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FORGIVENESS...where do you stand??
Forgiveness...where do you stand on forgiveness, what do you forgive, is there anything that you cannot forgive??? Do we have to forgive everyone in order to get forgiveness ourselves?? I have struggled with this issue for a very long time, and I have even searched on the internet for "how to" forgive, sort of a step by step instruction guide...everyone talks about forgiveness, but, no one really tells you how to do it...any thoughts???
You know I was thinking about this today and how I pray for those people that we need to forgive. Obviously they are the ones who need our prayers !
Nor should we forget. Forgiveness yes, forget it no. Who needs a do over!
I agree with TrudieC that forgiveness is a "healing of the soul". When you forgive someone, it isn't about them.... it is more about yourself and moving on. The person(s) that you forgive, do not need to be aware that you forgave them and it doesn't mean that you will ever speak with them again. It just means that you have realized that holding on to that anger isn't helping you in any way, so it is time to let go of that... for yourself.
Forgiveness is a healing of the soul. When I was younger I was so angry at my parents, at my abusive ex-husband, and at an unethical ex-boss. The wisdom of age has tought me to understand and examine the reasons and lessons from things in my past.
Kids don't come with a manual and our parents do the best they can with what they have in tough circumstances. I've learned that when someone is mentally ill to not take their actions and words personally. By giving my understanding and forgiveness I have built a strong and loving relationship with my stepmother. My father did not protect me from her but I have forgiven him as he was scared of losing what he had. My mother abandoned me when I was young and I have forgiven her even though I do not agree with the decisions she made in her life. Over the years I have learned why my ex-husband acted the way he did and how he learned those behaviours as well as my role in enabling them (there is no excuse for abuse but there it doesn't mean you should allow it and I did for too long). I had years of hate for an ex-boss who cheated me from money but I now appreciate the lessons - both positive and negative that I learned in that position and it has made me a stronger business person.
I can happily say that I have forgiven all but one person in my life and I am working on finding a reason or way to do this. It is amazing how relaxed you are and the reduction in stress in your life that happens when you forgive and let these past issues go.
Kids don't come with a manual and our parents do the best they can with what they have in tough circumstances. I've learned that when someone is mentally ill to not take their actions and words personally. By giving my understanding and forgiveness I have built a strong and loving relationship with my stepmother. My father did not protect me from her but I have forgiven him as he was scared of losing what he had. My mother abandoned me when I was young and I have forgiven her even though I do not agree with the decisions she made in her life. Over the years I have learned why my ex-husband acted the way he did and how he learned those behaviours as well as my role in enabling them (there is no excuse for abuse but there it doesn't mean you should allow it and I did for too long). I had years of hate for an ex-boss who cheated me from money but I now appreciate the lessons - both positive and negative that I learned in that position and it has made me a stronger business person.
I can happily say that I have forgiven all but one person in my life and I am working on finding a reason or way to do this. It is amazing how relaxed you are and the reduction in stress in your life that happens when you forgive and let these past issues go.
wow what a wonderful post, about forgivness, I can forgive, even my husband hes already been forgiven, the problem I have is I cant forget,,,and Ive developed this theory I believe that when someone does something wrong , it shows you what they are capable of and anything done once can be done again,
forgiving is a wonderful thing it lifts loads of pounds of heaviness of your shoulders, and we can not expect to be forgiven if we can not forgive.
forgiving is a wonderful thing it lifts loads of pounds of heaviness of your shoulders, and we can not expect to be forgiven if we can not forgive.
Forgive the person who hurt you and did wrong to you and you shall heap coals of fire upon his head. Linda's translation of the bible here folks! When you harbor ill feelings and refuse to forgive someone, you block god from working in that situation. This is one reason people think god did not answer there prayers. There can be nothing between you and god when you ask him for help. Like April says if you need help forgiving, go thru the action and ask god for the feeling.
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