have just read all the posts here and i am in the same boat, except i dont have kids. i have bi polar disoreder and borderline personality disorder. at the moment i am suffering from one of the worst depressions of my life. i tryed to commit suicide about 3 weeks ago but my husband found me and called an ambulance. i was in hospital for 8 days. ive been home now for about 3 weeks and i have not left the house except to go see my psycoligist. i am very tired and will sleep till about 11.30am most days. seven months ago i lost alot of my long hair and had to cut it to my color bone. it was like my security blanket, my mask to the outside world now that gone i feel naked amd ugly. i have to wear clip in hair extensions so people think i look the same. i found out i was iron defecient aswell which could be causing the hair loss. i was on lithium aswell but i did some research into the side effects and it says it could cause thinning brittle hair. so i have stopped taking it. now they drug me up on seroquel 750mg at night!! what do i do?? i have been trying to grow my hair back but its very slow going. all i do all day is either cry, watch tv and draw.
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Sorry to hear your story. Please check if you are deficient in zinc. I was suffering from hair loss and this was the cause. When I had been taking good zinc supplements for a while my hair grew thick and strong again. Before, it was falling out all the time and getting thinner. I was getting really worried.
oh, I so know what you mean. I know this message is little behind, but i just got on this sight. I am on 3 anti depressants, and i anti anxiety med. At first, I felt sooooooo good, but it only lasted about 4 months. Now, im at rock bottom again. I see a psychiatrist every month, but, just for meds. No counseling yet. He, so far, is really good about trying to tweek my meds when needed. I go in again on Monday, and I literrally dread hate to think about getting ready go, and actually getting there. Everything is such a mountain. I have had talks with myself, and said, I'm not a lazy person, this is horrible, it comes and goes like a rollercoaster. I so wish someone could keep me going longer than a couple months at a time. It's so tiring. I haven't been out of my house in over 2 weeks this time, and I have to go somewhere tomorrow. It is a must. I just pray for strength and motivation to get there. Any advise would be greatly appreciated.
There is hope. I read that there was a recent breakthrough regarding depression. "A hallucinatory party drug could point the way to the first new treatments for depression in a generation. Scientists have discovered that ketamine ("Special K"), which club-goers take for dream-like highs, also improves mood disorders by repairing damaged connections in the brain. What's more, ketamine works within hours as opposed to weeks - even for people whose mood disorders have proved resistant to other drugs. The breakthrough 'represents maybe one of the biggest findings in the field over the last 50 years,' Yale University neurobiologist Ron Dunman tells NPR.org. Researchers involved in the study say the previous model of depression - based on the idea of 'chemical imbalances' in the brain may be wrong, and that depression may be the result of stress-induced damage by brain cells that control mood. Ketamine, they say, speeds the growth of new synapses - the connective tissue between brain cells - and can quickly reverse the neuronal damage associated with depression. The most popular class of depression drugs, SSRI's, don't work for about a third of those struggling with depression. Ketamine's negative effects side effects, including hallucinations, delirium, and kidney damage, makes its widespread use as a depression treatment unlikely. But, what the drug is revealing about how the brain works, Dunman says, may lead to new, safer drugs, and "ultimately provide a much better way of treating depression.
thank you for the medical info. my story is the same as everyone else, except for the fact that i do not have any kids. i was been on antidepressants for over 20 years and i believe they have quit working. losing my job in 2010, i have turned into a hermit. i will sleep through any planned outings, and when possible i do not take off my pj for days at a time. i hate living like this. i am lonely but i will not do anything to change this. i want to, i just wont. lacking insurance is my excuse for not seeking help.
i am so desperate that if i knew how to get ketamine i would take some regardless of the side effects, i want my life back.
i am so desperate that if i knew how to get ketamine i would take some regardless of the side effects, i want my life back.
Wow...This seems to be an epidemic among us. what2do1989 has explained my exact feelings as well. I used to be so energetic and a real explorer. Now, anxiety almost to panic overtakes me when I think of my Mom duties at home. It has got to be something to do with chemicals or the lack of. Can anyone please make some suggestions? Before more of us have these "meltdowns" ?
I to have feelings that everyone else is feeling. Feelings of sorrow, sadness and just dread waking up in the morning. No motivation,,always crying sometimes for a reason and sometimes i have no clue why. A lot of things have happened in my life yet i cant seem to get through the past and live in the present if that makes sense or not. I am not on anti depressants,,nor have i spoke to a doctor,,,as i have lil faith in them. So i am stuck in a hole that i cannot seem to get out of. Very frustrating :(
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Can you still fight? Fight your way out of bed just to do one thing in the day, even if it's just wash the dishes?
Me: Got retrenched; sent me into meltdown; can't function. Other people change jobs all the time, right? Why am I incapable? Is it the panic about running out of money by Feb? Even though I'm a qualified professional with options, should I choose to fight? So why aren't I fighting as hard as I could be? Like you, more reasons for the horror than this.
So, when I wake up with those questions, I try to: count (it sounds absurd but it calms my panic attacks); breathe; use a mantra.
Could you try? Just until you find a space in which you can heal?
Best wishes
Gen
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Can you still fight? Fight your way out of bed just to do one thing in the day, even if it's just wash the dishes?
Me: Got retrenched; sent me into meltdown; can't function. Other people change jobs all the time, right? Why am I incapable? Is it the panic about running out of money by Feb? Even though I'm a qualified professional with options, should I choose to fight? So why aren't I fighting as hard as I could be? Like you, more reasons for the horror than this.
So, when I wake up with those questions, I try to: count (it sounds absurd but it calms my panic attacks); breathe; use a mantra.
Could you try? Just until you find a space in which you can heal?
Best wishes
Gen
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