Quite honestly, your a whole lot kinder to him than I would have been. I'd be getting him blood tested for STD & HIV before letting him near me, as you say he's been on drugs and having an affair. Only one? Take blessed good care of you and your boys as well...WOMAN first, MOTHER second, WIFE third. Be smart. You cannot make his life bright if he isn't up to facing whatever has turned him back, more than once.
If he is going to be keeping straight...the only way for him to prove it is to get to a clinic/Doc for his blood tests, and to a Psychologist or some certified drug counselor. Go for marriage counselling when ready to re-commit. But the only way to help him, is to be a strong intelligent woman who LOVES HERSELF.
Best wishes in all your recoveries. Your the one needing the hugs right now. Good luck my Dear.
thank you so much for the advice. I have given him vitamins, and ensure drinks plus just making sure that we have lots of healthy foods in the house. I read somewhere that you should limit sugars while detoxing and caffeine. He lost about 40lbs in the past four months and yes he is extremely weak. it has only been three days since he has been home and four days since his last use. he has several friends here that do not use drugs at all and the ones he was using with have all moved out the area. he is complaining alot of lower back pain and stomach pain. I assume the stomach pain is primarily due to getting used to having food in his stomach.
Yeah....Im like Weaver, its been a long time since I used meth but I do remember the come down. It takes time. Weaver gave great advice...the only thing I will add is to encourage some physical exercise. I know from personal experience that my body would recover faster when I exercised. Im sure he just wants to sleep it all off but the physical part of the recovery process will take a lot longer. A nice walk...some pushups.....something. :)
Good luck
Give him good nutrition, vitamin, amino acids, and EmergenC. Those will help his body have what it needs to heal. The body makes it's own speed, but stops during addictive use. It is like intense for him due to the fact he has a history with the drug and his brain remembers that. We go back to where we left of when we start again. Give him space. Once he starts to get up and move around, he will still be low energy. That is when he needs to go to NA, Church, counseling, anything he can to deal with why he ended up where he is. Quitting for someone else rarely sticks. He has to realize he is doing it for himself, that he wants a better life. If any of his old using buddies are clean now, it would be helpful to call them. You are in a tough place, give him a little time, but don't let him suck you into that world. Meetings will help him make new friends and see happy people off of drugs. It will take awhile to make new sober memories to get him back on track. I haven't used meth for a long time, but definitely remember the crash. It's kindof a waiting game right now.