wife left/worried

[finsfan4ever]

Not sure its a question but here goes....
I came to this web site three years ago with a terrible hydrocodone addiction, and after 12 long days of withdrawls, and working hard at it, I am 3 years clean. I have been happily married for twenty years (last month), and I did say happily!
I came home from work yesterday, and she was gone. All of her stuff and about $90,000 from our savings account.
I am devistated. We never argued, fought, nothing. We had made love the night before, and discussed vacation plans in the hot tub that morning. Now shes gone! Turned off her phone and just gone.....
I am concerned about my sobriety. Went to a meeting this morning, and I think it helped.
I'm not sure if I just want to know "why", or if something else is going on....
Everyone here has always had my back, and I credit them every day for saving my life 3 years ago.....
Please help me..................

[Merri123]

I' m so sorry this has happened. All you can do is send her a message and ask why. Very simply. You have your reasons but can you just tell me why.   And safe guard any money that is left in your accounts. Get to the bank and open an account in your name and move it there.

But you did the right thing. You went to a meeting. Keep going as much as you need too go. Keep yourself busy. Reorganize the house, keep working, get outside. The more you sit the more you think and get upset and get tempted.

I know this is hard. It drinks!!!  Just put yourself first right now. Lean on your family and friends for an ear and support. It will get easier. It will. Maybe with time you will work things out. If not, you have to keep moving forward. We are here.

[Merri123]

It stinks.  Not drinks. Sorry.

[tooter212]

Finsfan, I doesn't much worse than this, as if you had to be told that.. I don't have any answers, just want you to know there is another one praying for you. Please don't take any pills. later, down the road you would just have to go through WD'S again. You remember how depressed you were then? We're all pulling for you. God Bless you

[finsfan4ever]

Yes, I own the house. I am afraid if I hire a lawyer, it's the REAL end, and I want to believe she'll come back.....I guess I'm not thinking very clearly, I got no sleep and no food since yesterday morning....

[finsfan4ever]

I guess.... I had sent her numerous texts and voice mails while I was going crazy yesterday, but it seemed kinda pathetic and desperate...although I think thats what I am right now...pathetic and desperate....
I WISH I had some family or friends, but my family has all died, and honestly, my wife was my best and only friend. We did everything together
thanks for caring and for being there.

[finsfan4ever]

thanks tooter,
yeah,im kinda devastated right now... feeling so alone...thanks for the prayer and kind words. I do remember the wd's like it was yesterday