This is such a cool thread! So many of the people who make up the backbone of this forum came on to say something. There's so many good ideas, so much support and understanding. I've read through it several times and learned something new each time. Each post reveals a lot about each individual's perspective, but all have the common thread of genuinely caring about your welfare. Good for you that you knew to post publicly at this particular time and juncture, it bodes well for you!
I am so glad you realize how much you are cared about, and how much you mean to this community. If we didn't have you, then a piece of the puzzle would be missing, and you know how important each puzzle piece is to the overall picture. Take care!
As I wrote in a PM this morning, (& I'm ashamed of thinking this) but I posted w/ trepidation as I pretty much believed no one would want to/be able to respond to this before it disappeared. All day yesterday, ache I've been experiencing in my heart center, (a painful physical tightness in my chest & occasionally in my gut) intensified. When I got home @ 1 am this morning & opened the thread I was totally overwhelmed by the number & quality of comments as well as the care expressed in them.
Something shifted off my heart & lungs as I read through the thread & yes, I was moved to silent tears.I felt 'broken open'. I felt a measure of relief, of contact/support that I haven't truly felt in months & I just don't know what to say right now except, thank you, thank you -- Each & Every One of you. What a gift..........
I hope to respond to you individually in the next couple of days. Once again, it's been brought home to me how very blessed & honored I've been to have found MH & all of you.
With a full heart,
Annie
Annie, if I may call you that. :o}
Oh my gosh dear girl, what a treasure you are. I'm not familiar with your
complete story, but after reading this thread I have a pretty good idea what a gift you are to this world.
You are an incredibly strong soul, giving and caring and so intelligent. I suspect one of the reasons this is true is because of your personal journey.
Every single thing that has happened to you in the past has a direct connection to that immensly valuable, sweet, kind person you have become
and are today.
I don't think it's news to you that servitude and pouring yourself into others is a great way to alter what you see through your own microscope. I think you do that as much as you can. Unfortunately, life "undulates", and when we're approaching, then entering that "down dip" it's so difficult if not impossible to see what's happening above us. Holding our breath and trusting that soon we will be able to breathe again as we rise up to embrace, rejoice then prepare for the next dip down. Thank God we get
reprieve, even for just a bit. Take that time to nurture yourself in any and
all the ways you would do for others. As we all benefit from the essence of Annie, when Annie is taken care of.
I'm sorry for the pain and angst you have had and are going through now. You've got some wonderful truthful posts above with more valuable advice than I could ever give. Although just words, I'm hoping you can use them as a life preserver and just hang on till the storm passes.
You are loved, respected and valued. You hold a very important place in this world.
love and hugs
Janice. xo
Oh, sweet Annie, I am so glad you posted this. Reaching out here is a good sign that you will fight for your recovery. I know it is hard to put it all out there. First, I am so sorry for all you have had to deal with in this last year. I can't imagine how hard it has been, the uncertainty of your living situation, and your unwavering compassion for others, it must be so painful, I am sorry. As far as the assault, I am so angry this happened to you, and I hope the person responsible will be punished, I don't know if you pressed charges, or not. But please talk to someone about this, a counselor if possible. I hurt for you. You are an amazing gift to all of us here, and unfortunately that can lead to neglecting ourselves. I really think, along with many others before me, you should find a support group, however that may look. The fellowship is unparalleled for an addict, this is the face to face support that we need, friend. The contact, the understanding of people who know right where you are and have been. Another thing, and this may not be an option for you right now, but I have been thinking of doing some volunteer work. Some different things have been speaking to me (not literally, lol) and I feel like I need to go serve someone who is less fortunate than I, and there is always someone less fortunate than us in one way or another. But I feel like it feeds our souls to help others. Just a thought. Anyway, I hope you feel better, love, I hate that you have been struggling so hard. Please take care of you.
Love,
Allison
Annie girl, I'm so glad you posted about your struggles! I know it had to be HARD because you are like me, we don't like to "bother" people when we struggle...but i'm glad you purged it and now maybe you can start to heal...I think the job will surely help you...hopefully you will meet and make some new friends...i (as you know) tend to isolate as well...but getting out of our comfort zone will help so much...it has me for sure...wishing nothing but peace and some "fire" back in your spirit girl...you really do deserve the best of the best...i'm always around if you need to talk/vent.