I think I have herpes and I'm horrified

[Stressedo1]

1. I made the worst mistake of my life and had drunk unprotected sex with a stranger.
2. Day 2 I had the constant urge to urinate
3. Around day 10 I had pain in my genitals

I went to physician who did urine/ blood tests- normal results.
Also got tested for chlamydia/ghoneria which came back normal.
I also got a sonogram
Sonogram came back normal.
4. Day 40 and 41 and had intense pain in my genitals. It felt like built up pressure and I also had a burning/tingling sensation I've heard described on my penis. I was sure I would have sores- but none showed up. I also had split stream and slow urine stream

I did have a small, slightly raised red mark on my thigh. It did not itch or blister. I went to urologist and she told me it did not look like Herpes. Urologist checked me over to include prostate and said everything appeared normal.
5. It's day 50 now and I periodically feel pain in my urethra (I think). It a dull pain. It wakes me up at night. I've been trying to get tested for Herpes- but the urologist tried sending urine to lab 2 times- somehow she thought they could test urine? Very frustrating.

I go to my physician today and he will swab my urethra and take blood.

I was also able to get a hold of the stranger I had unprotected sex with a couple weeks ago. She got a STD panel and sent me results. I'm not sure what tests she got- but under HSV1 and HSV2- she had negative results.
Again- I don't know what tests were done but results were:
0.48 and 0.40. The scale was >0.90

I had sex with the love of my life (my wife) early on because I was feeling better and thought I was ok. At day 40 after my pain I can't work out anymore because I feel a very uncomfortable full bladder/pressure feeling.

When I felt my worst (day 40) I stopped having sex with my wife in fear that this was an "outbreak". I pray to God I haven't passed anything to her. Haven't told her about my one night stand and I've never cheated on her before and I want to die because my guilt is beyond belief.

Did anyone have a similar experience as far as symptoms? Any thoughts on her test results? I'm truly desperate at this point.

[Stressedo1]

Thanks for your response and you're right. I need a proper diagnosis. For you and anyone else reading - my main concerns are this:

1. I've read Herpes tests are very unreliable..
A. Will a swab of my urethra provide accurate results?
B. Is it too early for a blood test in my case (50 days after exposure)?

2. I've heard that even though my partner tested negative- she could have still passed the virus to me?

After reading about this virus, it scares me more as to how "elusive" it is. It hides and reappears, has symptoms/doesn't have symptoms. Scary.

I'm mainly concerned because herpes or not- I can't understand why I've been in pain or uncomfortable for so long. I am extremely stressed/anxious, but I've never had a feeling like this before and it starting after my first (only) unprotected sex event has to be more than a coincidence.

[HowardH]

Herpes isn't an issue here. Genital herpes doesn't cause the sort of symptoms you have had, and your partner's negative test is proof you weren't exposed.

You'll have to continue to work with your doctor about the cause of your symptoms. To me, they sound typical for anxiety and stress, and it is unlikely you have anything that will ever cause harm to you or any future sex partners. But that's something to confirm with your doctor, not through this or any other online forum.