Help~

[BearsFan1966]

Ok so my son broke his big toe and needs to have pins or screws put in it!  His surgery is next Wed. and guess what they are giving him....Norco! uggggg My DOC!!! I have had the script for 2 weeks now and have been very strong and have not gotten it filled yet he has 1 refill also!
I think... no I know I can do this! 141 days I do not want to fail! Just need some prayers to stay strong!
My plan is to have him keep the meds he is 14 and hates to take even asprin for a headache! He knows my struggles and is worried about me and really does not want to take them but I told him he will be in a lot of pain! I trust him with them as he has seen my struggles and I have been honest with him from day 1. My daughter was going to come stay with us but just got a new job......I'm sorry just needed to vent and be open~
love you all and so proud of us all!

[BearsFan1966]

Thank you so much for your response!

[BearsFan1966]

Thank you so much for your response!

[BearsFan1966]

I deff will not let him suffer and he knows that! Thanks for the info and great advise!

[Pat1956100]

Did you look for them?

[madge23]

Another thought I had is for your husband to put your son's tabs in various places around the house and then your husband could maybe text your son and tell him where the tablets are when it's time for his dose?? My partner hid my tablets this way and when he was at work he would text one of our 17 year old sons to get me what I was meant to take at the time I was meant to take them - I still don't know where the tablets were hidden and the 3 of them will never tell me !!!!  Best wishes to your son, I hope he recovers quickly.

[madge23]

Hi,
      would it be possible for your pharmacist to dispense his tablets to him daily?? I know this is a bit of a hassle, but at least there wouldn't be such a large amount of tablets around the house and so maybe that would reduce the temptation?? you have done so well, I am only on day 5 of being codeine free, and frankly, I think you are an inspiration!!!!  Stay strong, I believe in you.xx.

[nursegirl6572]

Great point broken!  

BF-Fingers crossed he breezes through it all!

[brokenspiritandsoul]

My niece (I have custody of so basically my daughter) had this surgery done about 5 years ago. She has a very high pain tolerance too and hates taking any kind of medicine because her mother is a heroin addict. She was in a lot of pain for the first week and was refusing to take the pain meds so she made her recovery a lot harder than it should have been. Please make sure your son knows that it is ok to take the pain meds when you are actually in pain!  I would hate for him to suffer because he is afraid of becoming addicted!  My kids are scared of them too because of my addiction. Breaks my heart to know that I caused that!  I think having the daily dose given to you by his dad and the log book are great ideas!  You can do this!  

[BearsFan1966]

Thank you everyone! Great to have such support!
Nursegirl great idea with the log! My son has a very high tolerance for pain so I know he wont be taking them very long and with seeing what I went threw he said he doesnt want to take them at all! I told him he will be in a lot of pain for the first few days so he will need them! The dr gave him a script for 30 with a refill! For a 14 year old I feel that is a lot but I am not a dr! lol
I will keep you all posted his surgery is Wed afternoon....

[Sonrissa]

Hey BearsFan! Gosh I'm so sorry to hear about your son. I hope he recovers quickly.  I think having his dad control the meds is a very good solution. I am hoping, as was mentioned, that he will only need the Norco for a short time, and then you can put this issue away.

Stay strong, and keep focused on getting your son recovered and well. You can do this. Let us know how he and you are doing. Take care!

[Heather8448]

Pray meditate. do u go to meetings? if so or if not do u have a trusted friend who can hold the meds and give them as needed?

[nursegirl6572]

I wanted to add that while he most certainly will have pain, he probably won't need the Norco too long.  After a few days to a week, OTC pain meds should be keeping him fairly comfortable.  Just keep that in mind and when you've both identified that he doesn't need them anymore, time to either let his Dad dispose of them, or you guys do it together.

[nursegirl6572]

I think your plan of having his Dad doll out only the daily amount is a good idea, and maybe you could add even another layer of "security" by keeping a little logbook that you and your son BOTH have to initial?  Like, when his Dad brings the pills, you could write "5 pills", and the date and time, with both of your initials.  Then, when he takes them, do the same.  If there are any left over at the end of the day, you could sign off on those too, and then when Dad brings the next day's worth, you wouldn't have a bunch of excess pills.

You're wise to be worried, that's what helps you keep your guard up.  While I know sometimes it may seem easier to try to just block stuff like that out and limit your exposure, I think the log book may be a good idea.  That will keep you accountable to both you and your son.  

Good luck...wishing him a speedy recovery!

[BearsFan1966]

Thanks my boot kicking Spider! I know what you mean about being around them my step mom takes a lot of pain pills (she knows of my problem) but its so hard when she is always complaining about pain! I just want to tell her to stop taking them and she will feel better but I just keep my mouth shut!
love you girl!

[spider6]

Hey sweetie, sorry to hear of your sons issue, thus your issue.  Visited my dad a few weeks ago.....he is sick and was given Oxys he doesn't take them normally nor will he now on a continued basis but, he needed them this one time and took one and got high and was telling us about it and laughing, (he doesn't know about my drug issues, we're not close, physically or mentally, so there's no chance for me to use him for drugs).  He actually went and got the pill bottle to show my husband.....I just looked away.  I didn't really want them........just really aware of the odd irony.  Anyway......you got this.  Btw, I think your son would have been fine, considering how much he knows and how close you are.  I guess though, there's maturity level and what's acceptable to have them exposed to......I think it's subjective to circumstance.  Love you girl.......there's no shakin a bear down! Rooaaar! Hugs xo

[BearsFan1966]

thank you and no I will not let him have them I have decided that was a bad thought!

[Today30]

Hi .. Wow what a true test this will be but you CAN do it..!!!
I'm not judging but I also agree that I don't think it's the best idea to have the 14 yr old hold on to those powerful drugs..
Keep focused and you will get through this!

[BearsFan1966]

Thanks my Bubble!

[Bubbleguppie100]

That's a great idea! Good thinking Bear! :)

[BearsFan1966]

I think what I am going to do is have his dad keep them and just leave the amount he will need during the day? I dont want to have my mom have to drive over 2 times a day....Hopefully this sounds like a plan! I do not have any cravings but maybe I would knowing they are here! I would hope I would not take his meds but we all know how strong this addiction can be!
Thank you all for your support!

[Bubbleguppie100]

Hmmm... can you ask your mom to hold onto your sons pills?

[clean_in_ks]

Maybe I'm like totally "off" here on my memory...but doesn't your Mom.....your son's grandma now live 5 minutes away? (or at least close by)  She'd probably be honored to help out wouldn't she?  Is she able?

[ImDONENoMore]

Hi Bear -

Try to give this some more thought and see if there isn't someone, anyone, who can help you through this after he comes home from surgery.  You have come so far, and you don't want to put yourself at risk.  And more importantly, your son will need those meds, so you don't want to do something you know you will regret forever.

And I think you know, deep down inside, that giving your 14 year old the meds to manage on his own is a bad idea.  Even if he doesn't have any addiction issues, he is only 14.  :) (oh and good for you for posting your concerns on this!)

[BearsFan1966]

no one that is close to my house