I think I have herpes and I'm horrified

[Stressedo1]

1. I made the worst mistake of my life and had drunk unprotected sex with a stranger.
2. Day 2 I had the constant urge to urinate
3. Around day 10 I had pain in my genitals

I went to physician who did urine/ blood tests- normal results.
Also got tested for chlamydia/ghoneria which came back normal.
I also got a sonogram
Sonogram came back normal.
4. Day 40 and 41 and had intense pain in my genitals. It felt like built up pressure and I also had a burning/tingling sensation I've heard described on my penis. I was sure I would have sores- but none showed up. I also had split stream and slow urine stream

I did have a small, slightly raised red mark on my thigh. It did not itch or blister. I went to urologist and she told me it did not look like Herpes. Urologist checked me over to include prostate and said everything appeared normal.
5. It's day 50 now and I periodically feel pain in my urethra (I think). It a dull pain. It wakes me up at night. I've been trying to get tested for Herpes- but the urologist tried sending urine to lab 2 times- somehow she thought they could test urine? Very frustrating.

I go to my physician today and he will swab my urethra and take blood.

I was also able to get a hold of the stranger I had unprotected sex with a couple weeks ago. She got a STD panel and sent me results. I'm not sure what tests she got- but under HSV1 and HSV2- she had negative results.
Again- I don't know what tests were done but results were:
0.48 and 0.40. The scale was >0.90

I had sex with the love of my life (my wife) early on because I was feeling better and thought I was ok. At day 40 after my pain I can't work out anymore because I feel a very uncomfortable full bladder/pressure feeling.

When I felt my worst (day 40) I stopped having sex with my wife in fear that this was an "outbreak". I pray to God I haven't passed anything to her. Haven't told her about my one night stand and I've never cheated on her before and I want to die because my guilt is beyond belief.

Did anyone have a similar experience as far as symptoms? Any thoughts on her test results? I'm truly desperate at this point.

[HowardH]

Most pregnant women are not tested for herpes.

That's my last comment. Please re-read my replies above, suck it up, and move on.

[Stressedo1]

^ if I had HSV from a past encounter and presumably passed it to her that is...

[Stressedo1]

Last question- prior to making the worst decision of my life approximately 50 days ago, I was faithful to my wife. We had our child 6 years ago. Wouldn't HSV have been addressed in one of her tests during her pregnancy?

[HowardH]

By the way, good for your doctor and lab to steer you away from the IgM test, which is lousy -- lots of false positives, and not even good for its primary purpose, to distinguish early from late HSV infection. If you decide to test, for sure get IgG only.

[HowardH]

"What is your advice guys- do I take the IgG test or not?"

From a risk or symptoms standpoint, for sure there is no need. But only you can decide whether testing will help you move on. Feel free to be tested if you are prepared to deal with the possibility of a positive result that has nothing to do with your symptoms or the sexual exposure described above.

[johnny20]

I would get the igg test. If its hsv1 it is probably oral and you have likely had it a long time. If it is hsv2 you could of had it a long time but would be something you may want to disclose to your wife. I'm having my second igg test done this week (3 month) test this week. I know I have hsv1 but just confirming negative for hsv2.