Fallen in Love!!

[Prince85]

I reaaly need some piece of advice.

I have fallen in love with a colleaque back at work.

She is a very nice person & I guess I mainly started liking her because of her simplicity & down to earth nature.

She has although joined the office since only a few months & initially i did not interact much with her except for a 'hi' / 'hello' on a few occassions. Now since nearly more than 2 weeks or so, we get to speak for atleast a few minutes each day, say like kind of once in 2 days. So in other words, things have only progressed slightly more than just saying hi.

I really strongly feel that she is the kind of a person that would complete me & without her in my life, things would be difficult for me. I really like her so much, that I dont mind doing anything for her. I dont mind changing my attitude & incase she states that therez something that she does not like about me, I dont mind changing just for her. For example I have a very shy nature. I am also too damn self resserved kind of a person. I dont mind requesting her for some kind of a time period & within that time frame, I would change myself just the way she would prefer my nature to be. Ultimately I am sure that I really love her as I have never had this kind of a feeling for anyone else. I would like to take great care of her & would surely look into it that I am able to give her all the happiness in the world that she needs.

Now, I dont know how to approach her with this regards.

Itz just that there are 2 things. My main concern is, what if, if she rejects me & due to that she may even stop talking to me for the rest of my life. Secondly my other main concern is, I have a few health probs, for example I have lost nearly 85% of vison in my left eye & I also have some kind of a weired stiffness in the body muscles for a few moments at times. So probably this makes me feel that I should not approach her & spoil her life.

Please tell me what should I do. She really is very important to me. Previously since so many years, I kept having a strong feeling that if death comes by my way, I would not care a damn about it. But now I want to live in this world, just to be with her.

So how do I go upto her.

I am from India, & back here people are slightly conservative as well. Although these days the generation is changing & she is also kind of broad minded person.

So how is the best way I should approach to her & what exactly do I convey to her.

Do you think itz best for me to convey things to her this way stating that I like her & I can do anything for her. & at that moment should I tell her that I can go upto the extent of working out and changing my attitude just for her. Or do you think I should not approach her & let go in the hope that she may find a much much much better person than me.

What should I do??

Please help.

Remember this is the first time I have fallen in love. I believe that love happens only once in a lifetime. So if by chance she accepts to spend the rest of her life with me, then I would go upto any extent to make sure our relationship work & we continue to be together forever.

Your precious reply would be awaited.

Thank you.

[AHP84]

Well, to start, I'm not entirely sure how the cultural aspects of falling in love and maintaining a relationship before a marriage goes in India. However, I'll give you my advice according to how it's generally done in America (I hope it helps you a little).

First of all, if you feel this is the first time being in love, I have to say it...you're not. It's called infatuation, a "crush." There's nothing wrong with this, it's very normal, and if all goes well with the person of your affections, it can turn into love. But right now, what you feel is a desire to be with this young woman whom you've elevated to everything you want her to be in your mind, but you don't know her all that well as a person. You haven't said how long you've been aquainted with her, but to go from only "hi/hello" to feeling like you can't live without her and you'd change your personality for her in just two weeks is too fast to have genuinely fallen that deeply in love, especially since the speaking terms haven't progressed too much beyond "hi/hello."
Next, if I understand correctly, the extent of what you know about her as a person is that she is "kind of a broad minded person." That's good, but what else do you know that would be important to consider for a relationship? For instance, what are her religious beliefs? What are her political viewpoints? How is her relationship with her family? What kinds of friends and people does she associate with? What sort of  interests does she have? What is her personality like when she's in a situation that's difficult to handle--how would she hold up?
These are all extremely important things to consider before getting deeply involved with someone or committing your life to them. She may seem wonderful now, but that's because you can imagine her as everything you want her to be since you don't know her all that well as herself yet.
Lastly, you sound like you have a very giving and kind-hearted spirit. This is good. Women appreciate this; to them, these types of personality traits are in the top priority of qualities and attractiveness they look for in a man with whom they want to share their life. However, this can easily turn into a negative thing for you if you're not careful, because you don't want to appear as if you have no assertiveness and you can be easily taken advantage of and manipulated.
You've gone into great detail of how you would change everything about yourself for this woman. Why? You have every right to be who you are and have no shame in your God-given personality. Some people are shy--they still can marry into a wonderful relationship. Some people are quick to conform and others are extremely stubborn--they still can marry into a wonderful relationship. Some people have disabilities--they can still marry into a wonderful relationship.
You should be careful of how willing you are to make yourself into anything she wants you to be. Changing some things about yourself is a good thing; it shows maturity and respect for yourself and others. But to be willing to change anything and everything is a really bad idea. If you want a healthy relationship with someone, you have to love and respect yourself enough to be the person you are, as you are, for them. And if they don't appreciate and respect you as you are as a person, they are not worth your time, because believe me, you'll never be good enough for them.
So my advice to you for pursuing this woman is this: try to extend your conversations with her a little at a time. Find out more about her, about who she is and what she's like rather than who you THINK she is. Ask her if she'd like to go to lunch with you or go get coffee before work one morning. Just talk to her and get to know her.
And lower your expectations of the potential of the relationship until you find out more about her. You really shouldn't feel like she is your reason to live just yet, because what if she really isn't interested in you--you'll be devastated, and no one should feel like life isn't worth living without a person whom they barely know. You're young and still have so much opportunity ahead in your life.
Right now your main focus with her should be just getting to know her because you're attracted to her. Let yourself fall in love if the circumstances allow AFTER you know her a little better.
Best wishes to you!