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wife left/worried
Not sure its a question but here goes....
I came to this web site three years ago with a terrible hydrocodone addiction, and after 12 long days of withdrawls, and working hard at it, I am 3 years clean. I have been happily married for twenty years (last month), and I did say happily!
I came home from work yesterday, and she was gone. All of her stuff and about $90,000 from our savings account.
I am devistated. We never argued, fought, nothing. We had made love the night before, and discussed vacation plans in the hot tub that morning. Now shes gone! Turned off her phone and just gone.....
I am concerned about my sobriety. Went to a meeting this morning, and I think it helped.
I'm not sure if I just want to know "why", or if something else is going on....
Everyone here has always had my back, and I credit them every day for saving my life 3 years ago.....
Please help me..................
I came to this web site three years ago with a terrible hydrocodone addiction, and after 12 long days of withdrawls, and working hard at it, I am 3 years clean. I have been happily married for twenty years (last month), and I did say happily!
I came home from work yesterday, and she was gone. All of her stuff and about $90,000 from our savings account.
I am devistated. We never argued, fought, nothing. We had made love the night before, and discussed vacation plans in the hot tub that morning. Now shes gone! Turned off her phone and just gone.....
I am concerned about my sobriety. Went to a meeting this morning, and I think it helped.
I'm not sure if I just want to know "why", or if something else is going on....
Everyone here has always had my back, and I credit them every day for saving my life 3 years ago.....
Please help me..................
I am so glad you found me.
Yeah, they moved the thread and not everyone found me. But everyone here is wonderful!
Do you really want to go back and read the rants of a lunatic? lol
I am ok, took a week off, now back to work...
Stay in touch,okay?
Thank You for being so kind...
Yeah, they moved the thread and not everyone found me. But everyone here is wonderful!
Do you really want to go back and read the rants of a lunatic? lol
I am ok, took a week off, now back to work...
Stay in touch,okay?
Thank You for being so kind...
I understand what you mean about routine and normalcy. The biggest problem with that is NOTHING is routine or normal at work. I can't really explain, but what I do requires anonymity, travel and isolationism.
I'm on a plane now, and probably not more than two people even know where I'm going. I guess what I am trying to say is it is hard sometimes to apply the advice that people give me, when in their mind I have a "normal" life.
Stuff was returned to my attorney, and a mediation is set for the end of July I think.
I do okay for a few hours, and then a basket case for a few...
I feel stupid that it still bothers me, its been 18 days, get over it already!
But she was my world for twenty years... it hurts a lot.
If she had been miserable leading up to this, or I was, or I was out late drinking and whoring around all the time, or if I was abusive or demeaning, I probably would've been able to wrap my head around it and be over her by now.
Anyways, have to close now, I am grateful you took the time to give me a pep talk, luv you.
I'm on a plane now, and probably not more than two people even know where I'm going. I guess what I am trying to say is it is hard sometimes to apply the advice that people give me, when in their mind I have a "normal" life.
Stuff was returned to my attorney, and a mediation is set for the end of July I think.
I do okay for a few hours, and then a basket case for a few...
I feel stupid that it still bothers me, its been 18 days, get over it already!
But she was my world for twenty years... it hurts a lot.
If she had been miserable leading up to this, or I was, or I was out late drinking and whoring around all the time, or if I was abusive or demeaning, I probably would've been able to wrap my head around it and be over her by now.
Anyways, have to close now, I am grateful you took the time to give me a pep talk, luv you.
I FINALLY found this thread. been wondering how you are doing for days, weeks now and today i just happened to click on 'addiction:social' and here it is.
i am too new to this site to understand how it works and don't really 'know' anyone here yet. just wanted to let you know that i still care, just couldn't find you.
now i got some reading to do to catch up.
hope you are doing well
i am too new to this site to understand how it works and don't really 'know' anyone here yet. just wanted to let you know that i still care, just couldn't find you.
now i got some reading to do to catch up.
hope you are doing well
Trying to maintain your normalcy will help you a lot. It sounds silly, but that daily routine creates stability and consistency, which will help keep you on a steady course emotionally. It will help to keep anxiety and feelings of depression in check. Distraction is an amazing tool. Truly.
So, did your wife ever surrender the guns and cash? Have you talked to your lawyer? Has there been any further negotiations between the attorneys?
I'm pulling for you to get through this, and come out on top. I have NO doubt that you will. You're WAY stronger than you know. And you need to be SUPER proud of yourself for NOT turning back to using to get you through this. That's awesome!
XOXO
So, did your wife ever surrender the guns and cash? Have you talked to your lawyer? Has there been any further negotiations between the attorneys?
I'm pulling for you to get through this, and come out on top. I have NO doubt that you will. You're WAY stronger than you know. And you need to be SUPER proud of yourself for NOT turning back to using to get you through this. That's awesome!
XOXO
Well work is still where I left it.. funny how that is.
Work for me is different than most people. 99.9% of what I do is done alone.
Funny, but I'm more isolated at work than anywhere else.
Time consuming though...therapist called and cancelled today, had an emergency! I wanted to tell her I was an emergency. Not back till Friday. wtf? I need a new therapist. I'M REALLY TRYING HERE!
Lulu, your post touched me, and gives me a ray of hope that someday I will NOT feel like this...I have no way of thanking you for your kindness, you are always talking to me when I need it the most. Your partner must be very special to have found someone with such a great heart.
I'm gonna hold you to that pinkie-promise, k?
Deb,
lol@ batman....you GET what I mean about work...do have to go on a business trip probably Saturday. Not sure if thats good or bad.
thanks for the thoughts and hugs...Love you
fin
Work for me is different than most people. 99.9% of what I do is done alone.
Funny, but I'm more isolated at work than anywhere else.
Time consuming though...therapist called and cancelled today, had an emergency! I wanted to tell her I was an emergency. Not back till Friday. wtf? I need a new therapist. I'M REALLY TRYING HERE!
Lulu, your post touched me, and gives me a ray of hope that someday I will NOT feel like this...I have no way of thanking you for your kindness, you are always talking to me when I need it the most. Your partner must be very special to have found someone with such a great heart.
I'm gonna hold you to that pinkie-promise, k?
Deb,
lol@ batman....you GET what I mean about work...do have to go on a business trip probably Saturday. Not sure if thats good or bad.
thanks for the thoughts and hugs...Love you
fin
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