Finally threw him out

[problemboyfriend]

My boyfriend started doing oxy three years ago, when his father was prescribed oyi 20's, 2 per day, plus 200 of Percocet per month. My boyfriend took him to the appointments. He never let his father take any of the oxy - instead he started snorting it. He lets his father have some of the percocet but he took most of that, too. He kept getting his dad's doctor to up the dose, but then the dad went into the hospital. So he went to the street.  He has been buying oxy when he can, morphine when he can't. Withdraws when he can't get either, but then always has an excuse to get back on.  He has gone through all his savings and then some.
The disruption to my life has been huge.He's either high as hell, or withdrawing, or sick from too much. We can't plan anything. We haven't had sex in two years. I spend a lot of time trying to help - researching methodone clinics, trying to get him on health insurance - learning about alternatives, Thomas recipe, hypnosis, but he doesn't really help me hemp him - unless he's run out.

He keeps saying that he wants to quit, but can't do it alone. He doesn't want to get "caught in the system" so is afraid to go to a clinic. His latest was he had planned for "hell week", but that's next week after this project he's got to do is finished.

Still, I'm worried and scared for him. He's out there now with nothing - no friends, no money, no place to stay, just a car. Am I doing the right thing?  

[problemboyfriend]

This foum has been really helpful. Unfortunately, everything people said was true. I didn't think it had to come to this, but I guess it has to.

[shiningstar500]

Sadly you can not make him quit. He will have to do it on his own. We are doing the tough love thing on my nephew which means if he has to sleep in his car, then he will have to. If we let him stay with us and pay the bills, why would he want to get better when we are taking care of him. I hope it works out for you but if he doesnt want to quit you can't make him! Good luck!!