the "I am annoyed by this" thread

[lost_kitty]

I know this doesn't really belong in here, but I feel like I have to get this off my chest.

I'm a bit annoyed by TTC, why you ask? Well, there is 1st the fact that MEN can produce a child at any time, any day, but we WOMEN can only conceive 2 days a month, 2 DAYS, that are 28 days in a year, the rest of the time is bleeding, hoping, crossing fingers and the worst thing EVER, waiting.

Something else that annoys me a bit are my friends or the people closest around me who conceive, and conceive, and conceive, and GET WHAT THEY WANT, while everyone else is trying, trying and losing their hope.

And PLEASE, what is with all the charting? BBT, TTC, CM, HPT, OPK - people, this is TOO MUCH, when did conceive a miracle of life become work? Oh, not to forget the DH, BF, Baby Daddy - or whatever you wanna call him, it's like they don't seem to understand sometimes how important it is to some, or ALL of us to receive such a gift.

One more - for those of you out there who have DH, BF and whoever, with already at least one other face to see themselves in, it's like my BF doesn't understand with his two sons that I kinda sometimes feel left out.

It's really good to get it out, anyone feels the same? I mean come on, let it out, grab a tissue. :)

[4everwealth]

I just found out there are 8 pregnant women at my place of work. 8!! God knew He was going to bless some women with babies and for some frustrating reason, He didn't bless me.
I'm fed up!!!!

[Michelleinhawaii]

Thanks!  My HCG was 6 this past Monday, hoping for only 2 or 3 more rounds of chemo...then I can start healing.  It's hard to heal when you  are still in the midst of cancer and adversity.  I know there is light at the end of this dark, dark tunnel and I know there is a "plan" for me.  Maybe my "plan" is that I am supposed to adopt? I'm a preschool special ed. teacher and know I would be able to love someone else's child as my own.  I know all of this is making me stronger...it's making all of us stronger!!!  I won't give up until I am a "MOTHER"....some way, some how...I will be a "MOTHER".

[piggy2]

Wow, after reading your story you were right.  This should not be that hard.  My story is certainly nowhere near what you've had to go thru, but I'm sure we have both had those days and those feelings that make you feel as if you have reached the bottom.  The bottom of the barrel, the bottom of the ocean, underneath the rock that lays on the bottom of the ocean... you get it.  

It is not an easy journey.  I have prepared myself in someways to hope for the best, but anticipate the worst.  I am still glad that you and your hubby are ..... OK?  This takes a toll on everyone involved.  I guess what keeps me from running away giving up everything to go and work on an island in Borneo at an orangutan orphanage is this....

I know that the sum of my whole does not depend on me having a baby.  That just because someone can reproduce (or spawn) or whatever you want to call it  and I cannot does not make them a better person than me.  Just because my girlfriends are on their 2nd and 3rd babies and have no freggin clue what is going on in my heart-does that mean that god loves them more than me, or that I did something so horribly wrong to deserve this.  And to confirm this, all I need to do is turn on the news (Nancy Grace, or the other chic) or go to walmart and look around at all the people who "deserved" their babies.  Babies/children neglected, abused, abandoned, not loved..... you name it.   I live less than 30 mins from where they found little Caylee Anthony!

So when I get the invites for baby showers that I would have avoided earlier, hell yes I will go.  I am over getting upset at the tabloids for blasting the face of the next who's pregnant.  Go ahead, put the whole world up there but me....because this thing will not get the best of me!  

so good luck to you and it WILL make you feel better to vent....... tell us your whole history here.  We are not here to judge or belittle, and if we are than we have issues and should go to another site.   Hugs and best wishes for your treatment.  

[4everwealth]

Hello ladies.
Michellehawaii, it must really be hard for you and your DH. I know it must be hard but please do not give up. Getting pregnant and losing it is one thing but getting cancer, that's a really heavy cross to carry. I pray that when you have to start ttc again in about a year that you will be pleasantly blessed with a BFP. :). Please feel free to vent to us anytime.

hope_31, what can I say but good luck with the beta on the 1st of May. SSBD, lots of it.

[hope_31]

this is suc a hard journey,,,,we found out we were pregnant on our honeymoon 2years ago and sadly it ended ina m/c(blighted ovum) and so the journey began and we tried and elevated my hips after sex counted days peed on stick you name it and it didnt work. so we went to a fertility specialist and after all the test came back normal on both ends we did 2 iui's with clomid and nothing! so i had a laparoscopy (my 3rd )to check my endometriosis which wasnt bad.then  tried injectibles and a 3rd iui and bingo we got pregnant and things were going great until the 2nd u/s and we found the baby had stopped growing at 6weeks when we should have been 8weeks. needless to say we were devastated. had a d&c and started the path to ivf which freakin' ***** and is a very long process. we had the egg retieval april 17th and the transfer on april 20th and may 1st is the pregnancy test! i am petrified to be pregnant a 3rd time even though its our obvious goal!! after finding out we were pregnantin october for the 2nd time someone actualy said"see and you were worried for nothing!" almost punched them. people can be so insensitive just because they have never had to go thru this it is a real horrible thing and just "relaxing" is a freakin joke!! everyone aroundme is pregnant or a new mom and i just wat my turn. i feel so broken!!!

[hopefulgirl26]

I'am so sorry that you have to go threw this. Who would expect to get cancer from getting pregnant thats just so unfair to anybody : ( I wish you all the luck in the world with your TTC process and I hope you get that BFP that you've been waiting for. Good luck and take care.